lynne1973 Posted February 2, 2009 Posted February 2, 2009 its going on 3 weeks now since I left him, after realizing he wasn't any good for me, although i did and still love him. been in NC ever since. but he's been pursuing with the phone calls texts ect. not really saying anything positive or sincere apologies, mostly threats and anger cuz i'm not taking his calls. of course it all hurts to know that after all i've done for him, its come to this...if he really cared he wouldn't even be leaving me such negative voice mssgs, texts... but on Sunday, he called 9:30 in the morning, and said nothing on voicemail but left the song playing for me to hear, How Do I Breathe, by Mario. ok now what am I suppose to take from that? I kinda was hoping NC will allow him to demonstrate how much of a fight he's willing to put up for me, although i know he's no good...but just to know he at least cared you know... thx for listening and any comments would be appreciated.
Geishawhelk Posted February 2, 2009 Posted February 2, 2009 I think you would do best, as far as you possibly can, to maintain No Contact. Everyone here who has been dumped is advised to start - and stay, and maintain - strict NO CONTACT, And if your ex- were to come on here, we'd urge him to do the same. What we also do, is to advise the "dumpED" person, to totally ignore any approaches whatsoever from the "dumpER", because it just prolongs the agony. Most dumpERs try to get back in touch with the dumpED to assuage any personal feelings of guilt, or to try to see whether they still have a place in that person's heart. Yank their chain, in other words. I commend you for your resolve and determination to not rise to the bait or respond to his incessant and constant barrage of contact. Do the same with this. However, if he still goes on, and is just as active in 2 weeks' time, just text him to tell him you're taking out a restraining order against him, if he doesn't stop all contact immediately. You'll need evidence, so keep all this cr*a*p for now. And if he doesn't stop, carry out your threat. Whatever the circumstances of your break-up, you have a right to live your life free of harassment. And if you follow up with your threat, he may finally get the message that you're serious. It IS over.
carhill Posted February 2, 2009 Posted February 2, 2009 block his phone number As the dumper, I hope you had the "talk". Yes, in a way, you did... http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t177166/ I recommend some alone time to recover from this and any residual issues from your marriage/divorce in order to make a healthy choice for you the next time around.
Geishawhelk Posted February 2, 2009 Posted February 2, 2009 I don't agree with this advice. It's drastic and unnecessary. Yes, I agree it's drastic - but only she will know whether it would be necessary or not.
Zammo25 Posted February 2, 2009 Posted February 2, 2009 I don't agree with this advice. It's drastic and unnecessary. Advice from a Woman in a happy 4 year relationship. .
Geishawhelk Posted February 2, 2009 Posted February 2, 2009 Yes, Zammo, and why do you think that is.....?
Zammo25 Posted February 2, 2009 Posted February 2, 2009 Yes, Zammo, and why do you think that is.....? Because you know ALL the answers and am a better person than me obviously. Now go away and polish your halo.
Geishawhelk Posted February 2, 2009 Posted February 2, 2009 You're going OT. Let's get back to your thread and chat there, shall we?
Zammo25 Posted February 2, 2009 Posted February 2, 2009 You're going OT. Let's get back to your thread and chat there, shall we? Carry on. I am looking forward to a few more put downs.
Geishawhelk Posted February 2, 2009 Posted February 2, 2009 well if that's what you want, that's what you got. And not from me.
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