First day of NC add your daily thoughts and lets beat the NC disease together

[mikesinclair]

Hi,

 

New to all of this, and especially heartache.

I have been reading lots of encouraging thoughts which is making me believe again

Anyway, I would like to invite you all to my NC today or anyday thread

This i hope will help us all share our views on,.. i nearly called, i nearly IM but didnt...

I hope i can report on this positivley for good, I dont want to break so im hoping with support i wont fail...

Well first day and it's not going to good, but ill be back tomorow stronger.

 

[baby-boo]

the 1st week is a nightmare, but stay strong x x x

[mikesinclair]

im trying, if only my brain would stop thinking

[pinktiger]

I called him for lunch and he said no...

 

I was stupid. Now I am mad at myself...

 

Stupid Stupid Stupid

[lexi29]

I have gone thru three weeks of no contact (he broke contact twice- once a week) and let me tell you the first week is absolute hell. You will have to stop yourself ten times a day from calling your ex. I know I did. You will watch the phone and wait for it to ring. When it does ring your heart will drop in your chest as you hope it is your ex. Yes, the first week is torture. I didn't think I would make it through. You have to either keep busy or literally cry so much you are too weak to get to the phone/computer. but you can look forward to the 2nd and 3rd weeks were the urge is not as strong. The 2nd week I did break down and text him and he called me that same day. this week (3rd week) I was ok until he called last night. One thing about no contact you might think it will make you feel better to break it and give in and call him/her but it actually makes it worse. Its sent me back to day #1 the first time he called me after a week and a half. But if you hang in there it does get better.

[mikesinclair]

I called him for lunch and he said no...

 

I was stupid. Now I am mad at myself...

 

Stupid Stupid Stupid

 

 

How long have you been apart ?

 

don't worry I called yesterday and was selling myself to her, reasons why we should be together etc ... so shameful. No More

But in the back of my mind im hoping the NC will get her in touch with me.

This is a no win situation for me at the moment, im sure we will all look back on this soon and find it funny.

If anyone wants to chat online please ask for my MSN ( not sure how i can give it out tho ) but hey, when one door closes, im sure i will meet some great people on here

[pinktiger]

this weekend will be the third weekend. I still can not think of the day we broke up it will make me cry like crazy. we did not go NC not even LC. we still see each other but not in the romantic way... there is no way we are going back as a couple. we are trying to see if we can stay as friends...

[MattyTee]

Good luck folks! It does get easier in time but I still get horrible pangs now and then - in fact last night I was sooooo close to going on MSN. It's been a month for me now. I had to admit at the back of my mind that I hoped she would get in contact. She hasn't and seems to be most happy with her new single life - so that was a bit of a setback. At least I'm starting to focus on myself now and things are easier

[mikesinclair]

Day two, i woke up thinking of her, and blaming myself for what had happend, the words she said, you rejected me.. seem to really hurt the most, as the pressures we were under ( i wont go in to that ) but she cant see that as an reason

i have deleted her on msn, out my phone, myspace and facebook. purely because i dont want to become and annoying part of her life...

its soooo hard not to contact my best friend and she how she is doing.

 

this is driving me insane.... : (

[alwayshurt]

I broke NC last week. She replied same day saying that she has no contacted me (also to wish me happy birthday) because I had told her so.

 

She said she's sorry for what happened and that she looks forward to see me again. Some people here told me that it can be a message leading to reconcilaiton others say that she just wants to be friend.

I haven't replied to that (it's been a week already but I also was overseas and came back yesterday....she knows that) and really don't know what to do. It's a terrible feeling!

[Amy22]

Today is day 6 for me and it only seems to be getting harder. I do hope after the first week it is easier. I so badly want to call him today. I hate all of it. I hope I make it through the day.

[Bosiell]

About 3 weeks for me now. I havent found it too bad really, apart from the isolated very close to sending a text occasion. She knows how I feel about her, sending any more heart searching texts or mails I know will not make any more likely to changer her mind.

 

Hardest thing I find than me doing NC, is the NC from her side. Everyday or weekend that passes and she has not been in touch with me, is another nail in the coffin of any chances we will get back together. To me currently that is the hardest thing to cope with

[mikesinclair]

Hardest thing I find than me doing NC, is the NC from her side. Everyday or weekend that passes and she has not been in touch with me, is another nail in the coffin of any chances we will get back together. To me currently that is the hardest thing to cope with

 

 

im feeling you on that mate.. really am.

I tell you what, i have never gone thru something like this before... It harder that my brain still tells me there is a chance, do i contact one more time to get the final answer.

 

Be stong people, I am in the same boat... post on here if what you would say to ur ex, maybe that will help.

I bet they are not doing what we are doing now, thats for sure.

[niceguy27]

Today is Day 2 since I FINALLY started NC. Was on LC for about 2 months (she still had things over the house). We took a lot of time to both clear our heads and what not BUT she kept it in the back of her head that I would still be there. Its been a lot easier this time around to go full NC because Ive said everything I could to her.

