Is he just trying to get to me or what's this sound like??!!

July 28, 2009

OK, I'm having a BAD morning. Woke up with the knots in stomach worse than ever, and just angry. If you don't already know my story, my ex disappeared about 3 weeks ago or so after an argument. He never said goodbye or nothing. Anyways, I've been having this problem with avoiding checking out his pages on the net. I mentioned before that I was on facebook looking at his page, then I finally deleted my account. He does have myspace, but he was hardly going on there. It appeared to me he was logging in maybe every 10 days or so.

I noticed the past week or so, he has been going on myspace much more often. He never changes the mood status, but suddenly today it says he logged in and the mood is of all things BLESSED?? Of course, I'm thinking how is he F***** blessed. Blessed to have me out of his life? LOL. I know for a fact he isn't dating someone because a friend told me. What else could he be that blissful about? Anyways, this makes me furious. On my page, I don't really have a mood, but I have this cute smiley face, and a cute picture of me up. Maybe he saw it, and is trying to bug me? I don't know, he could not even be thinking of me, but I think its weird he suddenly is on myspace again and changing his mood, which hasn't been changed in months! What do you think? Does it sound like he may be trying to get to me?

July 28, 2009

OK, I'm having a BAD morning. Woke up with the knots in stomach worse than ever, and just angry. If you don't already know my story, my ex disappeared about 3 weeks ago or so after an argument. He never said goodbye or nothing. Anyways, I've been having this problem with avoiding checking out his pages on the net. I mentioned before that I was on facebook looking at his page, then I finally deleted my account. He does have myspace, but he was hardly going on there. It appeared to me he was logging in maybe every 10 days or so.

I noticed the past week or so, he has been going on myspace much more often. He never changes the mood status, but suddenly today it says he logged in and the mood is of all things BLESSED?? Of course, I'm thinking how is he F***** blessed. Blessed to have me out of his life? LOL. I know for a fact he isn't dating someone because a friend told me. What else could he be that blissful about? Anyways, this makes me furious. On my page, I don't really have a mood, but I have this cute smiley face, and a cute picture of me up. Maybe he saw it, and is trying to bug me? I don't know, he could not even be thinking of me, but I think its weird he suddenly is on myspace again and changing his mood, which hasn't been changed in months! What do you think? Does it sound like he may be trying to get to me?

Honestly, you need to stop cyber stalking him. It's going to keep you from healing.

Who knows what he is doing, but it won't help you to keep trying to guess.

You need to stay off those sites for a while and distract yourself.

July 28, 2009

Honestly, you need to stop cyber stalking him. It's going to keep you from healing.
Who knows what he is doing, but it won't help you to keep trying to guess.
You need to stay off those sites for a while and distract yourself.

I'm aware of this, but I try to go on sites he is at least not active on, and here he is again, and changing his mood to crazy stuff that makes no sense.

July 28, 2009

On my page, I don't really have a mood, but I have this cute smiley face, and a cute picture of me up. Maybe he saw it, and is trying to bug me? I don't know, he could not even be thinking of me, but I think its weird he suddenly is on myspace again and changing his mood, which hasn't been changed in months! What do you think? Does it sound like he may be trying to get to me?

You are not in a relationship anymore. His life doesn't revolve about you.

July 28, 2009

A and D, at this point, he is probably not thinking about you. I know that hurts, but it's probably true.

I really think you shoudl consider seeing a therapist. A therapist can work wonders.

Right now, you are giving into urges you have and you are not helping yourself. You are doing what you want to do, but not what's best for you.

Seriously, consider therapy. It can change your help. If you need help finding a therapist in you area that is no cost or very cheap, let me know. Okay?

I have to say kudos to this forum. When I started threads about the same exact thing because I was suffering and was unfamiliar with this site, in another forum, they bit my head off.

July 28, 2009

You are not in a relationship anymore. His life doesn't revolve about you.

Ok, I appreciate your comments, but I know that you have no sympathy whatsoever for ANYONE, so you might as well just avoid my threads. I'm not in the mood for this. Its has only been 3 weeks or so, and anyone normal would wonder why their ex would be in a blessed mood or whatever. I know I'm not in a relationship with him. I don't expect him to necessarily be down in the dumps, but not extremely happy either. It just blows my mind how someone is this screwed up, when he just told me a few weeks ago he loves me with all his heart and all.

