dreamergrl Posted January 31, 2009 Posted January 31, 2009 There's a guy that I've seen a few times working at a store close by my home. Tonight I went in to purchase some smokes (ick I know bad habit). As soon as I walked in he said hi and asked how I was doing tonight. I went to purchase with a coupon, stepped in (he wasn't cashiering) and showed me a better deal. Asked what I was up to, of course I fumbled out a nothing. He mentioned he was going bowling. I couldn't tell if he was skirting around trying to hit on me or not. I leave, he told me to have a great night. Five min later, I decided I wanted to find out. I am so shy about these things. So I go back and purchase the rest of the deals. He came up front and said "decided to grab them all huh?" I smiled and said yeah, it's a good deal and will save me money. He told me to have a great night again, I said thanks, and have fun bowling. I got in my car, and I could see him watching out the window as I drove off. I feel dumb, mainly because I didn't say anything or make an attempt the second time, and I don't see him often. Sometimes I give off the impression that I'm stuck up or something, but I'm just really shy when it comes to this stuff. Half of me wants to call the store and just be like would you like to go out.
artchick88 Posted January 31, 2009 Posted January 31, 2009 yes he's interested in you. give him your number!
Author dreamergrl Posted January 31, 2009 Author Posted January 31, 2009 You know I've never honestly have just given a guy my number, it scares me. LOL:o
artchick88 Posted January 31, 2009 Posted January 31, 2009 Well you should go in and ask him how bowling was. Then ask him a little bit more about himself, like "Whats your name?" And say "if you're going bowling again soon, you should call me up!" Just casual like that and give him your number! Confidence is key!
Author dreamergrl Posted January 31, 2009 Author Posted January 31, 2009 I'll have to stop in more often and try to catch him when he's there.
Star Gazer Posted January 31, 2009 Posted January 31, 2009 Look at you with your bad self, already getting giddy over a new guy! Next time you're in the store, just introduce yourself.
Author dreamergrl Posted January 31, 2009 Author Posted January 31, 2009 Look at you with your bad self, already getting giddy over a new guy! Next time you're in the store, just introduce yourself. lol This last week I've been kinda finding myself checking out guys. I haven't been purposely looking, it just kind of happened.
sid3 Posted January 31, 2009 Posted January 31, 2009 Well your only half too shy. You had it in you to go back into the store, now you just have to get over that last hurdle of going for it. Consider the fact that very few guys experience a woman coming into there place of work and showing interest, giving her #, or suggesting some company the next time he goes bowling. You'll make his day in my opinion. I'm in the same boat, getting back to dating after a breakup recently. Sometimes it's far better to jump back into the game than it would be to sit on the bench for awhile. It's good to see people are capable of moving on instead of staying stuck with all the negative side effects that breakups so often include.
Author dreamergrl Posted January 31, 2009 Author Posted January 31, 2009 So you guys think maybe I just gave off the wrong vibe? I swear we held eye contact until I drove off when I left the last time. And he saw me coming in through the window the first time. I'm practically kicking myself for not being more bold about it.
candelight Posted January 31, 2009 Posted January 31, 2009 maybe he is shy. He probably wants to ask you out but maybe you intimidate him a little. You know how some guys are intimidated by good looking women. Just introduce yourself to him. Say something like I come in here all the time and we speak to each other and I don't even know your name. You know something to just start it off. But yes he seems interested.
Ramrod Posted January 31, 2009 Posted January 31, 2009 All guys are intimidated by good looking women. Sounds like he's interested. When he said "I'm going bowling later" you should have said "I like to bowl" in which case, you might have been invited to join him. Some guys, especially young guys, don't like to hang it all out there, for fear of having it cut-off. You have to help us out here ladies, he wants to reel you in, but you need to swim TOWARDS the boat too.
Author dreamergrl Posted January 31, 2009 Author Posted January 31, 2009 All guys are intimidated by good looking women. Sounds like he's interested. When he said "I'm going bowling later" you should have said "I like to bowl" in which case, you might have been invited to join him. Some guys, especially young guys, don't like to hang it all out there, for fear of having it cut-off. You have to help us out here ladies, he wants to reel you in, but you need to swim TOWARDS the boat too. I did say bowling is fun, I guess I should have been more specific. Looking back at it, I think I would look down every now and then (something I do when I'm nervous or shy). That could have given off a bad vibe to.
RRyan65 Posted January 31, 2009 Posted January 31, 2009 Well you should go in and ask him how bowling was. Then ask him a little bit more about himself, like "Whats your name?" And say "if you're going bowling again soon, you should call me up!" Just casual like that and give him your number! Confidence is key! I can see you totally blowing this, if you do it, lol. This isn't easy to do if you're shy. It is actually easier to add a flirtatious flare to your talk, than it is to be friendly and formal.
Ramrod Posted January 31, 2009 Posted January 31, 2009 I understand being shy, but honestly, your an attractive young woman, if I were closer to your age, depending on your personality and how well we interacted, I might want to date you too, so, please, be more confident! As far as this fellow is concerned, being young, and the fact the two of you cross paths at his place of employment, while co-workers or customers, maybe even some regular customers are milling around, makes it even more difficult for him to ask you out. We men lack confidence, especially when we're young, so, anything you can do to bolster his confidence, or send the signal, if asked you'll say yes, is going to speed the process up. The next time he engages you in conversation you might say to him "Are you ever going to ask me out?" or whenever you see him again, ask him how well he bowled the other day, when he answers you, you could say I bet I could give you some competition or something to that effect, which opens the door for him to ask. Sometimes, sending a signal that you could envision yourself with the guy, doing some activity, is enough to suggest to the guy, your not opposed to spending time with him. It's that or you could be the pne to make the first move. I think I was thirty by the time I asked a woman out on a "cold call" meaning, no previous contact, just met her, engaged her in conversation and then went for it. And, if I believe what every woman has told me (questionable) my being tall, blond and blue eyed, that I am a handsome guy (my mother was a model), so my confidence needed to be built for over a decade. This dude is struggling because he probably thinks your looks give you the confidence to broadcast your interest (and he probably can't imagine your not being hit-on everywhere you go, and assumes you may have a couple of BF's. All I'm suggesting to you is to help this poor guy out little.
Author dreamergrl Posted January 31, 2009 Author Posted January 31, 2009 I like the "I be I could give you some competition" thing. That's something I can actually see myself saying. I don't know about the "are you ever going to ask me out", it's just not me. I have a hard time getting outside my normal self, if that makes any sense. I appreciate the compliment on being attractive, but being good looking has never gotten me to over come the shyness. Anytime I've been the one to make the first move, it's taken me months of months to build up to it. I'm trying to speed that up a little lol
Author dreamergrl Posted February 1, 2009 Author Posted February 1, 2009 So after dinner tonight, I decided to take a walk.. yeah yeah to the store. It's only like 5-10 min walking distance. I was getting myself all pumped up for it. Thinking about what I would say, repeating in my head because I SUCK at this. I was already to whip out a flirty comment or two. Blah, instead of him and the other guy working, it was two girls. I wonder how much more of me stopping in would classify as stalking.
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