pudpie Posted June 7, 2008 Posted June 7, 2008 Hi everyone. I have a question on how to talk to a girl. This is my situation. I have known this girl for two years and at the start I liked her for her looks, but then as started to get to know her more and more I stated liking her for how she is as a person. I know her very well but I still do not know some of the detailed likes and dislikes, such as favourite movie, favourite book etc. I have been flirting with her for the last year and a half. The one thing I have trouble with I talking to her on msn. I do not know what to talk about. Can someone suggest some things to talk to her about and who to talk to her? And if the things are asking her question who to do it in a non boring way.
Suiyobi Posted June 7, 2008 Posted June 7, 2008 I would like to know, too. Appreciate it if anyone can shed some light here.
Gunny376 Posted June 8, 2008 Posted June 8, 2008 Tell me about one thing you started today and one thing you finished? Is faster always better? Talk about some times when it is and when it isn't? What worries you? Of what are you the proudest? If you could do anything you want for a career, what would it be? What responsibilities do parents have to their children? Which of your parents friends do you respect the most and why? What does it mean to be patrotic? What would you most like to change about yourself? What is the one thing you would like to try? What's your favorte book? Author? Discuss upcoming events of lifestyle changes that will affect your family, for example a new job, a new grade, failing health of grandparents. Where is one place you would like to go? How can you help people at work around your hometown? What is your favorte fragrance? What is your favortie cologne? What is your favortie perfume? If you ran for political office what would it be? What would be your central campagin office? What is your favorite type of music? Who is your favorite singer? What is your favortie movie? Tell me about a time you were injured or broke a bone? What is a favorite song of yours? What are some of your family traditions? Share a memory that goes way back into your childhood? What is the funniest thing that happen to you today? What is the most intersting thing your learned today? What is the saddest movie or TV show you watched today? What are some of your favorite TV shows? Why are some people liked and others are not? What would be your idea vacation? What is your favorite Christmas decoration? What do you like most about Christmas? Beisdes Christmas what is your most favorite holiday and why? What do you like most about the Fourth of July ~ the fireworks or the cookouts? What's the difference between natual talents and spiritual gifts? What did someone say or do that made you feel good about yourself? If you were the oppossite sex what would be the hardest adjustent? If you could change one physical feature about yourself what would it be? What is / was your nickname? What charteristics do you see in yourself that comes from your father/mother? What qualities would you like to emulate from your parents/relative? Who is your favorite relative? If you won the lottery how would it change your life? Tell me about a time you were frightened?
carhill Posted June 8, 2008 Posted June 8, 2008 OP, I'd love to know how you can flirt with a girl for a year and a half and know so little about her. Please, educate me.... Anyway, Gunny gave you enough fodder to last through a bevy of potential girlfriends. Hope you make use of it
Suiyobi Posted June 8, 2008 Posted June 8, 2008 Man, this is seriously awesome. I'm taking down notes! My only regret is why didn't all these ideas come to me sooner???
Gunny376 Posted June 9, 2008 Posted June 9, 2008 What would you do/should you do if you were in a car accident? Take a saying like "Start at the top and work your way down" Think of as man applications as you can. Which holday has the most meaning for you and why? What day of the year makes you the happiest ~ have the fondest memories of? How does different types of music affect you? What is your favorite time of the day? What is your favortite season of the year and why? Where do you want to be in ten years? What disability do you fear the most? What figure in literature, the movies, or television has impacted your life? What would you do if you has $10,000 a boat and could invite four people? If you could live in a differnt century, what century would it be? For what purpose were you born? If you were invisible, who would like to observe? If you were invisible, what conversation would you like to hear? If you were the oppossite sex, what you would want to do first? If you could change your name, what name would you choose and why? If you could be a professional in sports, what sport would you choose? If you gave a dinner party, what food would you serve and who would you invite? Where would you have the party? If you could own a store, what kind of store would you own? If you had four eyes, where would you put the other two? If you were an animial what kind of animal would you be? If you were a bird, what kind of bird would you be?
Pedigree Posted June 9, 2008 Posted June 9, 2008 For what purpose were you born? TV shows are usually good place for me to start when it comes to this.
Author pudpie Posted June 10, 2008 Author Posted June 10, 2008 Thanks so much that was exactly what i was lokking for but how do i say these things without it being aquard. What am i supposes to do just like question het.
