insideout121 Posted March 20, 2008 Posted March 20, 2008 So my ex broke up with me in December, i started NC on new years eve and she broke no contact in late February. Since then she has initiated contact 4 or 5 times by text/phonecall/facebook Fast forword to last sat night, it was the first time we have both been in the same nightclub at the same time since the breakup, she was practically beside me but with her back to me for a lot of the night, dancing around lads and flirting and completley ignored me. I was drinking with a female physcologist who immediately said she was trying to make me jealous... So why would an ex who finished with me do this ??
Tyra Posted March 20, 2008 Posted March 20, 2008 I don't know why she would do this. But more than likely, she was just doing that to get some attention from you, just like your psychologist mentioned.
fitzyfan Posted March 20, 2008 Posted March 20, 2008 Perhaps to see if you are still interested in you. Some of my friends do that stuff, as soon as a guy that they dumped stops begging for one of them back, they're all of a sudden on a mission to see if they could get him back if they wanted. It's immature really, but it happens.
Blue Eyed Brain Posted March 20, 2008 Posted March 20, 2008 Why do you care? Don't worry about someone elses' actions, just know your own. You can think of 10 different scenerios but what good will it do to try to figure out her motives? Move on..... sounds toxic to me. Let her go and find someone who appreciates you. Was the psychologist hot? :-)
Author insideout121 Posted March 20, 2008 Author Posted March 20, 2008 Yeah about three weeks after the breakup i started meeting other girls and this made the ex mad, told me never talk to her again etc... The thing is her behaviour in the club didnt bother me, i spent most of the night talking to women and didnt pay her any attention, and i dont have peoblems meeting other women etc... just about an hour ago she contacted me again via facebook. Yeah the physcologist is hot but is with one of mates so thats a no go area
twice_shy Posted March 20, 2008 Posted March 20, 2008 So why would an ex who finished with me do this ?? Either because she is still hooked on you, or she is just one of those petty little tarts that wants to hurt you. I wouldn't bother with her. Ignore her when she does this. Nothing will get to her more than if she is trying to make you jealous and you show her it doesn't bother you. you might even want to tell her you want nothing to do with her any more.
LakesideDream Posted March 20, 2008 Posted March 20, 2008 In my experiance most women want a "back up", who's better than a man they have already tried, trained, and discarded? Soon she will have another ex.. and you won't be in "first position" anymore. Then you will have some piece of mind.
Author insideout121 Posted March 26, 2008 Author Posted March 26, 2008 So last saturday night was the first time i had talked to the ex face to face in 3 months, she basically came out and said "i really miss you and i still love you" She had drink in her so i didnt pay much attention to it then but she contacted me the next day and remembered what she had said, we bumped into each other that night and she basically gave me a "**** test" she said "there is probably no point getting back into the relationship is there" and i replied "no, probably not" then she got all thick with me so i just said good night im heading off now.. So the next day she asked to meet up for a talk and we talked about everything except the relationship, she had to go then and said "we never even talked about us" andi said "well do you even want to ?" she said "yeah i do" Im keeping my eyes wide open with this one....
stoneymirror Posted March 26, 2008 Posted March 26, 2008 I don't understand why women have to make things this confusing... I'd say forget about her completely. This is just the tip of the iceberg. Do you want to be with someone who's going to have these personality traits? Probably not...
Author insideout121 Posted March 27, 2008 Author Posted March 27, 2008 Yeah my gut feeling is that she is just confused and lonely, she doesnt know what she wants. The thing is we did hook up that night and her mate told me we should have a talk with eachother the next day (me and the ex) so she has been obviously talking about the situation to her girlys for a while.. She knows i have been out meeting lots of other girls so this has obviously got to her, plus the fact that i completly cut her out of my life soon after the breakup. The last i heard from her was 2 days ago when she sent an SMS saying " well, you wouldnt believe how tired i am right now" i didnt bother replying...
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