TopCop15 Posted August 15, 2008 Posted August 15, 2008 I am a 20 something year old male that is drastically inexperienced in the field of girls and relationships so bear with me. Anyway, there is this girl at work I think likes me. She goes out of her way to talk to me a lot, she bought me some food that I like, calls me darling, dear, honey, etc, laughs at all of my dumb jokes. Her body language suggests that she is interested as well. I think she is cute and personable and I probably would be interested in dating her. However, today, made me a little unsure if she really does like me. I was on my way out, she catches me, makes sure that I know she'll be back in a couple of minutes so I won't leave right away without talking to her. We're outside talking, things are going as usual, giggly and talkative as usual. But, when she leaves she calls me "buddy":o Keep in mind her boss was there at this point as well so I am thinking that she didn't want her boss know about her personal life. Soooo....for all those out there on this wonderful forum, should I be concerned? Also, could I have some surefire tells and signs (Body language, attitudes, etc.) that a girl is interested in you. I heard something about how a girl crosses her leg means something. I really dont feel comfortable putting myself out there if it results in the old "I like you as a friend". Thanks so much.
JoeNewbie Posted August 16, 2008 Posted August 16, 2008 I wouldn't get distracted with the "buddy" part too much. Have you asked her out for lunch yet?
Author TopCop15 Posted August 16, 2008 Author Posted August 16, 2008 I wouldn't get distracted with the "buddy" part too much. Have you asked her out for lunch yet? I haven't mustered up the courage to do so yet hahaha. I'm just looking for some cues and or signs that she really indeed has an interest in me.
JoeNewbie Posted August 16, 2008 Posted August 16, 2008 She does not need to be interested in you to have lunch with you. Lunch will rather allow you to find out whether there is chemistry or not.
LionLover Posted August 16, 2008 Posted August 16, 2008 I am a 20 something year old male that is drastically inexperienced in the field of girls and relationships so bear with me. Anyway, there is this girl at work I think likes me. She goes out of her way to talk to me a lot, she bought me some food that I like, calls me darling, dear, honey, etc, laughs at all of my dumb jokes. Her body language suggests that she is interested as well. I think she is cute and personable and I probably would be interested in dating her. However, today, made me a little unsure if she really does like me. I was on my way out, she catches me, makes sure that I know she'll be back in a couple of minutes so I won't leave right away without talking to her. We're outside talking, things are going as usual, giggly and talkative as usual. But, when she leaves she calls me "buddy":o Keep in mind her boss was there at this point as well so I am thinking that she didn't want her boss know about her personal life. Soooo....for all those out there on this wonderful forum, should I be concerned? Also, could I have some surefire tells and signs (Body language, attitudes, etc.) that a girl is interested in you. I heard something about how a girl crosses her leg means something. I really dont feel comfortable putting myself out there if it results in the old "I like you as a friend". Thanks so much. Body language is a huge indicator everything you described are all positive signs. If your not comfortable asking her out yet then continue paying attention to how she acts/responds when your around her. And as JNewbie mentioned, I would'nt read too much into the buddy comment.
rstratt2 Posted August 16, 2008 Posted August 16, 2008 She's testing you. It's long enough that she sees you moving to the "friend zone" (I'd imagine you're familiar with the term). She''s' hanging the tag on you to see if you're comfortable with it. More or less it's an ultimatum, make a move (and I mean a gesture of some sort not "stopping short" Costanza style) or you're no longer going to be the nice guy at work that she's kind of interested in.
Mahatma Posted August 16, 2008 Posted August 16, 2008 I haven't mustered up the courage to do so yet hahaha. I'm just looking for some cues and or signs that she really indeed has an interest in me. The signs are there, do it soon before you friend zone yourself.
paddington bear Posted August 16, 2008 Posted August 16, 2008 Google body language and then read up, then check her out - palms facing upwards = good, receptive, her feet turned towards you also good, keeping eye contact = good. Don't worry about the buddy thing - what we say and what we do are totally different things.
Amiss Posted August 17, 2008 Posted August 17, 2008 You can spend months trying to analyse her body language etc but then you will think of another reason not to ask her out. I have just witnessed a man miss out on dating a woman he has liked for a year due to fear of rejection (she has now moved , he is still a 20 something , lonely virgin). You should ask her out for a drink. Taking chances is what life is about:)
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