how do you let go

[lexi29]

I am in so much pain. I don't even want to wake up in the morning, You know those nightmares you have where you think they are real and its something about your loved ones dying or you are being chased or just something truly horrible happens? And then you wake up and you are in this haze between sleep and dreaming and you become fully awake and realize it wasn't real it was just a bad nightmare? ANd you feel this incredible sense of relief that everything is ok and the bad horrible thing was just a dream adn didn't happen?

 

Well waking up for me is just the reverse of all that. I wake up and reality IS the nightmare.

 

Its been only one day of no contact and its brutal. I don't know how to let go. I don't want to . My bf of 3 years was just talking about getting engaged two weeks ago. And then with practically no warning he just cut me out of his life on tuesday. I saw him on wed, got most of my stuff, he hugged and kissed me goodbye, said we would be friends, he hinted at FWB, said no there is no one else, that he just doens't want to date anyone right now. that he felt tied down with me. He also said horrible hurtful things- that even though I tried my hardest, even though he thinks I'm gorgoeous and we had great sex and I'm the person that he's been closest to in his entire life, even though his eight year old son loves me and is very attached to me, that he (my bf) just doesn't want me around anymore. Just like that. its all over.

 

I can't go three hours without crying, without some memory of us popping into my mind. I just don't know how to let go. I don't understand how he can care less about me when two weeks ago he was talking about marriage. It was like he couldnt' get me and my stuff out of his apartment fast enough. Then the ultimate insult- I dont' want to date you-(after I'd given him EVERYTHING he thought he'd always wanted) but we can be FWB as long as you don't come over more than once a week or so. And its not just letting go of my bf but of his son too. I was so close to him. Like a favorite aunt or something. Every time he saw me it made him so happy. And i used to see them both every day. and now to go from that to nothing. Just like I never existed. How do you do this?!

[heartoutside]

I went through something very similar, 2 weeks before we broke up out the blue we were talking about where to have our wedding, and what kind of ring she wanted, etc etc. Then out of the blue, she asked for a break. That was almost 4 months ago.

 

Don't hold your emotion back, you need to just let it all out. Find a friend and cry all day if you have too. I was lucky in that my brother just happened to be in town staying with me for the first month, so I had someone to talk to every day, esp when I first woke up, that is going to be the hardest part, when you first wake up.

 

You're going to have a ton of questions that you'll keep asking yourself, but whatever you do, know that you aren't to blame. Don't blame yourself and don't think if you had done something different maybe he would have changed his mind. I wrote all the questions I had down on paper, that helps as well.

 

It's going to be hard. That first month was probably the worst month of my life, but it gets easier.......post on here as much as you want, vent. Also, do your best not to sit around the house. Go out, go to a park, walk around, don't sit idle.

 

That's all I can say. It will get easier with time, but I know that's of little comfort right now....

[sao2]

We do it because there is no other choice. You don't have the option to NOT let go. That is how we let go. That is how someone who was such an important part of our lives for so long becomes someone from our past.

 

Unfortunately I wish I had better advice for you. Something along the lines of do this for xxx amount of time and you will feel better but I don't.

 

You did what you could, if he doesn't want anything more from you then GAME OVER. It hurts because we second guess ourselves and wonder what if. We wonder if there is some magic spell we could cast to either get them back or move on.

 

There isn't. At the end of the day the only solace that we can find is knowing that letting go is the only option besides the pain of burning a candle for someone that isn't coming back to you.

[Jmina]

erh,love.. it is impossible to let go with how new this break up is...

if we could all let go within a week or two or even month there would be no problem. there would be no "broken heart"

 

give yourself TIME

 

this means all you can do is sit through your feelings, not beg to have him back, keep your dignity.

 

 

during the day make sure you are doing things, cry yourself to sleep at night. never go more than a day or two without letting your feelings out and crying at this early stage.

 

this is exactly what it is. the early stage. the hardest stage. it will last a few weeks before you will be able to feel 'happy' for a few moments.

 

you have to ride it, sit through it, work through it, cry through it what ever you have to do. believe me i know how hard it is.

 

sit through your urges to contact him, bash a pillow cry till your eye lids are puffy but jsut dont contact him. in an hour or so the urge will have passed and you know you can do it again.

 

the best thing to do now is love yourself like a best frined. like a lover.

