cen Posted June 18, 2009 Posted June 18, 2009 So I went on my first date in a LONG time last night with a girl I met through friends just a couple months ago. She is gorgeous, tall (which is great for me as I'm 6'5"), intelligent, and a lot of fun to be around. Luckily we already had a certain comfort level between us just from hanging out most weekends over the last 6 - 7 weeks with the rest of the group of friends. In general I'm a bit of a shy guy, but I do go after what I want in my life, I'm self employed already and doing well and I guess I've got enough quiet confidence to be able to approach a girl if I'm interested. I am however, slow at making moves physically and am not into moving quickly which I think sometimes gets perceived as not being interested. It hasn't steered me too wrong yet, but in this case I was already stressing about what sort of contact I should make on the date and whether or not to kiss at the end etc... The date went well, we basically met for dinner in the city and were there for hours. The conversation was good, steady through the night with good stories etc... Afterwards I walked her home. Before leaving she thanked me for dinner and said she had fun, and that she would see me at this bbq I am having late next week if she "doesn't see me before then." The bbq was something I asked her about after I asked her out, and well before this date. At a certain point during the night I decided I'm just gonna go with a kiss on the cheek at the end of the night, otherwise I'll just stress too much .. so when I went finally in for the cheek she sort've turned towards me at the last second and it ended as a half lip/half cheek kind of kiss. This was fine with me. I had a good feeling through the date that she was interested, though I still don't quite know how much. Is the 'if i don't see you before then' enough of an opening to ask if she'd want to get together once more before that bbq, or should I just let some time pass? And if it sounds alright would today be too soon to ask? We're both not around this weekend so it'd have to happen just a few days before the bbq. Thanks!
GorillaTheater Posted June 18, 2009 Posted June 18, 2009 Well, based on what I see here, of course you should ask her out again. She seems interested and engaged. Any reason you're having doubts?
dreamergrl Posted June 18, 2009 Posted June 18, 2009 Ask her out again. She made it obvious that she will be seeing you at the BBQ. I don't think she'd have said that if she didn't want to see you again.
Author cen Posted June 18, 2009 Author Posted June 18, 2009 I do know she wants to see me again which is great ... I just wasn't sure if I should try and sneak one more get-together before the bbq, or if that will be too soon/pushy?
DarkestDreams Posted June 18, 2009 Posted June 18, 2009 If she's interested, there's no such thing as "too soon". Go for it.
BobSacamento Posted June 18, 2009 Posted June 18, 2009 Who says "If I don't see you before then" and not mean they want to see you before then? She dropped a hint I think and it's all about signals. Women need to use signals because they can't be like "Well I guess I'll call him and see if he wants to go out." That's our job! Half lip kiss when going for a cheek kiss is an excellent signal too. I had one of those happen and after the end of the next date I made sure I didn't miss lol. Sounds like she had a good time, good luck man.
Jester268 Posted June 18, 2009 Posted June 18, 2009 Sounds like this girl likes you. Good for you. Definitely ask her out again.
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