bigheartkindsoul Posted November 4, 2007 Posted November 4, 2007 used to have this FWB last year I broke it off around June 06 (I think) he used to make plans and then he would just not turn up or forget. Anyway we met as I used to work in car finance and he was a car dealer, about 2 months ago I saw his site had closed down and sent an email saying sorry to hear this and hope everything works out. Then he asked to take me out, I said ok just as friends - anyway that Friday night came and went without hearing from him to make plans of where and when. Then while I holiday he sent this Hi Long time no speak. How’s everything been your end? What you doing on Thursday night? Would you be willing to forgive me and allow me to buy you dinner and a drink? **** (name) Xxx To which I said no, you had your chance and you blew me out. All the very best. Then last night I got Hay you How’s everything going? Just scene you on match and im very pleased to see you’re still single, have not stopped thinking about you since we spoke first time. Im very serious I think you’re a cracking girl and I would really like to start something serious with you. i know really let you down, but I really want to make this up to you ill do anything to prove it. Please meet tomorrow afternoon for lunch, breakfast, or dinner which ever one you can make all 3 if you like. Really hope to hear from you with a yes. (name) the plonnker XXX What bothers me about the above is him saying meet me tomorrow, not a when are you free question??? am I right to think this shows no consideration?? and that he thinks I just be sitting at home doing nothing (not the case). Looking for thoughts on this especially from the guys? I WILL NOT BE TAKEN FOR A RIDE, so am seriously thinking of just saying NO I DO NOT WANT TO SEE YOU, YOU SHOULD HAVE THOUGHT ABOUT THIS BEFORE YOU BLEW ME OUT BEFORE.
Lyssa Posted November 4, 2007 Posted November 4, 2007 Looking for thoughts on this especially from the guys? I WILL NOT BE TAKEN FOR A RIDE, so am seriously thinking of just saying NO I DO NOT WANT TO SEE YOU, YOU SHOULD HAVE THOUGHT ABOUT THIS BEFORE YOU BLEW ME OUT BEFORE. I'm not a guy but... I would reply that to him and end it there and then. FWB are never my cup of tea so I would just dismiss him.
ThesinPride Posted November 4, 2007 Posted November 4, 2007 I'm with lyssa on this one, i see some red flags there.....then again it appears that you do as well. My advice? Go with your gut. If you have doubts, chances are good they are valid.
Author bigheartkindsoul Posted November 4, 2007 Author Posted November 4, 2007 Yeah thanks you guys Was what I thought and what my close friend thought too when forwarded her the email. Some men have got more front than Lola Ferrari
Author bigheartkindsoul Posted November 4, 2007 Author Posted November 4, 2007 Good response???? You have not let me down, only yourself. Thankfully I had a feeling that you wouldn't live up to the previous plans so went ahead and made other plans anyway. I am guessing you were lonely and drunk last night hence the spelling mistakes, and the total inconsideration in assuming that I would even be free to meet you today. For future ref with some girls you ask out over match, you might want to ask "when are you free as I'd like to take you out". Also I would suggest you go on the arranged dates, and do not blow them out otherwise I cannot imagine them agreeing to meeting you again. Sorry but someone has to tell you so might as well be the one who really isn't that bothered and I am hoping you succeed with match and find what you are looking for.
Lyssa Posted November 4, 2007 Posted November 4, 2007 Throw in "You might also like to get some advice on LS - look for Troutie Jr." LMSAO That's good. No need to sound too polite nor rude. That was just nice. Send it!
Author bigheartkindsoul Posted November 4, 2007 Author Posted November 4, 2007 Throw in "You might also like to get some advice on LS - look for Troutie Jr." LMSAO That's good. No need to sound too polite nor rude. That was just nice. Send it! Cheers hunny for the ultra fast response, your a star
Author bigheartkindsoul Posted November 4, 2007 Author Posted November 4, 2007 Sent response as below.... You have not let me down, only yourself. Thankfully I had a feeling that you wouldn't live up to the previous plans so went ahead and made other plans anyway. I am guessing you were lonely and drunk last night hence the spelling mistakes, and the total inconsideration in assuming that I would even be free to meet you today. For future ref with some girls you ask out over match or on real life, you might want to ask "when are you free as I'd like to take you out". Also I would suggest you go on the arranged dates, and do not blow them out otherwise I cannot imagine them agreeing to meeting you again. Sorry but someone has to tell you so might as well be the one who really isn't that bothered. I do hope you succeed with match and find what you are looking for.