 

you did the best you could, so dont feel bad. you loved him with your everyhing and it wasnt enough, so let him go, he has now given you the chance to HEAL, then GROW, then find the RIGHT ONE.

 

you will learn so many lessons through this rollar coaster of a breakup and coping.

keep posting

 

 

Jmina

 

p.s. oh and the way to let go is

- stopping all contact

- be WILLING to let go. key word is wiling. you dont have to know exactly how but you do have to be willing. in time you will start to feel that you are willing to let go. at the moment you are rushing yourself saying "how do i let go!" darling its too early, that is a HUGE stage to get to. most of us that are deeply attatced and in lvoe dont get there for a couple of months if not more. so dont ask yourself how to let go, ask your self what makes you happy and and then do it. tell yourself you are willing to let go. remind yourself every day that you love yourself and love evreyhing about yourself. it will get better. if you can love once, you can love again. your heart isnt dead, its broken and will heal with the wonderful human spirit we all have.

 

goodluck.

[MissJ72]

Thank you for responding to my post lexi! I am so sorry...I am crying alot also...but if there is any consolation i dated my daughter's father for seven years and was strung along..and I loved every part of him....he just left and went to another state..but i got over him..and you will get over this...I am now trying to get over my new love after six months...and was thrown away like some garbage also....I understand the crying thing...but cry....until you get over it....and then one day soon you will be...im crying now..but yesterday i was fine....comes and gos your pain will too. If you ever feeling like talking to get through this you can reach me on my email..feel free to contact me again...Im suffering too...and it helps when we can encourage people...and also that dont want to be tied down crap is such bs.!

[blueladybird]

OH sweetie i can imagine how you feel!!!

My ex did the same to me. we were together for over 2years..i know its not as long as yours...i thought we would get married..how naive i was!!!it took a while to move on, but i guess i postponed the time..why?? cos i didnt know how to let go..i called him, cried, asked him how he could treat me this way. I should have cut off all contact but i didnt. I cried every morning i woke up!!...i thought about what could have been ALL DAY.

I said to myself, what could i have done to make him stay? was i too clingy? too needy?? too impateint? too argumenative..ahh..i blamed myself. I gave this guy my everything..but he left me with nothing.

To be honest, its not gonna be easy but u have to allow time do its job..for the next few days, u r gonna think to urself..' i am gonna get him back'.u may not want to actually move on...with time, u will realise you have to move on.

Would you blive this guy came back to me about a year later?? I was over him by then..and i am glad to say i am out of that bondage!!

See, you need to cry,cry cry..think...feel bad. but u need to try to encourage yourself with positive thots...such as, u will get better whether u want to ot not..but u also need to get ur mind set on moving on.not too fast though.

NC helps a lot. One of the hardest things about break ups is that yoyu miss the person soo much. Right now, trust me u dont wanna be frends with him...i blive that what ever is yours would come back..if you let it loose. He may go out and mess with other chics..buT NO ONE WILL REPLACE YOU. he will know you were good to him..he may come back after some time..a lot of times they do..he may not..

 

but the focus has to be on youu!!!

it will take time, read websites, they help a lot as you get to read stories about ppl who have thru worse. I know some1 who's fiance left her5 days to the weddding. now she is married..he came back to her..but she didnt take him back and she married someone else later.

 

talk to you friends...i didnt have appeitie for a long time..but do things u enjoy doin. it will be hard cos for me, anytime i went to the cinema, i thot bout him..he was so entwined in my life that eveythin i did reminded me of him cos we did it togther..but it will get better.

I knwo how ur feeling, but life goes on. a few yrs from now u will look back and smile...you never know what may hapen tomorrw. Its not the end till its the end..pls dont call to beg!! dont!!!!

just let him be...the grass may not be so green outside...but u need to focus on you....get urself occupied, work? classes? somethins!! dont just sit in all day and cry for the next month. this week, meditate, talk to ppl. read websites, try to encourage yourself,..cry..cry...just let out all emotions..it will get better!!

 

Trust me..i didnt blive i wud get over this guy..he was my everything..but after 7 months.i was WELLL OVERRR HIM....i never stopped lovin him per say, but i was over him. and the fact that he treated me so bad....made me relaise (whilst i was recoverin) that he was so wrong to have treated me that way. he came back anyway,

Back to you, take it a day at a time...

talk to family, friends.ppl have been thru this and worse..you wil get thru it..and u never know when he will start to regret what he had..he may come back..but by then you would be fine.

