DateAnalyzer Posted August 13, 2007 Posted August 13, 2007 This was a girl I met off a telephone dating service and I advertised I was looking for foreplay encounter and tv watching and that's it. So she comes over around 10pm and stays until 2am. The entire time she shows me no affection, all she did was watch TV and talk. I thought it was agreed that we were going to have some safeplay activities but just was just focused on watching TV. So I wanted to throw her the F*Ck out but I was trying to be nice but I was bored out of my mind because I neede stress relief not a tv watching buddy. I was so disgusted at how my evening was wasted and I didn;t even answer the phone when she called to tell me she got home safe. I mean if she was attracted to me why stay in my apt for 4 hours????????? That's not a good way to start a work week and all this is happening to me while I'm trying to be on DIET with no salt or grease in my life and i can;t get any touchie feelies??? There was not going to be any sex just hugging and kissing and i let that dumb b*tch waste my sunday night and use me for my Air conditioner and cable. I am out done, i can't get nothing to go right.
Touche Posted August 13, 2007 Posted August 13, 2007 Did you try anything with HER or were you just waiting for her to make the first move? Also, I can't even comment on your general attitude here or I'll get in trouble. Let's just say it's really, really not good. And what makes you think she was using you? Does she not have her own cable and AC? Do you really think someone would stay with you for 4 hours just to use you for cable and AC? Wow. I'm appalled at the name calling. I really am. Did you have any conversation with her at all? What was she supposed to do, just start kissing you and fondling you the minute she came through the door? I think you need a prostitute, not a girlfriend. You're getting the two confused.
whichwayisup Posted August 13, 2007 Posted August 13, 2007 There's something really wrong here? Or is it just me... DA, what is it that you're looking for? A girlfriend? A lover? Just a friend for companionship? Instead of just enjoying the moment, getting to know her, have some conversations, hang out and watch TV...You now feel jipped that you didn't 'get' any. Don't you think it's possible that she changed her mind? Didn't feel comfortable enough just to jump into bed with someone she doesn't know? I mean, your date started LATE, so that could have been another reason... I think the problem is you. You look at women as sex toys, for your own use. Do you even respect women? Like them? It seems you only want them for one thing - Sex and what they can do for you.
annabelle75 Posted August 13, 2007 Posted August 13, 2007 That's what happens when you hire a cheap hooker. You never know what you are going to get. But seriously.....why should that girl should have felt obligated to maul you? What's worng with want to talk, hang out and get to know you? That is how it is suppsoe to be. You are a classic case of asking for too much too soon. Slow down !!! Get to know a girl first and let her get to know you.
Enema Posted August 13, 2007 Posted August 13, 2007 Maybe she turned up, didn't like what she saw but felt obligated to hang around out of politeness. If you want no-strings fun, get an escort geez.
Author DateAnalyzer Posted August 13, 2007 Author Posted August 13, 2007 Did you try anything with HER or were you just waiting for her to make the first move? Also, I can't even comment on your general attitude here or I'll get in trouble. Let's just say it's really, really not good. And what makes you think she was using you? Does she not have her own cable and AC? Do you really think someone would stay with you for 4 hours just to use you for cable and AC? Wow. I'm appalled at the name calling. I really am. Did you have any conversation with her at all? What was she supposed to do, just start kissing you and fondling you the minute she came through the door? I think you need a prostitute, not a girlfriend. You're getting the two confused. Not as soon as she walked in but after 2 hours I thought there would be some touch feels. And That;s what I stated I wanted in my ad, foreplay and conversation because I needed stress relief. The last thing I needed on a sunday night was a tv watching buddy
Author DateAnalyzer Posted August 13, 2007 Author Posted August 13, 2007 Maybe she turned up, didn't like what she saw but felt obligated to hang around out of politeness. If you want no-strings fun, get an escort geez. Well that would mean she is slightly retarded because who the hell stays at someone's house that long out of politeness?
Author DateAnalyzer Posted August 13, 2007 Author Posted August 13, 2007 There's something really wrong here? Or is it just me... DA, what is it that you're looking for? A girlfriend? A lover? Just a friend for companionship? Instead of just enjoying the moment, getting to know her, have some conversations, hang out and watch TV...You now feel jipped that you didn't 'get' any. Don't you think it's possible that she changed her mind? Didn't feel comfortable enough just to jump into bed with someone she doesn't know? I mean, your date started LATE, so that could have been another reason... I think the problem is you. You look at women as sex toys, for your own use. Do you even respect women? Like them? It seems you only want them for one thing - Sex and what they can do for you. I'm just looking for friendship/safeplay/conversation. No dating right now just stress relief
jcster Posted August 13, 2007 Posted August 13, 2007 You don't need another person around for your "stress relief." If you didn't pay this girl for her "favors" then you have no reason to expect her to perform "as advertised." I'm starting to think that you might have bigger problems than just a lack of dating experience. Have you ever looked into getting some therapy? It might help change your perspective and learn to see people as actual people.
