JaneS Posted April 6, 2009 Posted April 6, 2009 I hope that someone will be able to share their opinion on my current situation... Met a great guy on an adventure holiday last August and we kept in touch by text every now and again. He initiated our first date and has been keen to meet up. We have been dating since Feb when time has allowed; we live about 3 hours from one another. Dates have gone well and my last one was spent with him at his place the weekend before last. During this time here opened up to me a bit more about his depression (I knew about this on hol in August - he knows I have been affected by this in past by my last boyfriend) saying that he was back on medication again after feeling down lately. I told him that I appreciated his openness. As we are both on holiday for two weeks now (both in Education profession), he asked me a couple of weeks ago if I would like to go away for a few days to the countryside....I said yes....then he had the idea of going skiing...I was keen and we have both been looking at different possibilities for travel to Europe in the next few days. Anyway, after several phone calls this morning he now turns around and says that he just spoke to his Mum (who is staying with him right now) and he quoted that she had said 'maybe it's a little rushed' and that we should opt for the original countryside option?? Whilst I am fine with the rearranged plans, I can't help but be slightly concerned that his mother is influencing what he is doing. Is it me? I know that he is feeling bad with depression at the moment and has recently had his medication increased. He did say that he hoped he hadn't annoyed me by changing his mind etc. I feel very flat now and am wondering if he's still keen. He has made it clear that he still wants to go away...just not skiing in such a short space of time. Am I over reacting to this? Do I need to chillax a little? Any words of advice would be appreciated
Cherished Posted April 6, 2009 Posted April 6, 2009 I don't understand why a ski trip would be more "rushed" than a countryside trip would not? Is this because the ski trip involves overnight in a hotel room together? Sounds like you have spent the night together, anyway. However, the "mummy said' would be enough for me to think "Dump now" especially since the ski trip was his idea and then he changed because mummy said so. It sounds like he's taking steps backward and is never going to commit.
Author JaneS Posted April 6, 2009 Author Posted April 6, 2009 Thanks for your reply Cherished.... Ski trip would be rushed as flights/ accomm have to be sorted. The countryside option would be less so as a relative of his has a place there where we could stay. Yeah, we were intimate quite early on so overnight together isn't an issue. Hmm, I have to say that over the past 48 hours or so he has changed his mind often (in terms of what he wants from the holiday). I spent so much time looking at different options and seemed to be barking up the wrong tree each time! I am thinking that he is not well right now. He did say a moment ago that he was concerned that he might feel 'rubbish' (depression) whilst he was away skiing. He said something else that was interesting too....he said at least if we 'had an argument' we could drive back from the countryside! It was said as a joke but is unfounded as we haven't had a cross word yet...could be me over analysing? Also, why would he say 'text you later in the week' when contact for the last couple of months has been daily? Really odd and I'm confused....
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