birdmadgirl Posted January 7, 2008 Posted January 7, 2008 (edited) My coffee date was last night, and I'm not entirely sure what to do/think today. The guy in question, as I've mentioned, is painfully shy, but the conversation was easy and flowed quite well once things got underway. At the end of our time together, he offered to lend me a CD he had just told me about. I followed him back to the building we live in and he ran into his apartment to get it. We stood in the parking lot for a few moments and talked a bit more, and then finally, he said, "Well, um... I'm, uh... going to go inside now. So maybe, uh, I'll, like... run into you again, or something...?" I smiled and said, "Okay, sure! See you later!" And that was that. My positive thoughts:The awkward goodnight = Shy Guy speak for, "Let's do this again."His offer to lend me the CD = a reason for further contact.There was PLENTY of eye contact and open posture during the meet-up, even if he and I both were fidgety and a bit nervous.He asked me tons of questions I don't think I've ever been asked before, and he seemed genuinely interested in my responses.My negative thoughts:If he wanted a real date, he'd have asked.He's a journalist. It's his job to ask questions and seem genuinely interested in the responses.Okay, so that's a good summary of my evening. I have an email drafted to thank him for a fun evening. It says, "I just wanted to send you a quick note to thank you for meeting me for coffee last night. I really enjoyed talking to you. If you ever find yourself with a bit of free time on your hands and are interested in a reprise, I would like that." I'm just not sure if I should send it, based on the initial coffee date. I'm probably being silly, but it can't hurt to ask, right? Your thoughts? Edited January 7, 2008 by birdmadgirl
Cobra_X30 Posted January 7, 2008 Posted January 7, 2008 I'd say everything points to things going well! I like the idea of you letting him know you had a good time. It shows interest, and displays an ability for open and honest communication. Both are very attractive traits!
Author birdmadgirl Posted January 7, 2008 Author Posted January 7, 2008 Thanks, Cobra! I went ahead and hit 'send' on the email. I figured he took a chance by asking me to meet him for coffee, in the first place, so the least I could do was take the same chance by opening the door for further interaction. The worst he can say is no, right?
ElvenPriestess Posted January 7, 2008 Posted January 7, 2008 You're email was casual, to the point, and I'll bet it made him smile. Good for you:-)
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