Ariadne Posted November 4, 2007 Posted November 4, 2007 Well, What bothers me about the above is him saying meet me tomorrow, not a when are you free question??? am I right to think this shows no consideration?? and that he thinks I just be sitting at home doing nothing (not the case). He is giving you an option: tomorrow afternoon for lunch, breakfast, or dinner which ever one you can make. I mean, you can't possible be so busy that you can't make either one of them. If you wanted to see him then you could. Ariadne
Ariadne Posted November 4, 2007 Posted November 4, 2007 Oh, ~ You have not let me down, only yourself. ~ I had a feeling that you wouldn't live up to the previous plans ~ total inconsideration in assuming that I would even be free to meet you ~ For future ref with some girls you ask out... ---- Ewwwwwww..... I would never ever want to meet if I were that guy. Ever. Totally lame. Ariadne
Author bigheartkindsoul Posted November 4, 2007 Author Posted November 4, 2007 Well, What bothers me about the above is him saying meet me tomorrow, not a when are you free question??? am I right to think this shows no consideration?? and that he thinks I just be sitting at home doing nothing (not the case). He is giving you an option: tomorrow afternoon for lunch, breakfast, or dinner which ever one you can make. I mean, you can't possible be so busy that you can't make either one of them. If you wanted to see him then you could. Ariadne This is the thing though, I did have and have plans for today that I wanted and needed to get done. I just think it is normal to say "I'd like to see you when are you free" do you not think that reeks that he is lonely and has no plans for Sunday rather than actually wanting to make time for me???? I do.
Cobra_X30 Posted November 4, 2007 Posted November 4, 2007 What bothers me about the above is him saying meet me tomorrow, not a when are you free question??? am I right to think this shows no consideration?? and that he thinks I just be sitting at home doing nothing (not the case). I WILL NOT BE TAKEN FOR A RIDE, so am seriously thinking of just saying NO I DO NOT WANT TO SEE YOU, YOU SHOULD HAVE THOUGHT ABOUT THIS BEFORE YOU BLEW ME OUT BEFORE. This guy is a proven unreliable douche! I'm glad you shot him down. Better would have been to make plans to meet him somewhere and then never showed! LOL.... turn about is fairplay!
Ariadne Posted November 4, 2007 Posted November 4, 2007 Hey, This is the thing though, I did have and have plans for today that I wanted and needed to get done. The thing is, if you "really" wanted to meet him, you would have been able to make it for either breakfast, lunch, or dinner. That's plenty of choice. I just think it is normal to say "I'd like to see you when are you free" do you not think that reeks that he is lonely and has no plans for Sunday rather than actually wanting to make time for me???? I do. No, I don't make any of those things. He asked you in his "own" way, not yours or whatever normal is, and that means he has no plans for Sunday and is trying to make some with you, not that he is lonely or stuff like that. Ariadne
Author bigheartkindsoul Posted November 4, 2007 Author Posted November 4, 2007 Oh, ~ You have not let me down, only yourself. ~ I had a feeling that you wouldn't live up to the previous plans ~ total inconsideration in assuming that I would even be free to meet you ~ For future ref with some girls you ask out... ---- Ewwwwwww..... I would never ever want to meet if I were that guy. Ever. Totally lame. Ariadne Mmmm Did you read the bit about that he blew out previously date plans, well actually just was a no show, also that he never aplogised or said anything about it.....and that he also had a history with me of being a no show.
Author bigheartkindsoul Posted November 4, 2007 Author Posted November 4, 2007 This guy is a proven unreliable douche! I'm glad you shot him down. Better would have been to make plans to meet him somewhere and then never showed! LOL.... turn about is fairplay! Yes he is unrealiable but I wouldn't do that. I just hope he perhaps makes more of an effort with the next date.
