beautifulwrongs Posted April 26, 2007 Posted April 26, 2007 Okay, to start off... There is this guy that is in his mid- twenties i am only 16 and he is married. He began joking around with me when I went into his work and stuff then one day I was up there and wanted to drive his car which is a stick so he said he would let me... I never really thought anything about him like that untill while i was driving i had to switch gears and couldnt do it so he put his hand on mine and helped me thats when i first got this feelings but i was like its just flirting type stuff so i didnt pay any mind to it. later that afternoon he called me which i didnt give him my cell number i think my ex did but he called and was like dont tell your dad i let you drive my car and i was like okay laughing starting that night which was a week ago today we have been texting each other ALOT he talks about how he wonts me to come see him at work, and how he misses me, he ask me question like do i miss him, he barely ever talks about his wife, but the other day me and my ex we are still friends went up to his house to eat with him and his wife and he still gave me some looks... and hes married!!! I really am starting to feel more than flirting stuff but i know hes married and doubt he would leave his wife for me even thou shes not that pretty but its the point i dont know what to do i konw hes 8 years older and i dont care my friend likes him better than all the other guys ive dated or liked and i know we couldnt really have anything right now but in like 2 years if we talk and stuff if something did happen between them there might be something between us? someone HELP what should i do? leave him alone? or keep going i feel something between us.. or do yall think hes just using me? even though he knows ive laid down the rules hes married that its nothing more that flirting since he is married so HELP ME:(
whichwayisup Posted April 26, 2007 Posted April 26, 2007 Go read some of today's threads about women involving themselves in a MM's life. You are SO YOUNG!! Please, you deserve better than to be a side-dish to a married man. He is going to break your heart, and his wife's heart in the process...And, you'll be helping him cheat on his wife. How would you feel if your dad cheated on your mom? Another thing, you don't know what goes on in his marriage, he will tell you ANYTHING, even lie to you about his wife and the state of their marriage. Yes, you've laid down the law, but can you stay away from him?? Can you distance yourself from him enough never to let yourself feel for him? Please, go do some reading in this section and then go read some threads in the infidelity section about betrayed spouses dealing with the fallout of their cheating spouses affair.
lorr Posted April 26, 2007 Posted April 26, 2007 Instead of getting involved with MM, why don't you focus on your education?
yousaveme Posted April 26, 2007 Posted April 26, 2007 Worry about School etc.. .Your young and have a whole life ahead of you. Stay away from this guy. Your 16 this can turn into a legal matter if it gets found out.
Trialbyfire Posted April 26, 2007 Posted April 26, 2007 While it may be flattering that an older guy is interested in you, I will stress that there's something seriously broken in this guy. I would tell your parents about this situation and let them react accordingly. If your parents are reasonable individuals, their anger will be directed at the person who deserves it, the married man. He's playing adult games with someone who should be off limits for two damning reasons...
Seen_It_All Posted April 26, 2007 Posted April 26, 2007 This guy is a pig, plain and simple. It's not flattering that he's flirting with a teenage child, and that's what you are. You're not expected to know all the right things to do at 16 but this creep knows DA*MN well better than to be behave like a rutting dog around a teenager. He IS a pedophile as someone said, and he's utterly revolting. Your father would probably put his disgusting head right through a wall if he knew this jerkoff was sniffing around his daughter - and he'd deserve it. I'm not even going to address the fact that this parasite is married - that's the LEAST of this. Tell Mr. Pedophile that you'd love to tell your parents ALL ABOUT how much fun it is to flirt with him, and watch the cowardly little sh*t run. ETA - I just saw your title about 'being in love' with a MM. A few text messages from this loser and driving this pedophile's car - while he slobbers like the gape-jawed mutant he IS - does not constitute 'love.' You're 16 - you'll 'love' someone else next week, and then someone else the following week.
pricillia Posted April 26, 2007 Posted April 26, 2007 This guy is a pig, plain and simple. It's not flattering that he's flirting with a teenage child, and that's what you are. You're not expected to know all the right things to do at 16 but this creep knows DA*MN well better than to be behave like a rutting dog around a teenager. He IS a pedophile as someone said, and he's utterly revolting. Your father would probably put his disgusting head right through a wall if he knew this jerkoff was sniffing around his daughter - and he'd deserve it. I'm not even going to address the fact that this parasite is married - that's the LEAST of this. Tell Mr. Pedophile that you'd love to tell your parents ALL ABOUT how much fun it is to flirt with him, and watch the cowardly little sh*t run. ETA - I just saw your title about 'being in love' with a MM. A few text messages from this loser and driving this pedophile's car - while he slobbers like the gape-jawed mutant he IS - does not constitute 'love.' You're 16 - you'll 'love' someone else next week, and then someone else the following week. Ok... I totally agree! You also don't want to get chained to the floor in his basement!!! Move on for your own good!
