SadShamrock Posted November 1, 2007 Posted November 1, 2007 Hi, My boyfriend and I recently broke up. He broke up with me. It was a horrible break up. I moved out of state to be with him, and he basically deserted me...however...the story goes... He found a text message on my phone from an ex boyfriend, which was sent by mistake. At first, he did not tell me he saw the message. His initial reaction was to act coldly by avoiding me and the situation. During this time, I tried to find out what the message was about- it turned out that it was sent by mistake. I told him this. At first he was happy and forgiving. We spent the entire day together, but he would take little pot shots at me about the ex. The next day he broke up with me. He said that it was too much for him right now (he has a lot going on). In the break up conversation, he told me that he was happy that he saw the message...because he knew we wouldn't work out, and he also told me that he never wanted me to come down in the first place, etc. His family and friends were all in shock by our break up. All of them denied that what he said could be true. He took me to the airport (after a week of not talking). On the ride there, we hardly spoke until someone called and he asked me what my friend thought about everything. He opened up and apologized for treating me the way that he did. He said all he could think about was the message and it just crushed him, because now he didn't know who I was or if he could trust me. He said that he felt like if it didn't work out this time (the rest of the time I was down there was wonderful)- it was over. Anyway, at the airport, we just kind of cried and held each other for about 2 hours or so. We fought a lot over the last year or so because we were both going through so many changes, but we tried really hard to be together. We were together almost 4 years and we were best friends before that for about 3. Anyway, we both kind of knew that would be the last time we saw one another. Anyway, we agreed that we would be friends. Since then, I've been the one to initiate the calls. We talk when I call. I try to keep as casual as I can. However, I lost it tonight . I cried. And I told him that I just felt like he didn't want to be friends. I apologized for trying to be his friend, and he didn't mind that I called. But he never called me (except when drunk and I'm asleep). However, he answers when I call and stays with me. But I just felt like I was pushing him to be friends. Anyway, I pushed and said that I just wanted us to be friends because I wanted to regain his trust. He admitted that he couldn't trust me and it wasn't enough time to know if he could. But how do you regain someone's trust in a situation like this? I love him to death, and I hate that he is hurting. I hate that I"m hurting. I'm not sure what to do. I'm cmopletely lost.
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