Konfuzion Posted January 11, 2009 Posted January 11, 2009 This is really just a rant but I guess when the dumpee finally moves on and is sick of it all the dumper has a change of heart... Or something... Hmmm long story short she broke up with me, we tried to see if we could work things out. A few weeks ago she told me she isn't happy and wants to date other men and that she doesn't want to try to work things out anymore. We agreed that after my childrens court date I will move out, my children have to testify in a criminal case within the next few months and we figure that is enough strees for them right now without the added burden of us moving and seperating. So fast forward to present the other day we had to run errands together as my ex had to drop her car off for service one of my errands was to open my own individual checking account since everything we have right now is joint, and I also deposited some money into the account to cover moving expenses and to buy new furniture and so on. Anyway after this we went to lunch together and she was siting to my left but out of my peripheral vision and I could feel her staring at me so I looked over and she had tears in her eyes so I asked her what was bothering her and she said "nothing" so I asked again "nothing" so I ask again and she was real brief but she said "I was just thinking about you moving". I left it alone. Then like a day later she comes home and she had been shopping and she holds up a bag of chips "are these the kind you like?" (they were salt and vinegar and as an Englishman I love them but I have only bought them a few times since we have been together). Anyway I just thought it was very random since I didn't ask her for chips.... Another day I was in bed reading and she came in the room (it was the middle of the day) and she laid down on the bed and asked "is it ok if I am in here?" I said "its your room too" and then she proceeded try to have this in depth conversation with me while I was reading. I should add my entire demeanor towards her has changed and I have been really indifferent with her and I guess its driving her crazy. I should also add I have come to terms with our relationship being over and I am dating other people, I spend a lot of time texting other people and on the phone, which I guess she is seeing a lot of.
Geishawhelk Posted January 11, 2009 Posted January 11, 2009 Yup, your ex IS losing it. The Upper Hand, that is. She probably feels that you should be entering a decent period of mourning for the relationship (10 years should do it) and be wailing and gnashing your teeth in deep despair. However, this is not good for teeth, as it loosens the roots from the sockets, and can cause nerve damage. I think you're just fine as you are. keep Doing as you're Doing. It's for the best.
Surfer Dude Posted January 11, 2009 Posted January 11, 2009 Geisha is right, this woman is losing an upper hand. The fact you have moved on without begging, pining and all the usual crap has dealt a huge blow to her ego. Some people are like that, when you stop chasing them it significantly damages their self esteem, and they will SEEM remorseful and that they want you back, but just until you give in and validate them. As soon as you do that, they got what they wanted (validation) and they're gone. I've seen these types. They usually have terribly low self esteem.
Joyvke Posted January 11, 2009 Posted January 11, 2009 Geisha is right, this woman is losing an upper hand. The fact you have moved on without begging, pining and all the usual crap has dealt a huge blow to her ego. Some people are like that, when you stop chasing them it significantly damages their self esteem, and they will SEEM remorseful and that they want you back, but just until you give in and validate them. As soon as you do that, they got what they wanted (validation) and they're gone. I've seen these types. They usually have terribly low self esteem. Yep, more then often. Though guys can usually do this too ^^
Author Konfuzion Posted January 11, 2009 Author Posted January 11, 2009 Well I wont be validating crap, I will say I am drunk as hell right now and a part of me wants to ask her if she wants to do the nasty, but I am not gonna do it.... Sucks to be drunk and horny.
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