replicator Posted May 29, 2008 Posted May 29, 2008 My ex-girlfriend was amazing. She was extremely smart and successful (unbelievably successful), and coupled with that, so physically attractive, always getting hit on wherever she went......... I guess I was lucky I had her for ten long years. The envy of all my friends, and now shes gone. She never treated me badly, she was so thoughtful. Always planning our trips, buying me nice things, everything you would expect from a good girlfriend. There is nothing bad I can say about her. She was loyal and never cheated on me. So much of what achieved I owe to her. She was my rock. Because of her, I quit smoking.. I did well in school.. She helped me chose the right career path and turn down the easy bank job. All the blame lies with me. She was so strong and successful, I was always in her shadow - and I feel like all the fault lies with me. How did I lose her? I made so many mistakes.. I took her for granted, and now she is gone. It hurts to admit this, but I know it is true. I wasn't good enough for her. I know it is not good to pity myself.. I just read these other threads, where the ex did this and that.. My ex did nothing wrong to me, except realize that she could do without me. She is the most beautiful woman I've ever known. The best hearted woman. I can't believe I lost her. I feel like I'm going to miss her forever, and she'll be the last person in my thoughts. Hard to cope with these feelings.
kizik Posted May 29, 2008 Posted May 29, 2008 I know what it feels like to feel as if you weren't good enough for someone. But it does sound like you are putting her on a pedestal. She wasn't as perfect as you say. No one is. You may have made mistakes, but everyone does. There is a reason she stayed with you for 10 years, don't forget that! I don't know your story, rep - if you wanna tell it, I'm here to listen. Would help me give feedback too.
justaman99 Posted May 29, 2008 Posted May 29, 2008 Is your mistake that you felt that you weren't at her level career wise? I don't understand. How did you take her for granted? How many and what mistakes did you make? More info please.
kizik Posted May 29, 2008 Posted May 29, 2008 Rep, I just bumped your other thread that goes into detail regarding your situation. Sounds like your ex is incredibly enmeshed with her parents in a way similar to my ex. So they wanted you to be a doctor or lawyer, and you weren't? YOU A*SHOLE! How dare you place other things besides money and prestige at the forefront of your life. I'm very sorry she took off on you; my ex did the same thing. To me the problem sounds like she was more career-oriented and parent-whipped than a caring, loving person should be. Add to that, the fact that her parents never approved of you... sounds like a situation you should be glad to be out of. Of course, I can say that objectively, but in your shoes, a beautiful successful woman walked out of your life, leaving you to pick of the pieces. It's not your fault, bro. It SUCKS D*CK, but it aint your fault and it's truly a blessing in disguise, based upon how you described her selfish nature. Don't let others' success make you feel sh*tty. They usually have the wrong goals in mind anyway.
Author replicator Posted May 30, 2008 Author Posted May 30, 2008 Thanks for your support guys. It means a lot to me in this tough times. It is comforting talking to others, even if they are strangers, I know you guys know where I'm coming from. I guess I have too much pride to confide in those around me. Yesterday and today was extremely rough. I kept replaying memories in my head. Our many happy memories. Then I began to think about all the things I should have done for her, but never did. I thought of how much I depended on her, and how I didn't do enough to lead our relationship. I let her do all the pulling, and eventually she got worn out. I'm no longer going to be weak and pathetic. I'm going to be strong, even if it hurts, I'm going to take it like a man. Going to show her that I can live my own life, and that I don't need anyone to define who I am. It is a long road, and I have a far way to go, but I'm not going to let this ruin me.
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