Sith Apprentice Posted December 25, 2008 Posted December 25, 2008 Was out on a first date with a woman and she pulled this line. I told her "OK! Call me in six months," and walked out on her. Any woman who makes you wait for sex, or by her actions implies she is making you wait for sex; the sex is NEVER worth the wait.
Charles1978 Posted December 25, 2008 Posted December 25, 2008 There is a good chance she told you this so you wouldn't think she's a slut. I dated a girl for a couple years who told me she didn't want to have sex until marriage. Yeah, that idea lasted about a month. If you really told he that and left, bad move, IMO.
movingonandon Posted December 25, 2008 Posted December 25, 2008 Was out on a first date with a woman and she pulled this line. I told her "OK! Call me in six months," and walked out on her. Any woman who makes you wait for sex, or by her actions implies she is making you wait for sex; the sex is NEVER worth the wait. In the remote chance that this is not a troll/prank post, you did the exact right thing.
You'reasian Posted December 25, 2008 Posted December 25, 2008 Was out on a first date with a woman and she pulled this line. I told her "OK! Call me in six months," and walked out on her. Any woman who makes you wait for sex, or by her actions implies she is making you wait for sex; the sex is NEVER worth the wait. Think critically. She could be doing this for alot of reasons... 1. She doesn't want to be viewed as a slut. 2. She has jumped into relationships too fast and it has ended up biting her. 3. She needs to feel comfortable with you and know you before she gets physical etc. Either way, looks like the two of you have different intentions. Best of luck with the next one?
Meet 4 Coffee Posted December 25, 2008 Posted December 25, 2008 YoureAsian is a smart man. Obviously you weren't looking for a more mature, emotional connection, just a physical one.
D-Jam Posted December 25, 2008 Posted December 25, 2008 I think any man or woman has a right to say they won't put out for a period of time, and they also have the right to reject someone who says that to them. I personally think the woman should have shown a little more tact with it. She should have just dated the OP normally, and if things got physical down the road, she could have just said "no" and say she's not ready. Announcing it like that would make me think that she's been the type to make a lot of bad decisions with men and thus she can't trust herself...or she's some overly puritan type who might just decide to say "i'm waiting til marriage" when 6 months pass. In any case, she's got as much right to say she's waiting as much as the OP has to reject her for it.
moonshadow Posted December 25, 2008 Posted December 25, 2008 Was out on a first date with a woman and she pulled this line. I told her "OK! Call me in six months," and walked out on her. Any woman who makes you wait for sex, or by her actions implies she is making you wait for sex; the sex is NEVER worth the wait. You just up and walk out on a date who tells you something you don't like to hear? How rude, not to mention immature. Are you trying to impress everyone here with your bravado and blatant disrespect for women? Are you that in need of attention? I guess so.
prettybaby Posted December 25, 2008 Posted December 25, 2008 You know what's funny? - she came home thinking "whew, I did the right thing! Good riddance" - you came home thinking "whew, I did the right thing! Good riddance"
Author Sith Apprentice Posted December 25, 2008 Author Posted December 25, 2008 She left a message on my machine after I left. I called her today and told her I don't date people with agendas especially agendas being given by someone I've only spoken to for 10 minutes and she apologized. Apparently, I'm the first guy to never tolerate her silly game and she's eating it up( getting off on the bad boy treatment). She said she has a special surprise for me next time we meet. I may or may not pursue this. i havn't really decided yet. I sure as hell aint waiting 6 months though. From personal experience it's never worth the wait and i aint jumping through no hoops because these women are usually lousy lovers anyhow. This is actually the second time this has happened to me. A few years back I was having a sex discussion with this girl and she said "I'm not having anal sex with any more guys." I never even said I wanted to have sex with her!The whole time I'm thinking ok, how many guys have you had anal with????? Completely lost interest after that one.
You'reasian Posted December 25, 2008 Posted December 25, 2008 She left a message on my machine after I left. I called her today and told her I don't date people with agendas especially agendas being given by someone I've only spoken to for 10 minutes and she apologized. Apparently, I'm the first guy to never tolerate her silly game and she's eating it up (getting off on the bad boy treatment). She said she has a special surprise for me next time we meet. I may or may not pursue this. I havn't really decided yet. I sure as hell aint waiting 6 months though. From personal experience it's never worth the wait and i aint jumping through no hoops because these women are usually lousy lovers anyhow.. We're all human and we make mistakes. According to what you are telling us, you are putting her in a situation to make the same mistake that she has in the past by pressuring her. The end result? You could be pushing her further into jaded territory which morally isn't the best thing to do. At the same time, I understand where you are coming from. Women saying one thing and doing the exact opposite. And I would wager at one point, this probably bit you in the ass in a very important relationship - the "I'm not ready for sex" part but she's bangin someone else or frankly, you're just looking for the quick lay with no trouble. The question you need to ask yourself after you take a really good look at this woman: Is she worth the wait?
hanginthere Posted December 25, 2008 Posted December 25, 2008 On the first date that is ridiculous and I am a girl. I would run if a guy said that to me. 2 or 3 months but 6 months....good bye...too many hang ups!