Stay strong..and stay in touch...

 

the way i handled it..i talked to a lot of frends..refused to eat for about 3 days..no jokes1!!! lost soo much weight, cried, cried cried, thot soo much bout him..but graudally the tears became less...the hurt became less.sometimes i wud feel like i was physicaly in pain!! i wud lie in the bathroom and cryyyy.my heart would almost fall out..but know that it wud get better..week by week....xxx

u need to want to get over this though. pls:-).xxxxxxxxxxxx

[Trialbyfire]

lexi, it's only been one day. Let yourself grieve for your loss. Cry and cry some more. It's okay to do. Right now is not the time to stress about letting go and it's definitely not the time to suppress your emotions. Take care of yourself and don't forget to eat. Been there, so I can easily understand.

[blueladybird]

MISS J-- i only just read your message!!

7 years is so long!!!!!

it will take much longer to get over him.....my mother had a child , when she was much younger, this man did not marry her, but left her and got married to somene else. many years later, she is married to the father of her 4 children..(who are all grown), including me..

i can only imagine the pain your going through.......

 

 

pls give it time.....

[lexi29]

I just want to thank you all for your kind words and taking the time to respond. if my bf had been horrible to me while we were together then this would have been easier but he wasn't. he was encouraging me to spend more time with him, to become closer to his son, two days before he broke up with me he asked me if would be able to start picking his son up from daycare every day starting next week!! So it was just like he woke up one day and decided he didn't want me anymore. Thats what makes this so hard. Two weeks ago he was talking about marriage and 2 days ago couldn't wait to get rid of me. I know its only been one day but as much as I have cried and grieved I feel like a week has passed. It has literally only been 2 days since I have seen him and it feels like weeks. I know that everyone says get out of the house and keep busy- well everywhere I go reminds me of HIM! I can't even go to the grocery store without breaking down. I went yesterday and all I could think about was how we used to go shopping there together and how recently I had told him I was going to stop at the store (we didnt' have plans to see eachother that day) and he and his son showed up there to suprise me. I was in one of the aisles and his son run up to me and hugged me and afterward I was done shopping my boyfriend took us to dinner.

 

I just dont get how you so suddenly and completely cut someone out of your life? I know I must sound like a broken record but I saw my bf almost every day and we talked every day for the last 3 years. He was one of my best friends and to be abandoned so abruptly just doesn't make any sense and it is hard to deal with.

[blueladybird]

OMG.........actually my ex was totally LOVING to me..during our relationsip. The fact that he was so good to me made me think to myself..' im i the bad person here'?..why did he just leave?

one day he was showing me so much affection, love, care,buying me all i wanted. hugging me in the underground..he was so caring to me....and when we split..i was in denial as i refused to blive the same guy who i thot would die for me was so happy to let go of me.

 

the coldness..my goodness.

 

i need an answer myself...how can some1 be so cold? after being so loving? why?????????????????

 

keep living..its so hard..but with time things might be revealed....you dont know what may happen in a month..just take it day by day.

 

 

about going out and breaking down..it happened to me as well. We did everything togther..the memories..i would go somewhere and think bout him..i would look on my sofa and remember the times he held me ..sigh.....life....

 

it will get better..you may not belive it....im so sorry....

he may come back though..later..

[Sanslatete]

The pain feels enldess, the first week was pure perjury, I've never felt so low and I nearly didn't make it, didn't want to go on. She was the world to me, I adored her. We spoke every day at least twice and saw each other every other day. We text constantly and did everything together, for six and a half years. I wanted to marry her, she was everything I'd ever dreamt of. Then she went all cold on me suddenly and called it off within a month, (she found somebody else but didn't have the guts to tell me), I couldn't believe the change in her, she spoke to me differently, wouldn't hug me properly like she used to and would only kiss like a 10 year old. I was heartbroken witnessing this change in the only woman I've truly loved. The month following the break up was agony, I couldn't eat or sleep and my head just revolved with thoughts of her. I tried to keep myself busy, jogging, biking..etc, but nearly run myself into the ground, using loads of energy and not eating nearly killed me. I cried like a baby for weeks and was tortured by nightmares of her every night. I'm three months in now and still feel like crap, but not as bad as I did two months ago. Sure, I have my bad days (which is about every other day) when I long for her to come back to me, but, although they're painful (very) they are dealable. I just hope to get to the point where I can go for days without thinking and pining for her, but I guess that's a long way off yet. In short, you're in good company and certainly not alone.