July 28, 2009

Ok, how do you know he isn't thinking about me at ALL? Its hasn't been that long. Just because we are broken up doesn't mean that. Thats a little harsh, but I understand what you are saying. And no one is actually answering this thread? I ask if it sounded like he was trying to get to me. I don't need lectures about what I need to do. I know I need to let this go.....

A and D, at this point, he is probably not thinking about you. I know that hurts, but it's probably true.

I really think you shoudl consider seeing a therapist. A therapist can work wonders.

Right now, you are giving into urges you have and you are not helping yourself. You are doing what you want to do, but not what's best for you.

Seriously, consider therapy. It can change your help. If you need help finding a therapist in you area that is no cost or very cheap, let me know. Okay?

I have to say kudos to this forum. When I started threads about the same exact thing because I was suffering and was unfamiliar with this site, in another forum, they bit my head off.

July 28, 2009

I'm aware of this, but I try to go on sites he is at least not active on, and here he is again, and changing his mood to crazy stuff that makes no sense.

Yeah but you can check your own myspace without checking his. Have you no self restraint?

July 28, 2009

Yeah but you can check your own myspace without checking his. Have you no self restraint?

BOOGIE, I know you too, you are the other rude one, please leave this thread, thank you:laugh:

July 28, 2009

I know it's harsh. I did say "probably" though. I suppose he could be, but his actions don't show it. I think if he was upset about what happened, he wouldn't have BLESSED on his website.

A and D, I know that is harsh. My roommate told me things like that, and I hated when he told me things like that. It hurt me. Hurt me bad. But ultimately, it helped me to move on with me life. I was thinking about my ex sooooo much while he was with someone else. Heck, my ex didn't even think about me on my birthday and my ex told me that too.

My roommate got tough with me because I was sooooo focused on my ex I was making myself sick.

We care about you a and d and we want what's best for you.

July 28, 2009

Ok, thanks. Well, I guess I was wondering he was doing it just to be nasty and get to me. It could be he is actually in a blessed mood and not even thinking about me. Either way f'd up.

I know it's harsh. I did say "probably" though. I suppose he could be, but his actions don't show it. I think if he was upset about what happened, he wouldn't have BLESSED on his website.

A and D, I know that is harsh. My roommate told me things like that, and I hated when he told me things like that. It hurt me. Hurt me bad. But ultimately, it helped me to move on with me life. I was thinking about my ex sooooo much while he was with someone else. Heck, my ex didn't even think about me on my birthday and my ex told me that too.

My roommate got tough with me because I was sooooo focused on my ex I was making myself sick.

We care about you a and d and we want what's best for you.

July 28, 2009

I'm aware of this, but I try to go on sites he is at least not active on, and here he is again, and changing his mood to crazy stuff that makes no sense.

I've been in your shoes, so I know what it is like. You are grasping for any info on him at all.

But having weathered the breakup storm and come out the other side intact, I can tell you the longer you spend fixated on what he is up to (websites, gossip through friends etc), the longer it will take you to heal.

You have to go cold turkey for a few months to let yourself have some separation.

July 28, 2009

Ok, I appreciate your comments

Thanks.

...you might as well just avoid my threads.

Ok, I will.

July 28, 2009

BOOGIE, I know you too, you are the other rude one, please leave this thread, thank you:laugh:

Not a chance sista. After posting the same thing for the 50th time, I'll still be rude to ya, and since you cant help it, youre gonna read it because you know what Im saying is true. You know you shouldnt be checking his site and youve been avoiding the fact that you are a slave to your emotions for 3 weeks straight, and 100 threads. I no longer have empathy for you. And as long as youre posting and it bugs me, I shall bug you. Whaddya think of them apples?

July 28, 2009

Boogie and utterer may have come across as harsh, but the kernel that they're trying to get across is worth consideration.

You can't know what he's thinking. Maybe he's thinking of you, maybe he thinks he's "blessed" because he's no longer in a relationship with you, or maybe he's not thinking of you and the "blessed" comment is entirely irrelevant to you.

Point is, you're torturing yourself based on something that may not even exist. It's the relationship equivalent of being scared of the creature under your bed.

Constantly checking up on his Myspace/Facebook page (or whatever it is he uses) isn't doing you any good at all. But you already know that.