Author Sith Apprentice Posted December 25, 2008 Author Posted December 25, 2008 You're Asian, i understand what you're saying. I'm not pressuring her. I never even made any comments that I want to have sex with her. She brought it up. i just thought it was rediculous to blurt out a hard and fast 6 month rule with someone you barely know.
hanginthere Posted December 25, 2008 Posted December 25, 2008 No you are not pushing her, she is her own person. What is going to show up in lingere to prove she is not a prude. I would feel the same way. Move on do not pursue this, it is a RED FLAG to the future and control issues.
Author Sith Apprentice Posted December 25, 2008 Author Posted December 25, 2008 No you are not pushing her, she is her own person. What is going to show up in lingere to prove she is not a prude. When she said she had a "special surprise" for me this was the first thing that came to mind. I have to admit my curiosity is getting the best of me.
carhill Posted December 25, 2008 Posted December 25, 2008 Drama alert. STR prognosis. Merry Christmas!
kashmir Posted December 25, 2008 Posted December 25, 2008 LOL. I can see where this is going. She comes over, things get hot, and you guys have sex. Afterwards you say, "Well...that was some surprise." "That wasn't the surprise." "Oh? Then what's the surprise?" "I have herpes" She redresses and walks to the door. "...Merry Christmas!"
chris250 Posted December 25, 2008 Posted December 25, 2008 I don't think either one of you did anything wrong. She was being honest about her intentions early on. You should have at least thanked her for her honesty. At least she didn't lead you on by lying by omission. I think it is important to be honest and clear about one's intentions early on in dating about what they want as far as sex. If she didn't want sex for the 1st 6 months then she did the right thing making that clear to you early on. At that point you were free to make a decision based on the information she revealed to you. Neither one of you wasted each other's time. Both of you are free to move on and find more compatible partners. You two just were not compatible. It doesn't make either one of you wrong.
Rebellious Posted December 25, 2008 Posted December 25, 2008 She said, "I don't believe in having sex during the first 6 months" ... That doesn't mean anything. A girl told me that once on the phone, but our first date lasted 3 days. Watch what she does, not what she says.
Sw3etdev1L Posted December 25, 2008 Posted December 25, 2008 Hey!....it's just part of the game.... see if you are worth it, not just an animal who longs to get laid because he never gets any and wishes for the girl to give herself to you the second date... that's just it..sometimes men makes us think that's the only think you want out of a woman, and really...it's sometimes annoying...but sometimes!!!, women just really want sex and men are the opposite, saying " I don't want to get married " just because they see she doesn't really care. so...I just don't get it. If she is worth it and intrigues you go after her, words don't speak louder than actions.
Perry Posted December 26, 2008 Posted December 26, 2008 Sometimes I feel sorry for women. But if she really wants to see this dumbass again, there's one I will not feel sorry for. You just up and walk out on a date who tells you something you don't like to hear? How rude, not to mention immature. Are you trying to impress everyone here with your bravado and blatant disrespect for women? Are you that in need of attention? I guess so. Worth repeating.
RecordProducer Posted December 26, 2008 Posted December 26, 2008 the sex is NEVER worth the wait.The sex is not. The womna might be, but you're apparently interested only in sex. If she said six months, it meant six weeks at most. You're a fool, but it's too late now. Heh!
alphamale Posted December 26, 2008 Posted December 26, 2008 Was out on a first date with a woman and she pulled this line. I told her "OK! Call me in six months," and walked out on her. the "wait" is different for everyone. maybe it would be less for someone else?
Trialbyfire Posted December 26, 2008 Posted December 26, 2008 After reading this thread, I'm lovin' this idea and will be using it in the future! If the guy walks, Sayonara!
alphamale Posted December 26, 2008 Posted December 26, 2008 After reading this thread, I'm lovin' this idea and will be using it in the future! If the guy walks, Sayonara! unfortunately you'll be sleeping alone for quite some time
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