bigheartkindsoul Posted November 1, 2007 Posted November 1, 2007 Ok internet date from the other night, has emailed me today. Eek heres where me being to nice and feeling bad, lets me down because I have to let him down and feel bad. I copied and paste his email below:.....oh gawd help me HI Debbie Thank you for a lovely evening. I did enjoy your company you are very chatty which is a good thing because girls I have been out with before, it's like trying to get blood out of a stone. Would you like to meet up again sometime or not? You are a very attractive woman. At the moment I don't have a computer due to it going bang and I have also have lost my phone. I am having to use the computer at work to write this. Hope to see you soon princess.
Pyro Posted November 1, 2007 Posted November 1, 2007 Just be honest and tell him that you didn't feel a connection between the two of you.
loyalfriend Posted November 1, 2007 Posted November 1, 2007 You want to let him down? Or is he letting you down? HUH?? I don't get it?
Lyssa Posted November 1, 2007 Posted November 1, 2007 Did you not have a good time with him? No chemistry? Are you trying to get out on the next date?
Author bigheartkindsoul Posted November 1, 2007 Author Posted November 1, 2007 You want to let him down? Or is he letting you down? HUH?? I don't get it? Me letting him down, I didn't feel anything and he just was not for me, and as I offered to buy him a drink he declined, fine, but never offered to buy a drink - oh and we are talking diet coke here not Bollinger. Just yells tight to me. A few other things I just didn't see us gelling at all for a further date.
Author bigheartkindsoul Posted November 1, 2007 Author Posted November 1, 2007 Did you not have a good time with him? No chemistry? Are you trying to get out on the next date? Lol yeah hun see above ^^^^^^^^ he could also tell a plane model ie. boeing 747, from its noise at take off and decided too tell me. Kinda off putting a little. and no he was not a pilot either....lol
Lyssa Posted November 1, 2007 Posted November 1, 2007 Me letting him down, I didn't feel anything and he just was not for me, and as I offered to buy him a drink he declined, fine, but never offered to buy a drink - oh and we are talking diet coke here not Bollinger. Just yells tight to me. A few other things I just didn't see us gelling at all for a further date. Hmmm... not good for a first date unless he's trying to test you. You know "let's see if she'd stick around even though I am tight". Why don't you just be honest with him and tell him that you just don't see a second date happening as the chemistry isn't there or whatever it is. Whenever I go on a date and things are just not right for me, I usually tell that guy straight away. It saves us both the time.
plainoldjared Posted November 1, 2007 Posted November 1, 2007 Hmmm... not good for a first date unless he's trying to test you. You know "let's see if she'd stick around even though I am tight". Why don't you just be honest with him and tell him that you just don't see a second date happening as the chemistry isn't there or whatever it is. Whenever I go on a date and things are just not right for me, I usually tell that guy straight away. It saves us both the time. I second this notion...
Author bigheartkindsoul Posted November 1, 2007 Author Posted November 1, 2007 Just be honest and tell him that you didn't feel a connection between the two of you. Hmmm... not good for a first date unless he's trying to test you. You know "let's see if she'd stick around even though I am tight". Why don't you just be honest with him and tell him that you just don't see a second date happening as the chemistry isn't there or whatever it is. Whenever I go on a date and things are just not right for me, I usually tell that guy straight away. It saves us both the time. I second this notion... Thank you, i thought this was best idea but wanted others opinions so cheers for coming back, and so quickly too. I'll do it now.....eeeek
Star Gazer Posted November 1, 2007 Posted November 1, 2007 You're not interested because he didn't offer to buy you a drink? Ever heard of going dutch on a first internet-meeting-date?
Author bigheartkindsoul Posted November 1, 2007 Author Posted November 1, 2007 You're not interested because he didn't offer to buy you a drink? Ever heard of going dutch on a first internet-meeting-date? thank god, its not just me then that thinks its a def red flag and very tight. Coke as well!!
Star Gazer Posted November 1, 2007 Posted November 1, 2007 thank god, its not just me then that thinks its a def red flag and very tight. Coke as well!! You're not understanding me. My point is I think YOU are being unreasonable for not being interested in HIM simply because he wouldn't buy you a drink. Not offering and/or not ponying up for a woman on a first date does not necessarily mean he's "tight" about money. Maybe it simply didn't occur to him to offer you a coke?
