Ex acting like i never existed....hard to get over this :(

[aloneanddepressed]

I don't know how many threads I've written regarding my stupid EX. I'm still having a hard time moving on. Of course, its still been less than a month. The last time I saw him, I didn't realize the breakup was over. He never told me. I found out he initiated it was over because he didn't talk to me again. I found this out through someone he knows.

 

Anyhow, I'm still tempted to do my share of internet stalking, and unfortunately this guy spends a terrible amount of time online. He has facebook, myspace, and is a member of several live cam websites. I know he is on there talking to girls, viewing girls, trying to hook up with them. I don't know how he thinks he can find a nice girl this way. He has all his friends and stuff on these sites, and I'm nothing to him it seems. I'm not his GF any longer, but I am a human. I would have thought he would have wanted to at least keep in touch or something. Maybe in time he would, but right. I don't think I would after the way he has treated me. Also, I wanted to add, that I even apologized on my part for anything I did in the relationship. That is a HARD thing to do, but I did it. Again, he says nothing to me.

 

I keep thinking, I know I had my faults, but HOW dare him just throw me out of his life and act like i NEVER existed. He acts like I'm nonexistent or was nothing to him. That is a horrible feeling. I know its over, and he has no obligation to talk to me, but the fact he never told me it was over or nothing to begin with. That alone has made the situation so much harder to cope with.

 

I have done well with NC for the most part, but gave in the other day and sent another message on Facebook telling him what I thought. I don't know how many times I've tried to contact him since like last of June, and given him the chance to respond behind the computer. I haven't called him nor told him he had to call me. I can't believe he can't say CRAP to me. Not even a "I'm sorry this happened, hope you are ok", or if he knows I still wanted to talk to him ,why would he not allow this? He didn't even tell me it was over, he just let me go for weeks not knowing anything. Then he still never said a WORD. He is deliberately treating me bad, and NO i do not want him back. I want to hurt him like he has done me. I'm soooooooooooooo mad. . I realize he is a piece of S***, but I just want to hurt him back. Like how dare him ignore me when he knows how I must feel. Ok sorry felt like venting lol.

[edward-e]

i can let you kick me in the balls to take your aggression out at men, if you want....

[SRTtoZ]

Just try and relax...Ive been through my fair share of those kinds of breakups. Ugh your username bothers me lol...you really need to see the positive side of this!

[aloneanddepressed]

Ok, but I'm not sure if you would survive, because I've never been so upset haha.

 

i can let you kick me in the balls to take your aggression out at men, if you want....

[edward-e]

haha. its all good. just hit me with your best shot. i think i can survive....

[adamt]

It is hard to understand how an ex can just walk away from a long relationship and never stay in contact or want to work it out. I mean you think you know each other as best friends forever. You can't imagine that someone who cares for you could hurt you so much.

 

I think the dumper is either being cruel to be kind and not giving you false hope or they have moved onto someone else or they are a scumbag. In the end the dumper had the balls to finish it, so if they want to try again they will have the balls to make contact.

 

In my case i think the ex is not contacting me so i dont get false hope and alow me to recover quicker. But it still hurts a lot.

[aloneanddepressed]

yeah, maybe he doesn't have the balls to tell me anything, or well duh thats clear at this point lol. he doesn't want to give me any hopes of it possibly working again. It hurts to think he has no hopes of it working either, and his mind is set on it being over for good. i still don't understand what happened so bad, to make him decide its over for good. i know it was not all my fault. the past couple of months, he was being inconsiderate, but i was still willing to try to talk things out and wasn't ready to end it. Now i'm wondering if he was even sincere about really loving me and all. I've also tried to think about it, like well just because he dumped me doesn't mean he is saying its all my fault, but i sure feel like it. well you never really know what they are thinking.

[adamt]

Thats the thing they don't love us enough to want to work things out. They probably have been wanting to leave the relationship for a while and put up a good act to hide their feelings or we have missed their warning signs.

 

Its hard not to analyse the relationship to pinpoint where they might have started changing. Maybe they wee into you but not enough to want to take it to the next level and become more serious. It hurts that they feel happier without you, i mean what was really that bad in the relationship for them? Lots of questions but you never really get them answered and you have to learn to accept it. after 3 years with my ex she said we had little in common. I struggle to get my head around that. maybe it is because she just left the relationship. but i will never know why .

 

Men can be cowards, they sometimes dont like to confront a break up and prefer to not contact and hope the girlfriend gets the message