 

Now that its final and no more connections for us, this is the only option left for me to heal. Plus, she is now faced with the poosibility that she wont talk to me again.

 

I think we all get to a point where we are just emotionally drained from the up and downs of a breakup. I know I am and I look forward to using this NC as a challenge and something to focus on.

[Bosiell]

Hardest thing I find than me doing NC, is the NC from her side. Everyday or weekend that passes and she has not been in touch with me, is another nail in the coffin of any chances we will get back together. To me currently that is the hardest thing to cope with

 

 

im feeling you on that mate.. really am.

I tell you what, i have never gone thru something like this before... It harder that my brain still tells me there is a chance, do i contact one more time to get the final answer.

 

Be stong people, I am in the same boat... post on here if what you would say to ur ex, maybe that will help.

I bet they are not doing what we are doing now, thats for sure.[/quote]

 

 

Nope, ive been in relationhips before, but never known anything like this. If I was to contact her again, then it would be a very long letter, too much for this forum, not just a simple I miss you text etc.

[amythan]

I know how you feel. It is my day 7, one week ! I start to be used to my deep sadness and lose hope. I thought he will contact me but it is not the case. I never known such a terrible pain but I guess it can just be better ..

I send this kind of long email and I do not regret, I felt i should try, do not give up. He said I need to talk to you, I def not ignoring ur email and ... I was convinced he will be back .. dumped twice. My pain was terrible and I start nc.

 

I am convinced I can move on when I realize he will not be back. Now i am still waiting, even if i do not like to admit it.

[MattyTee]

Despite everything there is a part of me still waiting too *hugs to everyone*

[AriaIncognito]

I made it to almost 5 months and broke NC yesterday. Oops. Thankfully, I kept it light as I was bored in an airport, but it of course made me just a tiny bit happy to learn he was open to replying and also has been reading my online journal still. I didn't ask if he was involved with anyone and he didn't ask me. Though he probably knows all about me since he reads my journal. him on the other hand, closed book lol

 

Anyway, I guess I'm resetting the counter, but I know all isn't lost. I've made it a long way from back when we broke up. I only can hope I'll find the right man, soon.

[NotAgain]

Today has been the first day I haven't contacted him at all. And I got a text a few hours ago, saying "don't forget to put your clock back an hour tonight at midnight" :rolleyes:How lame. So he dumps me for no real apparent reason (by ignoring me then telling a friend it's over...he's ****ing 27...) he leaves me texting, calling, hanging outside his house crying in the middle of the night...I'm only 19. And then he randomly texts me that the day I haven't contacted him. I didn't answer. 1. I have no credit on my phone anyway which I'm very pleased about! 2. what the **** is there to say to that? And 3. who the hell do he think he is texting me something so pathetic after he did that! And the main reason is, he told our friend he will talk to me when he is ready and when I come to terms with it. Not even giving it a second thought that maybe I wouldn't want to. The only time I'm answering him is if he says something productive. Not something as lame as that...what did he expect me to say?? Thanks?? I dunno why he done it...maybe to try and be friends, or maybe to just be an ******* and laugh at me and play games, or maybe he's looking for a way to slither back in. Either way.... I am pretty pleased however - because I had the strength to ignore it and I bet that made him think. I now have the upper hand...or at least don't look like a desperate prat anymore. I'm still stunned he'd text that agfter all that he did...

 

It is hard, but it'll be worth it. When he told my friend he'll talk to me when he wants, blah blah blah..that made my pride come into place and said **** him. That was what I needed to not contact him unless he has something of importance to say/ask..which I doubt he will. Good luck everyone, it'll be worth it in the end. To heal. And if you want them back it's probably the best way too, because people hate being ignored. And if they really don't give a ****...it will help you heal at least .

[pinktiger]

just finished crying. I feel better now. At least I did not contact him whole day today!!!

[Bosiell]

Tell you all what.. I am changing my sod_ing mobile number tomorrow. That way I dont know either way if she is trying to contact me! Pathetic isnt it, but Ill do whatever it takes. I am so sick of wanting every call or text to be her. I fool like a complete tosser with all this, draining my soul.

 

Love!! Well whatever, what is it anyway???

[MattyTee]

*hugs* Pink! Well done on keeping out of contact, I've been crying for about an hour now and I feel better, I might even be able to sleep now.

 

*hugs* Bos as well! It's not pathetic, we do what we can - it's good you are looking out for your self. I know how you feel. I broke down tonight because I didn't get any contact from her! It's been 4 sodding weeks and I don't break down every night! It's like a tide, it comes and goes!

 

Hope you folks feel better soon

[MattyTee]

Oh and I broke NC today Silly git that I am, invited her to play Scrabble on Facebook (we used to play Scrabble all the time). She denied my request. Oh well ... back to it tomorrow ...

[pinktiger]

MattyTee... we are human, we are weak... we will be better tomorrow if it comes...

[AriaIncognito]

Today has been the first day I haven't contacted him at all. And I got a text a few hours ago, saying "don't forget to put your clock back an hour tonight at midnight"

 

Are you in the US? Clocks dont go back til next weekend in the US...