birdmadgirl Posted December 13, 2007 Posted December 13, 2007 ...is to give up on him altogether. No, I'm not seriously suggesting that you do that, ladies. It's funny, though, that as soon as I had honestly made up my mind to give up on anything happening with the shy guy I've referenced in my latest threads, he emailed me again with an apology and an invitation to continue emailing him. I still don't know what to do, though.
underpants Posted December 13, 2007 Posted December 13, 2007 ...and here is an opening. Email him that you cannot forgive him unless he bribes you with a cup of coffee.
Trialbyfire Posted December 13, 2007 Posted December 13, 2007 I find that cutting off his legs, then holding out a can of beer about 10 feet away, works better. But... each to their own methodology.
underpants Posted December 13, 2007 Posted December 13, 2007 I find that cutting off his legs, then holding out a can of beer about 10 feet away, works better. But... each to their own methodology. Oh now, You have to save something for later.
Trialbyfire Posted December 13, 2007 Posted December 13, 2007 Oh now, You have to save something for later. Hence, just his legs...
Jilly Bean Posted December 13, 2007 Posted December 13, 2007 To futher TBF's stellar point, I think cutting off his legs and having a shaved vag AND a beer AND a remote control to a football playing TV is the best way to have him crawl. Oh, and a pizza, too.
Trialbyfire Posted December 13, 2007 Posted December 13, 2007 An FWB, legless, beer drinking, pizza eating, couch potato man is not the kind you really want, is it? Sorry unders. I guess I misunderstood you. I saved you half a beer. As for the OP, if you really want him, take him back. Otherwise, put him out of his misery by shutting him down.
underpants Posted December 13, 2007 Posted December 13, 2007 Sorry unders. I guess I misunderstood you. I saved you half a beer. Oh no no.... I see that hatchet behind your back.
Trialbyfire Posted December 13, 2007 Posted December 13, 2007 Oh no no.... I see that hatchet behind your back. Nothing to worry about. You won't crawl for beer.
Author birdmadgirl Posted December 13, 2007 Author Posted December 13, 2007 Oh, my! It looks like this thread's seen some action. I just realized as I was tooling around with my options that I don't subscribe to threads automatically, so I've changed that. Underpants, your idea is fantastic, as always. TBF, I am elated that he wrote me back, so I don't think I'll be shutting anyone down. ;-) For those who are interested, I responded to his email in a very cordial manner and left the door open for more conversation. He's going out of town tomorrow, so I don't want to ask him out while he has so much going on. When he returns, it'll be a new year. One of my resolutions is to stop being so shy, myself. Unless I do something in this situation, we'll keep up email tag indefinitely at this rate. Of course, I could always hack off his legs. ;-)
Jilly Bean Posted December 13, 2007 Posted December 13, 2007 Ha ha, Birdman! Good for you. And good attitude.
Trialbyfire Posted December 13, 2007 Posted December 13, 2007 If you want to continue fishing for him, try salmon roe or even pink yarn. If he's in spawning season, the pink yarn works great! As I mentioned in unders thread, trolling for shy guys is an exercise in futility. It's a lose/lose proposition in that, a shy guy would drive me insane. Are you certain this is the kind of guy you want? He'll be passive in so many ways, now and in the future. Wouldn't you rather a guy who can take the initiative and ask you out?
underpants Posted December 13, 2007 Posted December 13, 2007 Men are wonderful. Sometimes the most shy guys are the best once they trust you enough. I agree that it is more difficult and it can be heart breaking. Sometimes that heatbreak occurs no matter the personality of a person. However, I am a sucker for that quiet shy guy. You can keep those loud, charasmatic ones that need validation all over the place. btdt. Going back to shy and nice.