Author bigheartkindsoul Posted November 1, 2007 Author Posted November 1, 2007 You're not understanding me. My point is I think YOU are being unreasonable for not being interested in HIM simply because he wouldn't buy you a drink. Not offering and/or not ponying up for a woman on a first date does not necessarily mean he's "tight" about money. Maybe it simply didn't occur to him to offer you a coke? And I did say above in other posts that it was not just that, that was just the final little thing. We just did not connect...read again ^^^^^^^^^^^^
Author bigheartkindsoul Posted November 1, 2007 Author Posted November 1, 2007 And I did say above in other posts that it was not just that, that was just the final little thing. We just did not connect...read again ^^^^^^^^^^^^ You will also see that I did in fact offer to buy him a drink when I got there.
Star Gazer Posted November 1, 2007 Posted November 1, 2007 And I did say above in other posts that it was not just that, that was just the final little thing. We just did not connect...read again ^^^^^^^^^^^^ If you didn't connect, you didn't connect. There's no need to rely on silly B.S. reasons to justify it to yourself.
Author bigheartkindsoul Posted November 1, 2007 Author Posted November 1, 2007 If you didn't connect, you didn't connect. There's no need to rely on silly B.S. reasons to justify it to yourself. read again, it was just something else that I didn't like about him.
Star Gazer Posted November 1, 2007 Posted November 1, 2007 read again, it was just something else that I didn't like about him. No, how about YOU read again: IMO, it's unreasonable not to like that about him. It was a first-meeting, he doesn't owe you a drink or anything else.
Author bigheartkindsoul Posted November 1, 2007 Author Posted November 1, 2007 Just plain manners where I am from. But guess we all have different up bringings.
Lishy Posted November 1, 2007 Posted November 1, 2007 Star stop being so anal and read what she is writing! You are too quick to judge when you dont even get what the OP said! I would be very put off if a guy didnt offer me a drink on the first date. That would put me off of a guy who I otherwise found attractive. Let him down easily Big .... Its not your fault he is a tight bastid!!!!!!! hahhahaha Ps.... Why are you internet dating? You live in the party Capital - Get out n have fun and stop worrying about meeting a guy, it always happens when you least expect it.
Author bigheartkindsoul Posted November 1, 2007 Author Posted November 1, 2007 Star stop being so anal and read what she is writing! You are too quick to judge when you dont even get what the OP said! I would be very put off if a guy didnt offer me a drink on the first date. That would put me off of a guy who I otherwise found attractive. Let him down easily Big .... Its not your fault he is a tight bastid!!!!!!! hahhahaha Ps.... Why are you internet dating? You live in the party Capital - Get out n have fun and stop worrying about meeting a guy, it always happens when you least expect it. Ahh thank you hun, for all that you said. I just think a coke is not asking alot, if it was indeed champers then thats a different story, and I did offer at the beginning of the night to buy him a drink. I live just outside the big smoke but out there tomorrow evening with the girls
Trojan John Posted November 1, 2007 Posted November 1, 2007 I have to agree that at least offering to buy a drink is a pretty standard dating principle, especially when she offered to get him one. That said, stop agonizing about what to say to the guy and just tell him you're not interested in the most straight-forward way possible.
Author bigheartkindsoul Posted November 1, 2007 Author Posted November 1, 2007 I have to agree that at least offering to buy a drink is a pretty standard dating principle, especially when she offered to get him one. That said, stop agonizing about what to say to the guy and just tell him you're not interested in the most straight-forward way possible. Its done, but i was nice & polite.
Lishy Posted November 1, 2007 Posted November 1, 2007 Yes you did the right thing hon Its a hard job, but someone has to do it!
plainoldjared Posted November 1, 2007 Posted November 1, 2007 Hmmm... not good for a first date unless he's trying to test you. You know "let's see if she'd stick around even though I am tight".quote] Hi beautiful, My 2 cents, if he's testing you on the first date drop em like a bad habit. Its not only polite (considering you offred him first) but its a nice gesture that shows he likes you and wants to add more time to your date even if the added time was just a few sips of some diet coke I would think that (after that email he sent you) he did like what he saw so then whats with the lack of manners right? Who knows but its a good indicator that he's not a very thoughtful person...
Author bigheartkindsoul Posted November 1, 2007 Author Posted November 1, 2007 Hmmm... not good for a first date unless he's trying to test you. You know "let's see if she'd stick around even though I am tight".quote] Hi beautiful, My 2 cents, if he's testing you on the first date drop em like a bad habit. Its not only polite (considering you offred him first) but its a nice gesture that shows he likes you and wants to add more time to your date even if the added time was just a few sips of some diet coke I would think that (after that email he sent you) he did like what he saw so then whats with the lack of manners right? Who knows but its a good indicator that he's not a very thoughtful person... Hey hot stuff Thanks, it wasn't only this there really was no connection but the drink thing was just a red flag, I know I did the right thing (for once) So many on here have said too which helps re affirm this.
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