The Loacker Posted November 3, 2007 Posted November 3, 2007 So there's this girl in my class who I've been talking to for a few weeks now. The thing is, when we're hanging out (usually while we're working on a group project) she sends me indicators of interest through the roof, like she literally finds any excuse to touch me. Now I've asked her out twice, but both times she had legit reasons for not being able to go out (first time she had like 2 exams and 2 projects due that week, second time it was one of her best friends' birthday, and I actually know the guy and know it's his birthday). So now my question is, what do I do? Do I go and ask her out a third time, or do I let her bring it up since she's showing me a lot of interest? I mean I've already asked her out twice, and even though she did have legit reasons it's sort of off-putting.
Tyra Posted November 3, 2007 Posted November 3, 2007 Don't get upset about the situation. She probably want to spend some time with you but just haven't had the chance to, just like you said. Cause she been busy doing this and that.So just ask her when does she think the two of you can be able to chill. I mean, if you're an interesting guy, she'll find time to spend with you.
Sean0775 Posted November 3, 2007 Posted November 3, 2007 3rd time's a charm. Give it one more good shot. Ask her to have dinner with you on a Wednesday or some odd night where there's never anything going on. If you think she'll say she doesn't have enough time, try asking her to just get a cup of coffee with you instead.
LoisLane Posted November 3, 2007 Posted November 3, 2007 If you have the guts to do it again then ask her. I hope this time she doesn't come up with any excuses. If she does, move on and find someone who is really interested.
Timberlane Posted November 3, 2007 Posted November 3, 2007 In a joking voice ask her a third time. Then say "Now if you are busy I can't ask you anymore and you're going to have to do the future asking." That lets you off the hook for that responsibility if she again has an excuse.
Phateless Posted November 3, 2007 Posted November 3, 2007 Keep hanging out with her, wait a little bit longer. She could still be getting comfortable with you. Are you certain she's single? I would try to gently make fun of her for always being so busy. If she likes you, she'll find time for you. btw, i see you're using MM...
Author The Loacker Posted November 3, 2007 Author Posted November 3, 2007 MM? What's that? Yeah I figure I'll ask her out a third time, and this time let her pick a day she's free. If that doesn't work out, then I'll just let it go.
Author The Loacker Posted November 8, 2007 Author Posted November 8, 2007 Update: So I didn't see her over the weekend, then yesterday me and her had a disagreement (about some class-related stuff). Anyway, I called her later that night and left a voicemail saying I was just calling to talk and see if she wanted to get together for coffee this week. I did this completely not expecting her to call back, but she texted me this morning saying that she was busy last night and that she'll call me later tonight. So she called, we talked about our class for a bit, then we made plans to get coffee on Friday. She was calling about our class, but she was sort of stalling on the phone for a bit, so I figured she was wanting me to ask her out. Anyway, the one thing kinda sorta bugging me (although it's probably nothing) is that she wanted to meet at the coffee shop rather than walking over. She also suggested getting together in the afternoon, but when I sounded a little put off she changed her mind and said she could do later. Again, it's probably nothing, but still I wonder if it means anything. I'm probably overanalyzing, but I'm getting some good vibes, so I'm just gonna go with the flow for now. We'll see how it turns out.
Phateless Posted November 8, 2007 Posted November 8, 2007 coffee is definitely a good sign. you're doing well bro, keep it up!
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