[Reactor]

I feel for you lexi29, I do. But you can rest assured (and while it may not help you very much) that we've all been there.

 

I to have been like you. Had mood swings, bouts of extreme rage and anger, depression, nightmares, times when I just wanted to cry. Don't worry its natural to grieve but eventually you will get out of it. I know it doesn't seem that way now, but you will - trust me.

 

The pain won't just disappear but it will get more manageable and eventually it will go away. For example I've been away from my ex now for 4 months and till a few days ago I couldn't stop thinking about her and myself and I kept telling myself it was all my fault. It wasn't of course, but I kept telling myself it was. Then a light kind of switched on in my head and something hit me really hard. I'm not healed by any means but now I feel much better, its kind of like I've accepted where I went wrong and just put the relationship behind me. To me now, whats done is done.

 

You should never let the past tie you down, especially in regards to relationships, but that goes for life as well! Look to your future and a path will emerge for you!

 

Good Luck,

Reactor

[lexi29]

Well found out the reason he left me- there was someone else. DIdn't find out till today by accident! i had 3 days of no contact with him. He told me he wanted a week to think it over. Gave him three days and broke down and called him. Told him I didn't need him to think about it for a week but that I was done. that I didn't want him anymore. That we were better off as friends. He seemed shocked that I decided this. He said I bet you want to know what I've been up to adn told me he had drinks with a neighbor woman. I asked if she was the replacement and he said no that he just wanted to be single. I later called him and asked if I could get the rest of my stuff. He said sure stop over. he was going to a party that night. He said he hadn't told anyone about us splitting yet. Said he wanted to make sure before he told anyone. Kept asking me if I was seeing somoene else. I had not dressed up or anything just had my hair pulled back. He kept saying 'you look so hot" oh my god and kept grabbing at my ass and trying to stick his hands down my shirt and I liked the attention but tried to stop him and he said you MUST be seeing somoene else who is he? he tried and TRIED to get me to have sex with him. He flashed me, pulled his pants down, did a strip tease. All kinds of stuff. I resisted his advances told him to stop and he just kept pushing my buttons. He knows it turns me on when he jerks off so he started doing that too. Finally I gave in, thought what the hell. this will hurt tomorrow but feels good now. So we had sex. teh whole nine yards. tons of foreplay, he did oral on me and then we had sex. The whole time he was going crazy praising my body adn acting like he hadn't seen me in years and had forgotten how hot I was. Afterward we took a shower, I got my stuff (I should mention that as of saturday my picture was STILL on his nightstand!) I even asked him about it and he said he didnt' want to take it down. the only thing I noticed that was weird is his son wasn't responsive to me, he seemed unsure of what to say to me. Also my ex made plans to see me on Wed. (more sex)

 

Well yesterday he called me and was mad cause he'd left me a message earlier and I iddn't return the call and he said he'd thought it over and was done. He didn't want to do this. he wanted to be single etc. I said ok thats fine, asked about wed and sex and he said no that he couldnt' sleep with me it woudl bring back feelings (this is the guy who has had lots of one night stands= give me a break) I kept asking if there was someone else (please let there be someone else so it makes sense!) and he kept saying no he was lovin being single. Lies lies lies. I found out.

 

