T.O.gurl Posted December 27, 2008 Posted December 27, 2008 i was just talking to a guy i "dated" last year(we are still friends and talk at least once a week..he lives in another country now)i am in a new relationship but earlier we were talking online and i was teasing him about possibly not been laid lately. he then says that "girls don't really like me. i don't know why :(" i told him to stop with the pity party, that i was sure lots of girls liked him, i even liked him once upon a time. he said "yeah you were the only one". i told him that i was sure he could easily find a girl where he lives if he just gave one of them a chance. he then says "none will ever compare to you"..i told him he was full of it, he didn't like me(i was joking)and he types "i love you*"...i said "that's a lie" and he said "i don't lie"....i then proceeded to joke that he must be on something to make a comment like that and he says "only feelings"...so i again told him he was full of it and that i was taken now and he put a and said "fine,whatever".....i then changed the subject to new year's. i'm confused. was he just joking around?
LikeCharlotte Posted December 27, 2008 Posted December 27, 2008 He loves you. You need to make some decisions about this situation. Take him seriously and have a talk with him. You obviously do not want that sort of attention from him. You need to let him know and you need to respect his feelings and be aware that you might be hurting him more if you let him hang on.
Author T.O.gurl Posted December 27, 2008 Author Posted December 27, 2008 yeah but he's told me he loves me before(back when we were sort of dating)and then said he was joking....its very confusing...i mean why say it then?
Joyvke Posted December 27, 2008 Posted December 27, 2008 Perhaps he said it then and took it "back", because it got too real for him. Didn't realise it back then either maybe?
saturnfell Posted December 27, 2008 Posted December 27, 2008 He lives in another country, correct? If he loves you are you going to move? If he really loves you he would need to show you in other ways.
Author T.O.gurl Posted December 27, 2008 Author Posted December 27, 2008 no i don't plan on moving for him. i'm dating someone else. i just don't get him and the things he says.....
saturnfell Posted December 27, 2008 Posted December 27, 2008 In order to give your new relationship the best chance, and put the best foot forward, I would recommend letting go of the past and move on happily with this person. If you find yourself continually thinking of your ex, then it's possible you're not ready to date someone else or possible you need to re-evaluate the situation with your ex. It's ok either way. We're not always ready when we want to be and they're not always ready when we need them to be.
Author T.O.gurl Posted January 1, 2009 Author Posted January 1, 2009 well i tried to talk to him tonight but before i could even get to it he signed off his computer. we were both online so wished each other a happy new year's. i then asked him if his job was still going well(he recently got a new one)and he replies with "oh its great! fun stuff! its easy to meet new people"...so i said "that's great! when you say meeting new people do you mean networking for possibly a another job or better position?" and he says "ha no, like networking to my bed". so i then told him i was happy for him that he was liking his new job and that it was even helping him out with his love life and he says "well our catch phrase is "we'll pick you up".....i then told him that i know he's not like that and he says "are you sure?..." and i said "well either that or i don't really know you." he then says he's "joking, holy"...and says he has to go. wtf??!
D-Lish Posted January 1, 2009 Posted January 1, 2009 What is happening is that he revealed himself to you, immediately felt vulnerable and hurt you didn't return the feeling, and then started to back-peddle out of embarrassment. I'd start re-thinking whether or not you guys can continue on as friends... It doesn't sound likely you can. If he still loves you, having a friendship isn't good for either of you.
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