green apples Posted May 1, 2009 Posted May 1, 2009 What does "seeing someone" mean? Committed relationship or early stages of dating? How serious is it?
Bejita463 Posted May 1, 2009 Posted May 1, 2009 I would tend to believe that it is a statement that means different things to different people. For me personally, that statement would mean that I am not longer available. It would not necessarily be an indicator of how progressed my relationship is.
carhill Posted May 1, 2009 Posted May 1, 2009 Generally, IME, if it is a woman who says it, it means they're not interested in dating you. That could be because they're "seeing someone", or it could be a convenient reason.
Author green apples Posted May 1, 2009 Author Posted May 1, 2009 What about if a guy says it? And the context is not in reply to a girl's asking him out.
Bejita463 Posted May 1, 2009 Posted May 1, 2009 What about if a guy says it? And the context is not in reply to a girl's asking him out. I've used it when single to politely dissuade interest due to my not wanting to enter the dating game for personal reasons. So I am evidence guys do that too, although I do not share a typical mindset that would be expected of males. What Is the context?
carhill Posted May 1, 2009 Posted May 1, 2009 I only date one person at a time, so, if I were to say I'm "seeing someone", that would be the woman I'm dating. The seriousness of that pursuit, to me, is irrelevant. That's not to say I might not find other ladies interesting and engaging, but it's only one romantic (whether that be emotional or sexual or both) interaction at a time. IME, generally, a man who is not committed nor exclusive will not announce he's seeing someone. He's keeping his options open Adding, if I were not interested in dating someone and was otherwise single/unattached, I would not demur via "seeing someone", rather say "I'm not interested in dating or relationships right now".
Author green apples Posted May 1, 2009 Author Posted May 1, 2009 The context is that I heard that someone I like is seeing someone (he didn't go around telling people; only a particular friend) so was wondering if he's committed or not.
Bejita463 Posted May 1, 2009 Posted May 1, 2009 My interpretation of the words would lead me to believe that he is not available. Car is right, he'd not be announcing such a thing if he wanted people to believe he was available.
era Posted May 1, 2009 Posted May 1, 2009 The context is that I heard that someone I like is seeing someone (he didn't go around telling people; only a particular friend) so was wondering if he's committed or not. It means he has a girlfriend...and that's all you need to know.
spiracles Posted May 1, 2009 Posted May 1, 2009 he does not have a girlfriend. he's just ... seeing someone.
BlueHarvest Posted May 1, 2009 Posted May 1, 2009 At best it is an ambigous term that, like others have said before me, can mean different things in different context situations. In my personal opinion in experiencing it... It means that they are dating someone, however if that is truly the case then why not mention "I'm dating someone" ? In truth it means "Yes I'm seeing someone, however it isn't serious yet and I'm keeping my options open." At it's worst it is used as a deflection tool by females to ward off men they aren't interested in.
Author green apples Posted May 2, 2009 Author Posted May 2, 2009 So that's like the first stage and dating is probably the second?
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