There is an ex of his that he just met after years. We both met her together. She isn't as cute as she used to be but they seemed to have an emotional connection. She has a young daughter and lots of problems. HEr ex wants custody of their daughter. I feel sorry for her. Well anyway turns out I text her today to tell her about the breakup. she says she's known since last wed. I'm like wth! I tell her (because I considered her a sort of freind) that ex was confusing me, he kept going back and forth and that we'd seen eacohter just on sat and had sex and everthing seemed better. Well she flips out and wants to know when on sat (I had given her details of the sex we had as girlfriends do) and when she got so mad I realized )SHE IS THE OTHER WOMAN!!! oh my god! She said that he told her on wed (one day after he told me he needed space but didn't want to totally break up) that we broke up. then on friday had asked her to be his girlfriend!! She could not believe he did not even go one full day without cheating on her. I told her I'm sorry that I thought he and I were still hanging in there and that the sex wasn't MY idea (which was true he was ALL OVER ME) she said that he denies having sex with me on sat and that I'm a liar. Whatever. I gave her the juicy details. About how he a** me out and I hope he didnt' kiss her saturday night. I was mean- I told her how much he said he loved my body and blah blah blah. all the truth but it was mean becasue she is overweight (which should actually make ME feel bad that he left me for her but I'd like to think he left me for the emotional connection he has with her) but obviously these feelings he had for her didn't stop him from having sex with me. Not proud. I wouldn't have done it if I'd known. I actually feel sick that I had sex with him when he was SOMEONE" else's boyfrirend and sick at the same time that he led me to believe we might get back together. He lied lied lied to both of us. He told her I was making it up so she'd leave him and I could have him back. Typical!! Ha I don't want the loser back!! She can have him. We text for about an hour. she watned details of what he said. She has had a lot of problems so its sick of him to do this to her. She said guys always screw her over. I know the feeling! But I'm sure she'll stay with the bastard that couldn't go 24 hours without screwing around on her. Geez. Well at least I sure as hell don't want him anymore! Just proved how lucky I am to be free!

[missmebaby]

lexi, im so sorry for what you're going through. i feel for you considering my ex acted the exact same way 5 weeks ago when we broke up. he was talking about getting married, everything was going fine, we were looking for an apartment together....then suddenly he wanted nothing to do with me, he was very cold and hurtful towards me. it turns out he is trying to get back with an ex girlfriend. he hadnt talked to her the whole 9 months we were together but as soon as she started contacting him again he gave me the boot.

 

we were NC for a month, i called him one evening and he was saying hurtful things and saying that he forgot about me. then suddenly changed his tone and we talked for 2 hours with him asking me all about my life and telling me about his. he acted jealous when i mentioned other guys and he tried to make me jealous by mentioning his ex and other girls. still dont know how he really feels about me and im forcing myself not to care.....try to do the same. our exes are jerks and obviously arent the kind of guys we want to spend the rest of our lives with.

[lexi29]

I know he is a jerk and I'm actually relieved I don't have to deal with him anymore. Part of me (the stupid part) still misses him but its hard to let go after 3 years. Last night I talked to him after the fiasco of accidently finding out about his new girlfriend. He accused me of telling her we slept together on saturday to break them up. Hey, I didn't even have any idea he was seeing anyone and she was someone I considered a friend and was just having girl talk about the break up with her. He denied having sex with me (to her) she was very upset because they started dating three days earlier and she couldn't believe he would cheat on her after only 3 days!! Yeah there's a winner for you. You sure are special sweetie. Must mean a lot to him that he couldn't keep his hands off of me even when I was rejecting him!! It would be one thing if I had tried to seduce him but the minute I walked in that door to get my stuff he had his hands all over me, couldnt' stop complimenting me. I mean it was like he'd been hanging out with some not so attractive gals lately and he couldn't believe how hot I looked to him (and I wasn't even trying!) he just kept praising my body and going nuts touching me, hugging me kissing me etc.

 

Yeah, I shouldn't have given in but I had NO idea he was seeing someone else. I mean we were supposedly still taking a break so he could decide if this was what he wanted (to be single). I even asked that day BEFORE we had sex if he was seeing anyone. He said no way. So he had every opportunity to stop and think of his poor new girlfriend and how he would be hurting her if he slept with me. WHen I went to his house I knew his son would be there so I wasn't even thinking about sleeping with him. So in no way at all was it planned. And if i'd known he was with someone else, even HER I wouldn't have done it. I don't want anyone's left overs. The really sick thing is he slept with me that afternoon and then took HER to a party that night and probably had sex with her that night (ha ha poor girl) So he was pawing me and going crazy telling me I was the best he ever had and begging to get into my pants and when we had sex he went crazy, was just so turned on and coudnl't stop touching me. He woudln't shut up about how hot I was, did all my favorite things, went out of his way to make sure I was pleased three times. all this and he had a girlfriend who TRUSTED him.

