kaisergal Posted April 11, 2009 Posted April 11, 2009 Hey I had been friends with a guy for ages he'd always been a flirt and he had a fiance. 8 months down the line he started acting different towards me his behavior changed. Started talking to me more and longer on msn being more cheeky/naughty with me than normal. Emailing me more in work being more touchy like pinging my bra strap and getting quite close. Wed be sat drinking coffee and he'd move his leg to touch mine or find reasons to touch me like grabbing my hand making out he was looking at my nails. When he left the office he started texting me and signing off xxx. He would say stuff to me online like how I wasn't just any girl. Saying if we go out he'd find it hard to behave himself and that it would be more fun if we weren't friends. He said how I was his sexy little minx and kept asking me if I would say for eg go on holiday with him in the future stuff like that... He even asked me to meet him after work one night were he took me out for a posh meal paid for me and was extremely touchy. Trying to cuddle up to me. I ignored him as he had a girlfriend but he told me he met this girl wk later he dumped his fiance. I confronted him bout stringing me along and he totally denied it saying ti was all in my head and that he talks like that to all the girls - I've never seen him like that and now hes got this new gf who hes moving in with after just 4 months were getting married in july but her parents talked her round All i think is what if i did this or did that maybe it wouldve been me and i just feel dead used and only thing i think bout is hoping at somepoint his life goes to pot in somehwere - a sortof karma for me
sugarmomma Posted April 11, 2009 Posted April 11, 2009 I don't understand how he used you? You knew he had a girlfriend and when he saw that you were willing to let him go as far as he did with you, he did what you let him. YOU ARE NOT A VICTIM. He is a man and will get as much *^**^ as he can. Don't hate the player, hate the game!!
Author kaisergal Posted April 11, 2009 Author Posted April 11, 2009 well i gues i was lonely at time and kinda hoped he would let me know in some way how he felt. Now hes gone off with this other girl and i feel what if and alot of bitterness towards him
Jersey Shortie Posted April 11, 2009 Posted April 11, 2009 Kaiser, obviously it wasn't you and it wouldn't matter what you had done. This man has no respect for women. Find a new man and move on. Sugarmomma, Just because he is a man and has a penis isn't an excuse to act like a tool bag. Worst advice ever and worst over played last one liner that was made by some scumbucket rapper who probably made one album and is now sitting in his wifebeater on his ass collecting two pennies a week on royalities for his one album.
sugarmomma Posted April 11, 2009 Posted April 11, 2009 She knew he had a fiance and she thought she could manipulate the situation. She is not a victim and he did not use her. It is called personal responsibility. That's the problem- we give people too much power over our lives.
Author kaisergal Posted April 11, 2009 Author Posted April 11, 2009 i just wanted him to tell me how he felt rather than pussy footing round me. I did like him but wasnt prepared to do anything while he sitll had a gf. But now hes with this new one i just feel dead bitter
kdark Posted April 11, 2009 Posted April 11, 2009 i just wanted him to tell me how he felt rather than pussy footing round me. I did like him but wasnt prepared to do anything while he sitll had a gf. But now hes with this new one i just feel dead bitter You are the other girl in this situation. He's not going to tell you how he feels about you, because he knows you aren't going to like it. He's going to string you along as long as he can.
Author kaisergal Posted April 11, 2009 Author Posted April 11, 2009 well at mo he is 'loved up' moving in with this girl next week hes not getting married in july now. All he goes on bout now is how awesome his new gf is and how he wants to settle down. Hes been engaged 3 times so hope this one works out not
RecordProducer Posted April 11, 2009 Posted April 11, 2009 Kaisergirl, I totally understand where you're coming from. The guy has a fiancee and flirts with you. You're thinking if he only didn't have a GF. Then he dumps his GF and instead of approaching YOU as a single person, he finds another GF. I'd say he isn't seriously into you. If he were, he would've used the opportunity to make advances. If anything, he isn't shy. He was playing with you. Maybe he even IS into you, but doesn't want to ruin the friendship with you, because he knows that he's a player and breaks women's hearts. Either way, he's not good for you. Don't take any action. He is not stupid, he is not waiting for your move. The best you can do is preserve your dignity and act as though nothing happened. Stay friends with him. How is he acting now? Still flirting?
Trialbyfire Posted April 11, 2009 Posted April 11, 2009 Kaisergirl, I totally understand where you're coming from. The guy has a fiancee and flirts with you. You're thinking if he only didn't have a GF. Then he dumps his GF and instead of approaching YOU as a single person, he finds another GF. I'd say he isn't seriously into you. If he were, he would've used the opportunity to make advances. If anything, he isn't shy. He was playing with you. Maybe he even IS into you, but doesn't want to ruin the friendship with you, because he knows that he's a player and breaks women's hearts. Either way, he's not good for you. Don't take any action. He is not stupid, he is not waiting for your move. The best you can do is preserve your dignity and act as though nothing happened. Stay friends with him.I strongly agree with this. Kaisergal, a guy who's as bold as he is in flirting, if he wanted to date you, you'd already be dating. Btw, the bra thing is totally tacky.
Author kaisergal Posted April 12, 2009 Author Posted April 12, 2009 i want to keep as a friend but do feel dead bitter the way he messed with my feelings like he did and actually have the nerve to deny what he did. Im left with this bitterness and hes going on hols,moving in with this girl and whatever.... I think he knew what he was doing i always backed off as i didnt want to be the one who split a couple up.
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