norajane Posted April 26, 2007 Posted April 26, 2007 NO, he absolutely is never ever ever ever going to even consider leaving his wife for you. You are just a flirty little piece on the side, feeding his ego. He likes the attention - he can allow himself to think he's still hot. AND, you are jailbait. If he does anything with you, he could go to jail because you are underage. I'm sure he knows that, and that's why he doesn't want your dad to know anything about what you do with him. Statutory rape does not require that you press charges or that you say no - your parents can have him charged even if you were the one who took off all your clothes and jumped into his lap. Don't do this to yourself. This is a heartbreak for you just waiting to happen.
Impudent Oyster Posted April 26, 2007 Posted April 26, 2007 alert the authorities to this pedophile and his jailbait? Go home Lolita, I think I hear your mother calling you for dinner.
Jinxx Posted April 27, 2007 Posted April 27, 2007 Okay, to start off... There is this guy that is in his mid- twenties i am only 16 and he is married. You're only 16. You need some serious help hon. The man is a sicko. Listen to everyone here. There is nothing good for you of venturing down this path.
AFarAwayPlace Posted April 27, 2007 Posted April 27, 2007 beautifulwrongs, most of us women who find ourselves in similar situations are quite older than you, and we still struggle in these situations and don't know all the answers, we come here for answers ourselves, my point being, you're way too young first off all to be with this person, secondly he's married, he's using your age to his advantage, if you don't back away he's going to use his smooth ways, smooth talking, charming you, buying you little gifts, before you know it, you're in too deep. Like many of the women here, I thought my situation is "different" but after reading everything, it's not. There's no hope here, date someone your own age, not this creep.
NoIDidn't Posted April 27, 2007 Posted April 27, 2007 beautiful Stay away from this man. Please. You are just a child. I know, I know you don't like to hear that, but when you reach my age (more than double yours) you will look back and agree. I have a very personal story that I could share and hope would reach you, but I think the others are getting tired of my "stories". But the main theme is this, this man is sick. He already knows the mind of a teen-aged girl and how gullible and naive they are. He will use you if you let him. If my dad had been told the truth about what I did with a 21 y.o. when I was only 14, that "man" would have been filled with holes, and then s-c-a-t-t-e-r-r-e-d across the Chesapeake Bay. Don't let him "ruin" your chances at healthy and truly happy Rs, by messing with your head. Its not worth it.
GreenEyedLady Posted April 27, 2007 Posted April 27, 2007 I didn't read any further than you're 16 and he's married and in his twenties... You should show this thread to an adult you trust...they'll help you...
outofdarkness Posted April 27, 2007 Posted April 27, 2007 Okay, to start off... There is this guy that is in his mid- twenties i am only 16 and he is married. He began joking around with me when I went into his work and stuff then one day I was up there and wanted to drive his car which is a stick so he said he would let me... I never really thought anything about him like that untill while i was driving i had to switch gears and couldnt do it so he put his hand on mine and helped me thats when i first got this feelings but i was like its just flirting type stuff so i didnt pay any mind to it. later that afternoon he called me which i didnt give him my cell number i think my ex did but he called and was like dont tell your dad i let you drive my car and i was like okay laughing starting that night which was a week ago today we have been texting each other ALOT he talks about how he wonts me to come see him at work, and how he misses me, he ask me question like do i miss him, he barely ever talks about his wife, but the other day me and my ex we are still friends went up to his house to eat with him and his wife and he still gave me some looks... and hes married!!! I really am starting to feel more than flirting stuff but i know hes married and doubt he would leave his wife for me even thou shes not that pretty but its the point i dont know what to do i konw hes 8 years older and i dont care my friend likes him better than all the other guys ive dated or liked and i know we couldnt really have anything right now but in like 2 years if we talk and stuff if something did happen between them there might be something between us? someone HELP what should i do? leave him alone? or keep going i feel something between us.. or do yall think hes just using me? even though he knows ive laid down the rules hes married that its nothing more that flirting since he is married so HELP ME:( he's breaking the law....ummmm...do you know that?..and this isn't some sort of teenage game...it's people's lives...
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