OverThinker Posted May 11, 2009 Posted May 11, 2009 Ok so I have been with this girl for a little over 3 months. her last relationship was about 9 months ago and she was dumped rather out of the blue. We talk on the phone almost every day mostly about how our days went. We typically see each other every few days. I allways go to her place or we go out. She doesn't let me stay over but maybe 3 times and we have talked about that, she says it took her along time to get used to sleeping alone after the split and now she needs to get used to me staying over. I have spent time with her family and friends. She has never been to my house(I posted about that before not the issue). Saturday night I took her and a bunch of my friends(her first time meeting my friends) to an exclusive club in L.A. I droped her off at home and went home because she was tired. When I talked to her yesterday she had spent the day with her family and was not in the mood to go out or get together, she did say she had a good time sat. night and liked my friends. When our conversation ended she said that we could maybe get together later in the week. Does this sound like she might be pulling back because she feels she is getting attached and worried about getting hurt again? Am I just overthinking things? I have to confess that I normally Jump in with both feet and have no Idea how a slow relationship progresses. Any advice will be appreciated and I will answer any questions for more info. Thanks:o
era Posted May 11, 2009 Posted May 11, 2009 Hi OverThinker... I'm not really sure I understand the problem. She spent Mother's Day with her family, and told you she'll see you during this week...no, this does not sound like "she might be pulling back".
Author OverThinker Posted May 11, 2009 Author Posted May 11, 2009 Thanks for the advise I guess the real issue is this line "I have to confess that I normally Jump in with both feet and have no Idea how a slow relationship progresses.". Most of my relationships have jumped right to seeing each other everyday and I guess I am just looking for some reasurance that this is normal and probably even better that the way my others have progressed to the end. I guess i just wanted her to say yeah I see you tomorrow.
era Posted May 11, 2009 Posted May 11, 2009 We typically see each other every few days. You saw her on Saturday, and today is Monday..
xpaperxcutx Posted May 11, 2009 Posted May 11, 2009 Thanks for the advise I guess the real issue is this line "I have to confess that I normally Jump in with both feet and have no Idea how a slow relationship progresses.". Most of my relationships have jumped right to seeing each other everyday and I guess I am just looking for some reasurance that this is normal and probably even better that the way my others have progressed to the end. I guess i just wanted her to say yeah I see you tomorrow. Don't worry about things. I think the pace you guys are approaching things are healthy and natural. That's normally how lasting relationships develop. Just don't try to compare past relationships with current ones. Each one is special in their own way, and I think that you needn't worry too much about whether she's pulling back. Sometimes relationships that go about in a steady pace are the most exciting ones.
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