Clarenceturbo Posted April 15, 2009 Posted April 15, 2009 Maybe I am reading a bit too much into this, but I thought that I would ask for some insight. Me and my ex have been broken up since september. She cheated on me and dropped me like a bad habit after I had found out. Around November/December she began seeing or dating a mutual friend of ours and I have been strict NC for about 4 months now. I actually see her about once every two weeks or so and pay her no attention and she does the same......acts like I don't exist anymore....which is fine I guess. So, today I get this random out of the blue text from her saying...."Do you have my paper shredder?". It seems quite strange to me that now, she is asking me about her piece of crap paper shredder of all things. I mean, why not just go buy a new cheapie one or use someone else's? why text me to get back something so insignificant? At any rate, I havent texted her back yet and she sent it to me over an hour ago. I am thinking I will just ignore it because i don't want to start talking to her again. Any thoughts would be much appreciated
Sonic_chaos Posted April 15, 2009 Posted April 15, 2009 Sounds like she wanted a reason to text you somehow,. Like you said. If she really wanted to get in contact with you for you, i guess you could think of a better question then one of a paper shredder i also guess that since you havent been in contact with her for 4 months you could have changed your number and you havent got it. So id ignore it till she tries with a better one for that. All depends if you really want to start contact with her again.. i think if you have come this far to ignoring her at places in and around you, its wise to ignore it. Still your call tho
paperchase Posted April 15, 2009 Posted April 15, 2009 Ignore her and her meaningless communication. If she persists in asking for it, then have it delivered or dropped off to her without any head's up. Given what has happened between you two, I find her text shameless. She should have at least said hi, asked how you were doing and respectfully requested the return of her paper shredder at your convienence. Yes, definitely ignore her text.
Author Clarenceturbo Posted April 15, 2009 Author Posted April 15, 2009 yeah, no kidding. not so much as a "hello" or "please" even. I am starting to think that the only reason she texted is because two days ago i was walking in the mall with my current gf and my ex's best friend saw us together. I can't think of any other reasons because during our whole relationship, she never used that paper shredder once. its broken i think. anyway, thanks for the replies. i will ignore that evil hobag
Author Clarenceturbo Posted April 16, 2009 Author Posted April 16, 2009 well, its been over a day that ive been ignoring my ex's text regarding the stupid paper shredder and she hasn't sent anything back asking for it again. apparently it wasn't that important for her to get afterall. I tell ya everyone, when nc gets one to the point of not even wanting to text back an ex loved one, it feels great
BackonTrack2 Posted April 16, 2009 Posted April 16, 2009 for one reason or another, she wants to talk to you. so she asked for the shredder back. ignore her. PS.. same thing happen to me, ex was cheating, i found out, got dropped like bad habbit, but not before I hurt her with words :-) She then destroyed me. Haven't heard from her in roughly 1 year and some days. Next week is her birthday, I won't even contact her. I have thought about it but she probably won 't respond or say something real stupid like "I'm fine and doing great" which is clearly not what I want to hear.
Author Clarenceturbo Posted April 17, 2009 Author Posted April 17, 2009 yeah, about a month after she dumped me i went nuts and ripped her a new one in front of 30 people outside the bars one night. it wasnt pretty. she just stood there and took it. i felt better right after, but i now wish i hadnt done that. i am not that kind of person and would never normally do something that demeaning in front of others. i had to get it off my chest though. you are lucky you havent heard from your ex in over a year. im praying mine doesnt text me back. i really dont want to talk to her or i would have already. she is poison and doesnt deserve my time. sounds like we have fairly similar situations and i feel for ya man. thanks for the reply and take it easy ps- my ex destroyed me after i verbally assaulted her as well. slept around with like 8 people i knew.....friends, acquaintances etc. i lost 40 pounds in just over a month cuz i couldnt eat. i was literally sick. but now, i am way better and learned a lot. after time goes by, things always get better.....but you never forget......
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