am i going about this right?

[lmslms]

hi everyone, im new to this forum, so please bear with me.

 

i met this girl from Canada on the Internet around christmas time. i live in Sydney Austalia, and it just so happens to be that this girl has was studying in Sydney last year at Uni. She is again studying this year at the same Uni.

 

She went back to Canada from Australia to be with her family for christmas, but we ended up nearly talking on the internet everyday for hours at a time.

 

This girl arrived back in Sydney a fortnight ago, and we ended up going out a week later, whereby we had a couple of drinks, coffee and a bite to eat. Things went well that night. We ended up going out or dinner at a restuarant 2 nights ago, whereby we shared a innocent first kiss and then another one later on.

 

This girl is amazing, like no one i have ever met before, i have never been so happy? is this possible after just 2 dates (bearing in mind that we have chatted online and on the phone for a while before that).

 

I spoke to this girl again today, and asked her did she want to do something before friday, because i have to attend a business conference for which i wont be back into town until sunday on, yet she said she had a busy schedule tommorow and what not with her studies and research for a upcoming project.

 

we have spoken on the phone about doing an outdoor activity next week some time along with some lunch, and she said to call her when i get back from my business trip.

 

Am i being too keen at this point? should i pull back a little, like i am sure she knows that i like her and what not, it's just that i dont want her to think that i am overbearing or too keen, (as i respect that she has all this uni work to do, and i want her to do the best she can at it, yet i wanna spend time with her, because i am really falling for this girl.)

 

I think this girl is going back to Canada after her studies in July/August sometime, so i wanna really make her aware that i really like her and that i would like to down the track have a relationship with her, and i wanna in the not so distant future make her aware that i am willing tol make sacrifices such as moving to Canada and what not to be with her or to wherever she wants to go to pursue her career.

 

Do u guys/girls think by what i have said that she is generally interested in me? and when should i push things along to the stage where things start to get a little serious (relationship).

 

when should i tell her that if things work out that i would be willing to relocate with her?

 

should i really just tell her how i feel about her at this stage, or let it roll for a month or so.

 

thanks in advance for any replies, all of which will be greatfully appreciated.

 

im sorry for my essay(lol) it's just this dating and relationship thing isnt my strongest points.

[carhill]

Too fast. Call her when you get back from your business trip. In the interim, send an affectionate note (e-mail). Don't expect a response.

 

The biggest thing life taught me about relationships is that, if the chemistry is there, as well as mutual respect, it will stand the test of time.

 

IMO, she'll respect you more if you're mindful of your career and life, but are appropriately interested in her.

[lmslms]

Too fast. Call her when you get back from your business trip. In the interim, send an affectionate note (e-mail). Don't expect a response.

 

The biggest thing life taught me about relationships is that, if the chemistry is there, as well as mutual respect, it will stand the test of time.

 

IMO, she'll respect you more if you're mindful of your career and life, but are appropriately interested in her.

 

i am not to over the top but am i?

[carhill]

Translation? I'm not up on all the Aussie slang (we have friends in Sydney and on the Central Coast) but am willing to learn

 

If by "over the top" you mean too much too fast, then, yeah, maybe. I think you'll find Canadian ladies to be a lot like your own Aussie ladies, perhaps without so much of that feral edge (that I personally love about Aussie gals). Just take your time. A few evenings sitting out in the late summer breeze at the Opera bar having casual convo will be telling. I miss Sydney

[StrawberryLime]

I agree. You're not exactly over the top here, but you are coming on strong.

 

I'd give the same suggestion. Send her a short email of affection (but nothing too crazy, just something like "hope things are going well. Business trip sucks. Thinking about you" or whatever.) And yeah, don't expect a reply. Don't even ask for one.

 

You two obviously have chemistry here, so there's no reason to rush things at all. The beginning of a crush can be overwhelming for men and women, so when you take time to step back, you can clear your head and get down to the real feelings you have. If the both of you cool off and the chemistry is still there, just give it time to grow and things will be so much better.

 

The key to anything is to take your time and not push for too much too soon. Otherwise you smother the fire, and end things before they've even begun!

[lmslms]

I agree. You're not exactly over the top here, but you are coming on strong.

 

I'd give the same suggestion. Send her a short email of affection (but nothing too crazy, just something like "hope things are going well. Business trip sucks. Thinking about you" or whatever.) And yeah, don't expect a reply. Don't even ask for one.

 

You two obviously have chemistry here, so there's no reason to rush things at all. The beginning of a crush can be overwhelming for men and women, so when you take time to step back, you can clear your head and get down to the real feelings you have. If the both of you cool off and the chemistry is still there, just give it time to grow and things will be so much better.

 

The key to anything is to take your time and not push for too much too soon. Otherwise you smother the fire, and end things before they've even begun!

 

trhanks or ur advice. im pretty sure she is aware that i like her, and maybe less is more or the time being?