 

When I accidently let it slip she was very upset. He of course told her that I was lying trying to make her mad because I still wanted him. That I wanted to break them up. Nope not at all. She can have him. Funny, that I wanted him until I found out he'd replaced me. Then that killed what feelings I have left for him. Not interested. She can have the lying bastartd. Anyhow he lied to her for about eight hours, she kept texting ME trying to get information and I was very happy to give her all of the hurtful details. At the end though I felt bad for her (she still wants to be with him I think but she is crushed. So I told her if she can keep an eye on him= guaranteed he will cheat on her again. it wont' be with me I can promise but he WILL do it again. but I told her all the "good" things about him. See my ex pulled out all the stops to date me. He considers me high maintenance but I'm not. I just have gotten used to guys in my past treating me with a certain level of respect and I expected it from him. So believe it or not, I was the first girlfriend he ever put an effort into. He bought me flowers on special occassions (he'd NEVER bought anyone flowers before and I'd asked his exes adn they were shocked) he bought me expensive jewelry for christmas and birthdays even thought he couldn't afford it, he would write me sweet notes all the times (and sexy ones too but I didn't tell her that) he would tell me I'm hot or beautiful pretty much every single day. He would compliment me constantly, he loved to show me off to his friends, he would always call when he said he will. he would never look at another woman when I was around (something I had to work hard on cause he is the typical guy with a wandering eye) he would call me EVERY day to tell me he loved me and missed me. He would always pay when we went out, he would cook me dinner, he was always doing sweet things to suprise me.

 

I told her all of this (and this is mean but I don't care cause I thought she was sort of my friend and she is dating him now so girl deserves it) because I am almost positive that my ex wont' do these things for her. She is actually an ex of his (that he didn't treat so well back then) so he knows she doens't require all the extra attention like he needed to keep me around. He thinks he doens't have to work for her (probably the reason she seemed attractive to him) so he will slack off, I know for a fact he won't tell her she's beautiful because he's even admitted he doen'st think that (she is out of shape and not at all what she used to look like) and he won't buy her flowers (he has a lot of extra bills now) and he probably won't even buy her anything for christmas (he never bought anything for any of his exes before me) so she will be EXPECTING all of this great stuff (which he IS capable of) and when she doesn't get it, she is going to be very upset knowing that he was so sweet to me and did all these things for me and wondering why he isn't treating her as well as he treated me.

 

Yeah I think I'm in the anger stage of the breakup becasue I'm turning into a real b*tch

[EricOnTheWeb]

Wow, Lexi , I don't get up into these threads often and my advice sucks, but I feel for ya. I know a little bit how that feels, but my thing was on the internet..so it doesn't count, lol.

 

Just huggs ok?..... sorry you need to go through those feelings, it really sucks.

[lexi29]

I just wish I knew how to move on. he moved on so quickly. didn't even take a week to grieve over me. and yet I spent 6 days crying over the bastard. Now he's with someone new and probably happy (she's not at the moment) and hopefully she makes his life miserable worrying about him cheating on her again (won't be with me though) It just hurts to be replaced so quickly. I shouldn't take it personally becasue he's always moved quickly from one relationship to another. He hates to be alone. but its not fair because he was a huge portion of my life. Now I have weekends alone, yeah I have a few close friends to hang out with but the worst is they are married or moving in with boyfriends and I"m starting all over. Its not like I want to run out and find a replacement for him. I need my time alone. But its hard knowing he's with her and he's just slipped into my place. If he wanted to move on why did he want me to become closer to his son (and now won't even let me see him) why did he encourage me to become so involved in both their lives? I mean I even have his parents beloved dog they couldn't take with them when they moved to an apartment. I want to shoot the poor thing because it reminds me of him!!!

 

I would give anything to be able to see his son again but SHE doesnt' want me within ten feet of my ex. She thinks because he cheated on her after two days of them dating with me (his fault not mine, he didn't tell me about her, and he wouldn't give up even when I resisted) that he can't be trusted around me and we shouldn't have any contact. I DON"T want him back. yes, I miss what we used to have but if someone wants to throw me aside for somone else then he isnt' worth my time. I dont beg guys to be with me. i don't have to. So I have NO interest in dating him or sleeping with him again. I've told her this and he knows this too (although he'd like to believe that he's so damn irresistible that I couldn't help myself)

 

I just don't know how to move on. Its easier now that I know there is someone else but at the same time I'm angry that its not hard for him because he just replaced me..

[ninjaturtles]

I am so sorry to hear this lexi.

Been in the same situaion. He got a new girl and displayed her on facebook, everywhere, as it to rub it in my face.

today, they have broken up and he hurts a lot.

 

Give it time, one day he will stop, think and regret..everyday for the thief, one day for the owner.xx