Try this: A three-day internet moratorium. No logging on for three days. (If you have to for work, well then obviously that's an exception, but if you must, just don't log in to Myspace of whatever.)

It will be difficult and you'll be sorely tempted. That's when you find out what you're made of. If you can defeat that little voice inside your head that says, "Oh, gwan, check his page. What harm can it do? Just this once..." - and I have no doubt that you can - then you're well on your way to healing.

Instead, go for a walk. Take a drive. Call up a friend and DON'T discuss your ex. Do something - ANYTHING - but get off the computer for three days.

Start now. Like, right now. Log off.

July 28, 2009

Not a chance sista. After posting the same thing for the 50th time, I'll still be rude to ya, and since you cant help it, youre gonna read it because you know what Im saying is true. You know you shouldnt be checking his site and youve been avoiding the fact that you are a slave to your emotions for 3 weeks straight, and 100 threads. I no longer have empathy for you. And as long as youre posting and it bugs me, I shall bug you. Whaddya think of them apples?

I honestly don't care what you say, I don't even bother to read it all, because it's all cold hearted and BS if you ask me.There may be a bit of truth to it, but its your choice of wording that the BS. Its not fit for a human to read. I know what I should be doing, but its hard, and yes its hardly been a month, so that is expected. A normal person would understand this, and show a little more sympathy and concern. My threads are sincere and show that I do have emotions and life is hard sometimes. At least my threads are not all sorry attempts to make people feel worse, like yours are. Feel free to continue bugging me. Everyone has their choice of hobbies, but maybe its time you find another one.

July 28, 2009

Ah, both boogie and utterer in the same topic, how lovely. My two favorite rays of sunshine, always brightening everyone's days.

Boogie, straight talk doesn't need to be cruel. Just honest. It's not always about what you deliver, but rather how you deliver it.

You're a good person. You can help people more by telling them straight talk in a empathetical or sympathetic manner.

Anyways, on topic...

Maybe he's blessed because his friends were there for him during this time and he feels loved.

July 28, 2009

A&D, note your signature line:

"What's Meant To Be Will Always Find It's Way"

If you truly believe that (personally, I think it's nonsense, but hey, whatever floats your boat, right?) then there's essentially nothing you can do if it's 'meant to be,' and that includes checking up his Myspace page. Would you agree?

July 28, 2009

Boogie and utterer probably live together....they wake up each morning, excited about making more attempts to torture innocent ones on loveshack...sad isn't it

I think my Ex may be blessed because I haven't paid him a personal visit to his apartment. He is blessed because he doesn't have to date someone who is way better looking than him, and whom he is beneath. I hope he has a miserable life being blessed. God I don't know why I'm so upset today. I even slept more last night than usual....odd.

Ah, both boogie and utterer in the same topic, how lovely. My two favorite rays of sunshine, always brightening everyone's days.

Boogie, straight talk doesn't need to be cruel. Just honest. It's not always about what you deliver, but rather how you deliver it.

You're a good person. You can help people more by telling them straight talk in a empathetical or sympathetic manner.

Anyways, on topic...

Maybe he's blessed because his friends were there for him during this time and he feels loved.

July 28, 2009

You're a good person. You can help people more by telling them straight talk in a empathetical or sympathetic manner.

I did already, in the last 20 threads she started.

A and D, you know you have no place calling people sad. Posting isnt a hobby for me, But you have made posting and obsessing your hobby though. Weve all been where you are, and the sooner you admit (to youself, not even here) that you arent trying to STOP obsessing, the sooner you can help yourself.

Case in point, look at all these threads you started:

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Tired of waking up like this....worse feeling

does this sound like he was using me for sex??!

Guy Who Has 95% Women On Facebook Account?

I want to talk on IM with people going through same things...

How Many Are Feeling Guilty After Breakup?

I found out more about my Ex..what do you think?

FURIOUS...why is he such a J***??!

feeling guilt and anger: I can't stop analzying what I did and did not do! :-(

Revenge on the Ex....you know you want to

How Many Times Can A Person Lose A Phone?-BS or what?

He Can't Even Respond through myspace or facebook???!

Can someone breakup with you but still love you?

Ex acting like i never existed....hard to get over this

If he was like this at earlier age, will he ever do it again?

guys who have more "female" friends than male

is anyone familiar with these sites?-my ex sure was

How can I accept NC without proper closure??