Trialbyfire Posted December 13, 2007 Posted December 13, 2007 Men are wonderful. Sometimes the most shy guys are the best once they trust you enough. I agree that it is more difficult and it can be heart breaking. Sometimes that heatbreak occurs no matter the personality of a person. However, I am a sucker for that quiet shy guy. You can keep those loud, charasmatic ones that need validation all over the place. btdt. Going back to shy and nice. You'll find enough of both types that need validation. Loud isn't charismatic, IMO. Neither is cocky or brash. Good communicators with plenty of confidence, are incredibly sexy.
underpants Posted December 13, 2007 Posted December 13, 2007 You'll find enough of both types that need validation. Loud isn't charismatic, IMO. Neither is cocky or brash. Good communicators with plenty of confidence, are incredibly sexy. That is true. Shy quiet people can be the worst offenders (sneaks). There is really not a type/outcome correlation as far as I can tell. Of course a good communicator is great. He does not have to be confident. Actually, lack of confidence I find a little endearing. It lets me know they are human.
reboot Posted December 13, 2007 Posted December 13, 2007 Good communicators with plenty of confidence, are incredibly sexy. Until you cut off their legs.
Author birdmadgirl Posted December 13, 2007 Author Posted December 13, 2007 If you want to continue fishing for him, try salmon roe or even pink yarn. If he's in spawning season, the pink yarn works great! *dies laughing, is resuscitated* Seriously, though, I find everything about this particular man so inescapably intriguing. I've had a run of shy men lately (well, the last one turned out to be less shy and more... something else), but none of them ever seemed as excited to interact with me in person as this guy did. I'm not sure if you read the thread about what happened at my show, but seeing from the stage that he was the FIRST person to walk through the doors at opening time and then watching him push through the crowd after our set to ask me if he could help me take my equipment outside... it was precious. That sounds mildly condescending, and that's not my intent. As we walked out together, he complimented me, stumbled over his words, and a number of other things that signal interest for the majority of shy men. I've recently had to take into consideration how his occupation might affect him. As a journalist-turned-copywriter, I can certainly appreciate how Shy Guy's job is time-consuming in the utmost. Then again, it was my unwillingness to part with EVERY WAKING MOMENT of my free time that pushed me out of reporting and into writing ads. I've had to ask myself if I really want to be involved with a guy whose career will most likely come before everything else. To be honest, I don't think that would fly with me. Not in the long term, anyway. Then again, I can't possibly know that that'll be the case until I'm in the situation, and perhaps Shy Guy is so shy because nobody's given him a chance thus far. We'll see, I guess. For the time being, I am enjoying the correspondence.
Trialbyfire Posted December 13, 2007 Posted December 13, 2007 Until you cut off their legs. What's with this need for legs to be confident? I don't feel it's a necessary component.
reboot Posted December 13, 2007 Posted December 13, 2007 What's with this need for legs to be confident? I don't feel it's a necessary component.Well at least you did add "just his legs". *phew*
Trialbyfire Posted December 13, 2007 Posted December 13, 2007 Well at least you did add "just his legs". *phew* Exactly. Get with the program. We're trying to make men crawl back.
reboot Posted December 13, 2007 Posted December 13, 2007 Exactly. Get with the program. We're trying to make men crawl back.C'mon TBF, I bet you have no trouble making men crawl.
Trialbyfire Posted December 13, 2007 Posted December 13, 2007 C'mon TBF, I bet you have no trouble making men crawl. *pulls out the hack saw and can of beer* No, never, I can make any man crawl... Now it's your turn to offer the OP some sage advice. I've done my part with my psychopathic fishing tendencies. It's now your turn from a man's perspective.
reboot Posted December 13, 2007 Posted December 13, 2007 Now it's your turn to offer the OP some sage advice. I've done my part with my psychopathic fishing tendencies. It's now your turn from a man's perspective.Oh, I think she's already figured it out. Complete indifference makes you incredibly desireable.
Cobra_X30 Posted December 13, 2007 Posted December 13, 2007 Oh, I think she's already figured it out. Complete indifference makes you incredibly desireable. Hmmm... I think it's more of a Partial Indifference. Or better yet... Occiasional Indifference!
Author birdmadgirl Posted December 13, 2007 Author Posted December 13, 2007 Hmmm... I think it's more of a Partial Indifference. Or better yet... Occiasional Indifference! Ha! I really wouldn't call it indifference. I haven't quite mastered that one yet. It's closer to simply being realistic and not letting my expectations get so far out of hand at this stage. I think I'm going to find an excuse to linger outside my apartment building tonight, though. Perhaps I'll even clean my balcony or finish putting up my lights if it's not too cold. I'm bound to see him at some point. If I do, I think I'll just bite the bullet and invite him in for coffee. I'll just have to make sure to hide the hack saw first.
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