Ariadne Posted November 4, 2007 Posted November 4, 2007 Yeah, Mmmm Did you read the bit about that he blew out previously date plans, well actually just was a no show, also that he never aplogised or said anything about it.....and that he also had a history with me of being a no show. Most likely if you made plans with him in the future he'd continue to ditch you, not inform you, etc etc. Since that's what he's been doing so far. No need for the patronizing tone. Ariadne
Author bigheartkindsoul Posted November 4, 2007 Author Posted November 4, 2007 Yeah, Mmmm Did you read the bit about that he blew out previously date plans, well actually just was a no show, also that he never aplogised or said anything about it.....and that he also had a history with me of being a no show. Most likely if you made plans with him in the future he'd continue to ditch you, not inform you, etc etc. Since that's what he's been doing so far. No need for the patronizing tone. Ariadne No tone at all, I'm not like that. But thank you I wasn't sure you saw that bit, I think I did the right thing. At least hopefully he might know a little more for when he starts going out with other girls and can be happy with one of them in time. He was the most unrealiable guy I have ever met (or should that be not met)
Cobra_X30 Posted November 4, 2007 Posted November 4, 2007 Yes he is unrealiable but I wouldn't do that. I just hope he perhaps makes more of an effort with the next date. Your too kind. He wont change until treating people this way bites him.
Author bigheartkindsoul Posted November 4, 2007 Author Posted November 4, 2007 Your too kind. He wont change until treating people this way bites him. Yeah I am Someone will come along who will lap that up hun
Ariadne Posted November 4, 2007 Posted November 4, 2007 Hey, I think I did the right thing. At least hopefully he might know a little more for when he starts going out with other girls and can be happy with one of them in time. Yeah, I guess so. If you were together for all that time and the romance never flourished, slim chance that it will now. Most likely you'll be frustrated with that guy again. Ariadne
LoisLane Posted November 4, 2007 Posted November 4, 2007 So this is the latest? Nothing much I see. Just dump that guy already.
Author bigheartkindsoul Posted November 4, 2007 Author Posted November 4, 2007 Sent response as below.... You have not let me down, only yourself. Thankfully I had a feeling that you wouldn't live up to the previous plans so went ahead and made other plans anyway. I am guessing you were lonely and drunk last night hence the spelling mistakes, and the total inconsideration in assuming that I would even be free to meet you today. For future ref with some girls you ask out over match or on real life, you might want to ask "when are you free as I'd like to take you out". Also I would suggest you go on the arranged dates, and do not blow them out otherwise I cannot imagine them agreeing to meeting you again. Sorry but someone has to tell you so might as well be the one who really isn't that bothered. I do hope you succeed with match and find what you are looking for. Oh gees I just got a response! Think I am just gonna ignore, right thing to do???? (name) I was not drunk or lonely last night, Im currently off the drink at the moment as im trying to lose weight. Really don’t want to get into a fight with you about how an email should be written as I have never claimed to be the most literate person. But everything I wrote I meant. So when are you free as I’d like to take you out? (name)
ThesinPride Posted November 4, 2007 Posted November 4, 2007 Just make it clear cut and to the point: "I am not interested in going out with you. Any further requests for going out will prompt me to put you on ignore."
Author bigheartkindsoul Posted November 4, 2007 Author Posted November 4, 2007 Just make it clear cut and to the point: "I am not interested in going out with you. Any further requests for going out will prompt me to put you on ignore." Oh thank you Thesinpride . I sent this: There is no argument here, just was saying it how it is. You did have your chance, we'd made a date not that long ago, you forgot so why would I now agree to go out with you knowing you probably forget or be a no show and won't even be polite enough to apologise. I just am not the girl to be taken for a fool anymore I'm afraid.
Ariadne Posted November 4, 2007 Posted November 4, 2007 Well, It depends if you have feelings for the guy and want to give him a second chance. He sounds a bit on the desperate side. Ariadne
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