lynne1973 Posted January 21, 2009 Posted January 21, 2009 hello, I am new here. I am dealing with the pain of recently having to break up w/my b.f. long distant relationship, he's in Jamaica, I'm in Florida. I was unhappily married for 11 yrs when we met online a yr 1/2 ago and had been seeing him every since. every other month, I would fly there to be with him. but in aug 08, I finally finalized my divorced, so that we can move on with making a life together like we planned. instead, I found out that was never his plans for me at all. instead of going thru the details of it, I thought I'd let u read my break up letter I left for him on my last trip there, as it spells out everything that has transpired during our whole relationship: I know as you are reading this, you are standing there in shock. But to be honest w/you, did you seriously think I would just stand by and accept being the “other woman” while you continue your relationship w/ your girlfriend here in JA? I see now, you have used me and lied to me all along. I was upfront with my situation and what I wanted with you from the beginning. But you were not upfront with me. Had I known from the start that you already had a woman here, I never would’ve gotten involved with you. You never told me. You had me believing there was only Roz & that was over. There were times I asked you over and over and you still never told me. But still, I trusted in you because I never would’ve imagined that you would be as cruel as to take advantage of my kindness & good heart for your own selfish gain. And I also honestly believed I could be the 1 woman that could make a difference in your world. But I see now, every question I came to you about this girl and that girl, your answers were all LIES. And then you would tell me that you want to have a life with me too when all the while you already had a girlfriend here in JA whom I never knew about till I confronted you. And now you tell me you are STILL with her and I’m suppose to be ok with that? Well I am not ok with it. Just to be clear, I am leaving you for the following reasons: you’re a Liar and a Cheat[/FONT]YOU USED ME FOR YOUR OWN SELFISH GAINyou are not Faithfulyou don’t have nothing to offer me all you do is take take take from me, and give nothing to me in return but heart ache and painI want a real relationship where me and my man are exclusive to each other only. If you Never had any intentions of ending your relationship, then why did you get involve with me in the first place? I will tell you why. Because you already had it all planned out. And telling me the REAL truth bout everything would’ve messed up your plans, which was to use me for every dime you could get. You have been using me so bad Granty down to this day. I’m just sorry that it took me this long to finally wake up & realize it. Not to mention the way you have treated me. Words cannot describe how horrible you have made me feel the whole time I have been seeing you. Anybody who really cares like you say you do wouldn’t treat a person the way you have done me. And you promised you would pay me back starting in November 08 on the $5000 loan and go half with me on the laptop. But instead, I don’t get one dime from you, and you have been using the laptop THAT I BOUGHT to hook up with and chat w/other women behind my back. Well no more, since you have not paid me back one dime, as far as I am concerned, you broke your end of the deal so I am taking back the laptop, it now belongs to me. I want nothing more to do with you and your slimy ways. You are no father figure and certainly not a good man for ANY woman. All you do is exploit and use them to get what you want. You have nothing to offer to anyone. Because of what you have done to me, you have totally destroyed my trusting heart and shot down my self-confidence, creating in me constant fears and insecurities that I’m being used because you keep taking so much from me. I feel you have not shown me any appreciation for all the times I’ve been there for you; instead you treat me like crap, with your lies and cheating ways. Well it all stops here…from this point on, I am moving on with my life, WITHOUT YOU. But remember, what you did to me will not go unnoticed-KARMA, what goes around comes around-it WILL be back around, don’t worry. Have a nice life, or what’s left of it. You will regret this, you had a good woman in me, I have been patient with you & your dishonest ways for so long, hoping that you would someday realize just how good of a woman I am to you… and now you will never find another… after I got back the laptop, I found out thru his multiple myspace pgs & such that he has been running the same game on women from all over. when i asked him why does he do this, his response simply was these women are not going to take him for a fool. that they are unhappy @ home, so they look to him & they expect him to look into their eyes & make them feel good & they go back home, & not leave him with anything. but he said with me, he could see I was different and that I really did care for him and his boys. and now i'm here trying to pick up the pieces because I put so much into this relationship for it to just fall apart. I feel crushed, used, violated all the same time. so thats my story, any questions comments or concerns are welcomed
Author lynne1973 Posted January 21, 2009 Author Posted January 21, 2009 the worst part is that I am in love with him and even wonder, after all that I've done to help him and his kids, will it even matter to him that I'm gone, will he even miss me? a part of me wishes that he would wake up and realize what he had in me and that he doesn't have to live that kind of lifestyle anymore. he says he knows that I really did love him and his kids. so will that be enough to make a difference to him now that I'm gone?
Geishawhelk Posted January 21, 2009 Posted January 21, 2009 "Move along.... there's nothing to see here....." You cut him off. You know what a total cr*phead he is. Love is one thing. That's ok. Stupidity is another, so never contact him again. And don't let him back into your life.
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