Breaking Up with someone if you feel you are not good enough

You have at least 4 more months before you wont think of your ex at least once a day, might as well start now...

July 28, 2009

I don't know if she should stay off the internet though...I mean, maybe we are a life line for her. I wouldn't want her to be alone.

A and D, do you have friends that are not online that you can visit with?

Are there fun things to do in your town?

What do you like to do other than being online?

Have you called the depression hotline?

July 28, 2009

No you are sad. What's truly sad is you linking all my threads. You seem to get a kick out of all my posts and heart break. Just more of an implication as to how non sympathetic one can be. At least I cam on here, instead of writing all that to my Ex. Or should have I done that instead? You are beyond rude! I have been going through a terrible time, and I have tried to stop obsessing, but then it gets worse some days. You don't seem to understand that sort of thing. You know what, I wonder if you ever have been in a loving relationship, because I can't see that happening with you. You seem incredibly bitter, and maybe thats why you can't relate, or maybe you have been really hurt by someone. I can post all I want. I'm not trying to ignore advice, but its hard to take advice from someone who delivers it in a cold hearted way.

I did already, in the last 20 threads she started.

A and D, you know you have no place calling people sad. Posting isnt a hobby for me, But you have made posting and obsessing your hobby though. Weve all been where you are, and the sooner you admit (to youself, not even here) that you arent trying to STOP obsessing, the sooner you can help yourself.

Case in point, look at all these threads you started:

Is he just trying to get to me or what's this sound like??!!

Tired of waking up like this....worse feeling

does this sound like he was using me for sex??!

Guy Who Has 95% Women On Facebook Account?

I want to talk on IM with people going through same things...

How Many Are Feeling Guilty After Breakup?

I found out more about my Ex..what do you think?

FURIOUS...why is he such a J***??!

feeling guilt and anger: I can't stop analzying what I did and did not do! :-(

Revenge on the Ex....you know you want to

How Many Times Can A Person Lose A Phone?-BS or what?

He Can't Even Respond through myspace or facebook???!

Can someone breakup with you but still love you?

Ex acting like i never existed....hard to get over this

If he was like this at earlier age, will he ever do it again?

guys who have more "female" friends than male

is anyone familiar with these sites?-my ex sure was

How can I accept NC without proper closure??

Breaking Up with someone if you feel you are not good enough

You have at least 4 more months before you wont think of your ex at least once a day, might as well start now...

July 28, 2009

A and D. Everyone on here wants to help. As I said before different people have different ways of going about it.

Listen, instead of arguing with some people, I want you to us what are you going to do today to make yourself better.

July 28, 2009

A and D. Everyone on here wants to help. As I said before different people have different ways of going about it.

Listen, instead of arguing with some people, I want you to us what are you going to do today to make yourself better.

Well for starters..get off this lovely forum. Honestly,I feel about 90% worse than before I logged in. I appreciate advice, but there are far better ways to give it. Maybe I'm looking for some empathy too, but I didn't get much of that. Instead, people making me feel even worse about myself and situation. I seriously think that Boogie person gets a kick of out my misery. I'm not saying you said anything wrong Moo(mostly speaking of boogie and utterer), but you seem to be "over" your crisis, so I can understand you not relating all that well at this point in time. I'm glad you are feeling a lot better, but I'm not. Its easy for you to say all those things, but its not easy for me to do them in my state of mind.

July 28, 2009

Wow you missed my point entirely. I knew you would. You cant get mad at me when you know its true that you have no self restraint. I dont get a kick out of this, I was justy pointing out how much you loop your thoughts in your head. You wont see how sad you are until months from now.

Ive been where you are, Ive had loving relationships, but guess what? I have inner strength. I fought the urge to obsess over my ex's actions, I deleted my ex 's off my facebook and myspace pages. I forced myself to go out and meet new people, and new people helped me stop thinking of my ex. I found things to do to take my mind off my ex. I didnt sit on the computer, posting constantly my every thought.

You probably should email your ex instead. He wont respond, it wont bring him back, but it might help you to get it out of your head--at him. You obviously have way too much to get off your chest, Im gonna encourage you to email him, and keep doing it until you feel better. Send it to his facebook and email, and dont worry about what he thinks. Email him about how angry you are at him. Im sure if you do this you wont wake up with knots in your stomach anymore.

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