Author DateAnalyzer Posted August 13, 2007 Author Posted August 13, 2007 You don't need another person around for your "stress relief." If you didn't pay this girl for her "favors" then you have no reason to expect her to perform "as advertised." I'm starting to think that you might have bigger problems than just a lack of dating experience. Have you ever looked into getting some therapy? It might help change your perspective and learn to see people as actual people. I was sexually attracted to her and she wasn't sexually attracted to me then she should have left way before 2am and not stay 4 hours. What man u going to sit around a woman for 4 hours and not have to kind of physical contact? That won't happen again
Touche Posted August 13, 2007 Posted August 13, 2007 I was sexually attracted to her and she wasn't sexually attracted to me then she should have left way before 2am and not stay 4 hours. What man u going to sit around a woman for 4 hours and not have to kind of physical contact? That won't happen again Guess what? This may SHOCK you, but my H and I saw each other every day for about a MONTH before there was any physical contact. Guess he was crazy, huh? He's a really weird guy I guess. He just wanted to talk and get to know me. What a WACKO! (Him I mean..not you.)
sofakingmad Posted August 13, 2007 Posted August 13, 2007 Not as soon as she walked in but after 2 hours I thought there would be some touch feels. And That;s what I stated I wanted in my ad, foreplay and conversation because I needed stress relief. The last thing I needed on a sunday night was a tv watching buddy did you try to initiate anything with her at all? she might have been thinking the same thing about you. why is it always the other persons fault if things don't go well with you?
jcster Posted August 13, 2007 Posted August 13, 2007 There was not going to be any sex just hugging and kissing and i let that dumb b*tch waste my sunday night I find your anger and attitude about this really scary. I can't imagine why she would stay at your place for 4 hours - if this is the way you think - I wouldn't have walked in the door. Seriously, you have a lot of anger towards women - have you ever thought that maybe they can sense it and that's why you're having such a hard time dating?
amber1 Posted August 13, 2007 Posted August 13, 2007 How did you act around this girl? Were you nice?
Star Gazer Posted August 13, 2007 Posted August 13, 2007 I agree completely with Touche when she said: I can't even comment on your general attitude here or I'll get in trouble. Let's just say it's really, really not good. There's something really wrong here? Or is it just me... Nope, it's not just you. It's DA! I think the problem is you. You look at women as sex toys, for your own use. Do you even respect women? Like them? It seems you only want them for one thing - Sex and what they can do for you. I'm appalled at the name calling. I really am. Did you have any conversation with her at all? What was she supposed to do, just start kissing you and fondling you the minute she came through the door? I think you need a prostitute, not a girlfriend. You're getting the two confused. Why should that girl should have felt obligated to maul you? What's worng with want to talk, hang out and get to know you? That is how it is suppsoe to be. You are a classic case of asking for too much too soon. Slow down !!! Get to know a girl first and let her get to know you. Maybe she turned up, didn't like what she saw but felt obligated to hang around out of politeness. If you want no-strings fun, get an escort geez. You don't need another person around for your "stress relief." If you didn't pay this girl for her "favors" then you have no reason to expect her to perform "as advertised." I'm starting to think that you might have bigger problems than just a lack of dating experience. Have you ever looked into getting some therapy? It might help change your perspective and learn to see people as actual people. I find your anger and attitude about this really scary. Seriously, you have a lot of anger towards women - have you ever thought that maybe they can sense it and that's why you're having such a hard time dating?
LuminousZ Posted August 13, 2007 Posted August 13, 2007 I find your anger and attitude about this really scary. I feel the same way..., DA, your approach is skewed. If you continue with this attitude, you are sure to have many more "wasted evenings". Just my $.02
kamiswhite Posted August 13, 2007 Posted August 13, 2007 next time I would suggest you pick up that nice workin girl on the corner.
Author DateAnalyzer Posted August 13, 2007 Author Posted August 13, 2007 How did you act around this girl? Were you nice? Yeah I was nice, the only reason I let her stay that long was because I thought she was sexy. I wanted to throw her out so bad but I just couldn't do it
bish Posted August 13, 2007 Posted August 13, 2007 This was a girl I met off a telephone dating service and I advertised I was looking for foreplay encounter and tv watching and that's it. So she comes over around 10pm and stays until 2am. The entire time she shows me no affection, all she did was watch TV and talk. I thought it was agreed that we were going to have some safeplay activities but just was just focused on watching TV. So I wanted to throw her the F*Ck out but I was trying to be nice but I was bored out of my mind because I neede stress relief not a tv watching buddy. I was so disgusted at how my evening was wasted and I didn;t even answer the phone when she called to tell me she got home safe. I mean if she was attracted to me why stay in my apt for 4 hours????????? That's not a good way to start a work week and all this is happening to me while I'm trying to be on DIET with no salt or grease in my life and i can;t get any touchie feelies??? There was not going to be any sex just hugging and kissing and i let that dumb b*tch waste my sunday night and use me for my Air conditioner and cable. I am out done, i can't get nothing to go right. Well why don't you just pony up the money and pay for a hooker?
Author DateAnalyzer Posted August 13, 2007 Author Posted August 13, 2007 Well why don't you just pony up the money and pay for a hooker? Hookers are not interested in Safe Play Activities, only SEX
amber1 Posted August 13, 2007 Posted August 13, 2007 So are you going to contact her again or are you going to let it go?
Author DateAnalyzer Posted August 13, 2007 Author Posted August 13, 2007 So are you going to contact her again or are you going to let it go? I'm not sure yet
doiask42much Posted August 13, 2007 Posted August 13, 2007 Did you try to initiate anything, either physically or verbally? Since it was in your ad, there's no need to beat around the bush. A lot of women do not feel comfortable making the first move, especially with someone they just met. She was probably shy and feeling awkward. You shouldn't fault her for wasting your time if you weren't up front about it in the first place.
Enema Posted August 13, 2007 Posted August 13, 2007 Well it's been asked 3 or 4 times with no answer. I guess they both sat there neither one making a move. Smooooth Operator...
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