justletgo07 Posted January 12, 2009 Posted January 12, 2009 I had't seen her since mid-November, but ran into by chance today. I was on my old college campus meeting with some departments on behalf of my company, one of which one of my friends worked at. It is important to note that this friend and I have started dating a little recently. Well, my friend and I were talking, and I turn around and see my ex walking toward me, having already spotted me from behind. We both say hi, make some small talk, I kinda let her do most of the talking. While were were talking my friend decided to leave, and told me she'd talk to me later. I got worried when my friend left, and I think my ex noticed, and particularly noticed I wasn't paying as much attention to her, and told me she could go if I wanted to catch up with my friend. I told her I probably should, which kinda caught her off guard I think, because she quickly told me one more story (nothing important) before going. I told her it was good to see her, and then ran to catch up with my friend. My mind is racing. I know it doesn't matter what she is thinking or anything, but I'm still feeling pretty anxious over it... Just wanted to share.
Riffmeister General Posted January 12, 2009 Posted January 12, 2009 Oooh! You know, I think you just got a bit of payback!
Geishawhelk Posted January 12, 2009 Posted January 12, 2009 By showing her just how awkward you felt standing talking to her. She just had to get that last little snippet in, before you left, huh? Still trying to keep a grip on you! Listen, if you run into her again, you are completely and perfectly within your rights to say - "I don't care what you make of this, but I really don't want to talk to you." And walk off. Don't worry about 'hurt feelings'. She should worry!!
Riffmeister General Posted January 12, 2009 Posted January 12, 2009 By showing her just how awkward you felt standing talking to her. She just had to get that last little snippet in, before you left, huh? Still trying to keep a grip on you! Listen, if you run into her again, you are completely and perfectly within your rights to say - "I don't care what you make of this, but I really don't want to talk to you." And walk off. Don't worry about 'hurt feelings'. She should worry!! That, and her seeing you'd rather be with this other girl than her. That's what she'll infer, anyway.
Author justletgo07 Posted January 12, 2009 Author Posted January 12, 2009 Hopefully it will get her thinking about what she had...
Riffmeister General Posted January 12, 2009 Posted January 12, 2009 Oh, it will. There's a reason people say "You don't know what you've got till it's gone." Smile, and get on with your day.
BCCA Posted January 12, 2009 Posted January 12, 2009 Oh, it will. There's a reason people say "You don't know what you've got till it's gone." Smile, and get on with your day. Dont get your hopes up too high. While she might feel initially jealous if you have another interest and she does not, if she wanted you back, she would have said something. I also wouldnt call it payback. She walked away from you, and its not like she begged for you back and you left with this other woman. I would take Geishawhelk's suggestion: "I don't care what you make of this, but I really don't want to talk to you."
Riffmeister General Posted January 12, 2009 Posted January 12, 2009 Sorry, I was basing this on the fact you're seeing this new girl and you don't want your ex back. If that's incorrect, then yeah, manage your expectations.
Author justletgo07 Posted January 12, 2009 Author Posted January 12, 2009 Dont get your hopes up too high. While she might feel initially jealous if you have another interest and she does not, if she wanted you back, she would have said something. I also wouldnt call it payback. She walked away from you, and its not like she begged for you back and you left with this other woman. I would take Geishawhelk's suggestion: "I don't care what you make of this, but I really don't want to talk to you." Don't worry. I'm not getting my hopes up...at all. Just wanted some feedback on whether or not I handled it well.
Geishawhelk Posted January 12, 2009 Posted January 12, 2009 On the spur of the second, I don't think you could have handled it any differently. But you might as well get used to seeing her around, and be determined to nip her oh-so-friendly "we're really cool with one another" cutsey attitude.... Short sharp shock is what she needs. Don't be afraid to give it to her. Oh, and not wishing to trivialise this in any way at all - you're a young man, with glorious potential and a good heart. In time, this will be just an amusing memory. You'll recover and get over this, and move on, truly you will. I now sound like a mom (curious, because I am!!) but try if you can, to focus on what's vital right now. And that is your well-being. Both emotional - and professional. Edit - sorry, thought you were still in education. Pay attention GW!!
Author justletgo07 Posted January 12, 2009 Author Posted January 12, 2009 Thanks a lot for the advice. I was hoping I'd be further along with healing by now. I'm trying not to let this be a significant setback.
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