Tinkerbelll Posted November 22, 2008 Posted November 22, 2008 Day 13 Well, I have ups & downs like everybody's else, I guess.. But I want to share with you what helped me today: I just had a look at my past journals where I described how I was dealing with a couple of jerks I met along the way..and it was so FUNNY I mean..thinking there was a time when I have been really involved with them! I had the feeling like it was actually someone else who wrote those notes so distant I felt while reading them.. I know TIME is the answer, I know NC is for the better: it gives us the power in the long term, let them wonder about what happened to us, and I am not going to break it, nor even for Xmas! The day I'll see him again, I 'll have a proud smile on my face, the smile of a person that has managed to go through all this sorrow AGAIN and AGAIN got stronger! Someone here wrote: we are not the same people who were left distraught by their departure, we are just still not aware of that
EmperorR Posted November 22, 2008 Posted November 22, 2008 yep Im not breaking it for christmas even if my ex text me, because I know if I say thanks, she'll be like how you are and continue on.
SelfCentered Posted November 22, 2008 Posted November 22, 2008 Yeah, NC is the best remedy for a breakup. I have a feeling my ex will try to text me soon though, since my 21st is creeping up. If she does, i'm not going to read the text. Delete it right away. One day I will see her again and I'll be a better man for it. I'll have all these stories about what life gave me thanks to our breakup. And then i'll smile, thank her for the memories, and keep walking.
JoeNat Posted November 24, 2008 Posted November 24, 2008 NC is the only way for me. I feel it is fair for my new relationship. I just wish that my partner was the same way. Instead they have this lingering relationship with their ex and I dont know what to do except get angry and want to break up... NC while it may not be the healthiest as you cant just "forget" that person existed, it is the easiest.
IcemanJB Posted November 25, 2008 Posted November 25, 2008 I told my ex of 1.5 months over the weekend to stop texting/contacting me, after she made it clear she obviously still has feelings for me when we saw each other last week - and that is only giving me false hope. At least she's understanding and knows why I told her to stop talking/meeting up with me. I know it will be months before I'm able to talk to her without feeling awful days afterwards. NC is SO HARD because the actual talking to/seeing the other person is just awesome. But I'm determined to stick this out. Chances are I won't say anything to her until way after the new year.
Gere51 Posted November 25, 2008 Posted November 25, 2008 My goal is to never, ever speak or have any other sort of contact with my ex again. I've gone 121 days now, and it really helped me to regain my self-esteem and dignity. I have not responded to her since early July, and will not.
JoeNat Posted November 25, 2008 Posted November 25, 2008 My goal is to never, ever speak or have any other sort of contact with my ex again. I've gone 121 days now, and it really helped me to regain my self-esteem and dignity. I have not responded to her since early July, and will not. That is always my goal, never speak to them again. I have one ex that I broke up with back on 2001. I am yet to speak to her. Another one that I broke up with in 04 and just recently (This past April 08) contacted her. The most recent break up I havent spoken to since June and will never speak to her again. It is just the easy thing to do.
mikejc Posted November 27, 2008 Posted November 27, 2008 Hi everyone, sounds like NC is teh way, but Im just out of an addictive relationship, she dumped me without warning fro another guy and Im REALLY struggling with NC. Each time i break it i feel horribel and get caught up in her "i still ove you, cant stop thinking of you, im so confused" and it makes me want to get her back, which i cant and round and round I go. I broke NC yesterday and it was awful. With NC I am much better, just need to stay with it. Been only 3 weeks since we broke up and longest NC has been 3 days, crap I knwo, but trying hard as I can here, just want to talk to her and contact her but knwo it will hurt me more. Any good ideas, Ill take any right now :>)
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