Ronni_W Posted June 10, 2008 Posted June 10, 2008 Gunny's suggestions are great! -- Just be sure that you know your own answer cos chances are she's gonna ask it back to you, too. And pick the ones that kind of 'speak to you' on a personal level. (For ex., personally I probably wouldn't ask, "what did you start and finish today?" -- to me, it sounds too much like something a personal coach would ask. See what I mean?) You can do it a bunch of different ways: I was listening to <name of song/group> earlier, and started thinking about why I like it/them so much...do you find that different types of music affects you differently? I heard these people talking about <whatever, wherever> and it got me wondering/thinking that...what is your take on it? I saw on TV/in the newspaper/on the internet about <whatever>...have you ever thought about how that would affect you? My mom/gran/teacher always says, "start from the top and work your way down"... (It doesn't really have to be that you mom always says it or you heard people talking about it. But it does help to sort of segue into the subject without sounding like a total nutjob.) EDIT TO ADD: for the 'segue', just use stuff that you won't get caught out on. Like maybe say "my 3rd grade teacher used to say" rather than "my mom".
badmus Posted June 11, 2008 Posted June 11, 2008 Just ask her how her day was and what she did and from there ask her other things based on what she said she did. For instance if she says she went to school ask her about things that happened in school and things like that
JohnnyBlaze Posted June 11, 2008 Posted June 11, 2008 Think global, shop local. Start with the basics. Get her to talk about herself, and the easiest way to do that is to broach whatever commonality you two have. Do you know her from school? Exams are coming up (if not in full swing, depending on the school). Grumbling about exams leads to talking about summer plans and parties. Summer plans and parties are happy times. Do you two work together? Telling that story about the idiot customer who kept coming back for ten minutes straight because his coffee wasn't at the perfect temperature will lead her to tell her own war stories, and the two of you can laugh over them together. Whether or not you know her favourite something doesn't matter. What does matter is what type of thing she likes. What types of movies does she like? If she's into dumb comedies, talk about the new Sandler flick (if you both haven't seen it and want to, there's a prime date opportunity without even calling it a date!). Is she a closet (or open) bookworm? If so, get to a library and read either "War & Peace" or "Crime & Punishment". Tote the book around here and there - let her see you with it in your hand and a bookmark stuck halfway in the book. For some reason, the bookworm babes go loco over a guy who reads the Russians (I haven't read C&P yet, but I have done W&P - C&P's after I finish Kafka's "The Metamorphosis"). This one will have to be done in person first, but once she sees you're a reader, the MSN book talk will follow. Remember, don't get too deep yet. You want it to be happy stuff, even if you disguise it by starting on a grumpy note. You want her thinking happy thoughts, even if it's just her laughing at some misfortune you suffered. Over time, she'll start to make a subconscious association that you cause her to be happy. That'll make her want to talk to you and be around you more. That's a good thing. Think about what's going on in her life and how to relate it to yours. If you can relate her life to yours, she'll be able to do the reverse. Then you just toss out the bait and let her bite (metaphorically speaking...unless, of course, you're into that kinda thing!).
SimpleGirl. Posted August 10, 2008 Posted August 10, 2008 The one thing I have trouble with I talking to her on msn. I do not know what to talk about. Can someone suggest some things to talk to her about and who to talk to her? And if the things are asking her question who to do it in a non boring way. Just be yourself. I know that when i'm talking to someone i like, i love being made to laugh. Lame jokes, talking about stupid stuff, little games. Just having fun, really. Tip: Put smileys in the conversation like ":P or :)" it seems to add more expression to the conversation if that makes any sense at all. Not much help, but good luck! SimpleGirl*
lovestruck818 Posted August 10, 2008 Posted August 10, 2008 Hi everyone. I have a question on how to talk to a girl. This is my situation. I have known this girl for two years and at the start I liked her for her looks, but then as started to get to know her more and more I stated liking her for how she is as a person. I know her very well but I still do not know some of the detailed likes and dislikes, such as favourite movie, favourite book etc. I have been flirting with her for the last year and a half. The one thing I have trouble with I talking to her on msn. I do not know what to talk about. Can someone suggest some things to talk to her about and who to talk to her? And if the things are asking her question who to do it in a non boring way. clothes & shoes are always good conversation topics
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