kyjok3r Posted June 1, 2009 Posted June 1, 2009 Hey guys how yall doin? me not so good im new here and im searching for some help. Me and my ex borck up about a month ago and she brock up with me after cheating on me with this other guy and then i told her she has to decide well she had a week and she was telling me it was a 75% chance we would work this out and this whole time she already going out with this guy and she was kissing me and stuff and all this finaly we met up on a thursday in her church paring lot and we talked she cryed and i did to we had been together for 3 and a half years she was a freshmen in high school when i first met her and when we were talking she said she wanted a break from us and wanted to stay friends and wanted to work this out but just not right know well i was very upset cus ive had a ruff life while i was with her and she was there for me and i was there for her we were engaged and wanted to get merryd and at times she would try and pressure me to merry her right away and i told her i wanted to get on are feet and move in together well at the time before we brock up her parents where lookin for a place to live on her own and i was goin to move in and we had all this planed and talked about having kids and all this well im also the guy she lost her vcard to , anyway while siting there at the churchwe gave each other stuff back and we talked and she told me she f**ked him but didnt go all the way with it cus im all she could see when they were doin it i was heart brocken and then i left and she told me her heart is in both places half and half i told her how i felt a million times and wrote her poems bought her flowers i done all that and a month befor we brock up i went and spent after all said and done about 500 dollers for her prom. i had no job and still dont cus of the economy i lost mine and cant find one even flipping burgers. well she told me to wait a week and i did before i returned my tux and i did then she said she was goin with friends then said she was going with this guy well i was pissed so i returned the tux and stuff i didnt even get half my money back and i was more upset then pissed. well we talked and she told me she wanted me out her life so i stoped textn and calling and emailing her. then she called me the day after the prom and told me that i was all she could think about and at the prom and that they cap playing are song and that she couldnt slow dance with her date cus i was all she could see and think about at prom. well i told her we needed to talk and get the air clear well i met her the next week and i told her i was cuting the string told her i was not going to be her door mat anymore and stuff and that since we brock up i realized some of the stuff that i did wrong and i admited my faults like always im man enough to admit when im wrong well the whole time i was talking she was staring at me and her eyes were glazed like teary and she was smilen at me and she cap leaning over her arm rest like she wanted to kiss me and stuff and i made no eye contact with her and didnt smile or nun at her and i told her by looking into her eyes i could see she still loves me and stuff (im good at knowing how to read people when there lien and stuff like that) well i said what i had to say and then i got out her car and left then she texted me a couple times on my way home and i told her that spark is still there and i know it is and then we got in a argument and i told her what you want from me she said to leave me alone so i did and had no contact with her well another week gose by and she calls me up i didnt anwer and then she texted i got a question she called i ansered and she said do you want me tto go to my graduation thats comin up n a coupel weeks and i said why mandy you told me you wanted me out your life so i respected you and stoped talking to you and then she was like i thought you was proud of me and i said i am and then i said is he goin to be there and she said ya and i said out of respect im not going cus if i do ill end up breaking his lil neck well we stoped talking for a few days then she texted me and said hi i said what you want and she said sorry i texted you i just wanted to say hi then i was like mandy you told me to leave you alone and i did so what you want well she said i got somthing to tell you that will make you happy and all this so shee called me i picked up and she said she made a mistake about goin out with this guy and then we talked and i told her how i felt and stuff and then she said well most likely we can work this out and then we talked a lil more she went to bed and so did i and then i texted her today and see how she was feeln and stuff and we was talkin a bit then she like ya he called me last night and he wants to work this out so we are and i was like mandy u lied to me and stuff then she was like its the truth and sometimes things change. i said wat ever told her how i felt agin and then i havent said nun els today. now this guy he works for geek sqaud so you know he gettn paid money he didnt have the money to pay for her prom or his tux her parents paid for it and then he says he dosent have the money to come see her well her parents dont like him neather do her friends not to mention there close friends to me and they say he acts like he hiden somthing but yet he has the money to go buy video games and stuff. hes doin nun but usin her and she talkin about she loves him and stuff its only been a month. some one help me plz i love this gurl and i want her back bad like she aint my first love or anything but she grabed my heart that no other females has i tryed dating other wemon and stuff but it dont feel right can someone help me out?
Author kyjok3r Posted June 1, 2009 Author Posted June 1, 2009 sorry for being so long i just thought i tell the whole story and it hurts cus i still cant sleep eat and still cry at night cus i still feel in the bottom that she is the one and that there somthing telln me not to give up but at the begining of the break up she try to accuse me of cheating but she got proved wrong and like i want her back so bad and the time i need her the most witch is know she aint there.
WiseOne1 Posted June 1, 2009 Posted June 1, 2009 Well with you being in love your not going to want to hear anything "LoveShack" has to offer you on your sistuation. If you look at other Loveshack threads "your issue is very common" Its bassically 97% of what loveshack is based on "people thinking that the grass is greener" and most people on Loveshack are going to tell you to do No Contact...and you should. She seems to be into this other guy, and the only reason she told you she made a mistake was that he even started ignoring her, or he kicked her to the curb. So something with his plan, "his other gf" didnt go his way, so he called your ex back and now shes wrapped around his finger again. The best thing you could do to make things easier on yourself is go "Strict NC" that means no talking to her what so ever, and shes going to call but just ignore it, because most likely of the time shes calling for self validation, my point is if she wants you back ,you'll know it, neither hell or high water will stop her from getting that point to you.
Author kyjok3r Posted June 1, 2009 Author Posted June 1, 2009 well thanx man its just we went through so much and she grabed my heart like no other female has and thats why its maken this so tuff for me but you know i think she is confused too but im goin to move on and i know shell be back but it hurts that she wants this guy thats doin nun but usin her and it ****ed up but its gurls like her that make it so d**n hard for a guy to fall in love with another one but i think im goin to take the time stay single for awile cus ive tryed daten around and all that stuff and it dont feel right so im just going to stay single for awile and if she comes back she gonna have to prov her self and if she dont then so be it. thanx man
WiseOne1 Posted June 2, 2009 Posted June 2, 2009 Well not that its over or anything, because its far from over, sistuations like this can range from day 1 to 2 years, so what im saying is your ex is going to continue to come back, every time her and him have a issue, every time he breaks up with her, every little issue, she's going to come back to you because she knows that you love her and will be there for her....in other words...her emotional tampon. But its up to you rather you how you respond during these times.
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