Evilken21 Posted March 20, 2007 Posted March 20, 2007 I was sitting on my couch in my moms living room. My mom who agreed to take me to a park to meet a girl i was so eagerly wanted to meet. My mom finally got done in the bathroom and we headed out to the car and drove to the park. My mom dropped me off. "Takecare Aaron, love you" my mom said before I got out of the car. I waved her goodbye and made my way into the park. I walked along and I notice the park was quite occupied. Seeing as it was Saturday it never surprised me to see this park so full of life. I been to this park many times with my ex girlfriend so I was very familier with the area. I made my way to the parking lot where I was suppose to meet Jennifer, the girl I talked to on myspace and phone for awhile now. I was always nervous to meet new girls in person, especially since I thought making a good first impression was extremely important in my book. After scouting the parking lot I found a single car and as I walked near it, I notice there was a girl sitting there. "That has to be her" I thought to myself. I thought it was strange how she was waiting in the car and not outside the car. Would of been much easier for me to spot her there. None the less, I was still able to find her. When I made eye contact from a distant she waved at me. I walked up to her. "Hey" she said. "Hey, you should of waited out there for me" I said with grin. "oh well, you still found me" she said "Alright so whats the plan? you wanna walk around this park" I said to her. She said she wanted to hang out at the house so she told me to hop in her car and we started off. Even though I already told her, I told her that I was amazed that my ex girlfriend was so close to her. "Yea thats crazy" she said. On the way to her house we made small talk, than we finally arrived at her house. She opened up the garage door and she made her way in. Me and her made our way into her house. Suddenly, two dogs started barking " Shhh shut up!" she said with a frustrated tune at the two dogs barking just a few feet away from us " SHUT UP!!" she said " I guess they don't like stranger" I said. We made our way to her couch. We planned to watch a movie together. I sat down next to her and asked her what movie we were going to watch. She said she rented this movie called " The Departed" She said we had to go in the room and watch the movie because she didn't know how to work the T.V/dvd out in the living room. As I made my way into the room I notice she was quite the Cd collector. She also had alot of pictures up on the wall, alot of them with her and her friends and her and her family. Some of them were pictures of her younger self as well. She popped in the movie and seeing as we were in her room, her bed had to be the couch. So we both sat down and I began to ask her some questions and get her to talk seeing as she wasn't putting much effort to ask me anything. I asked her about most of her friends in the pictures around her room. She told me that some of them she used to know but doesn't talk with anymore. But she had her eyes glued to the T.V. while she was talking and sometimes when she heard kids/guys outside she would peek out the window to see who it is. I asked her if she knew who they were. "Yea, when I was younger I used to hang out with those guys, but we kinda grew apart so I don't talk to them anymore" she said while her eyes were still glued to the T.V. She told me several times that she wanted to be a nurse when she grows up. "Hey, so what inspired you to want to become a nurse?" I asked. " well when I was younger I wanted to be a teacher" she said. "So you like teaching new things to kids than?" I asked "Yea, but I don't know, I just want to become a nurse now" she said. There was a bit of silents because I decided to stop asking questions for a little bit and we watched a movie where we had no clue what was going on because we wasn't paying attention to the movie. I made her a laugh a little a few times... Me and her started talking about Romance movies and I asked her what was her favorite. she said It was "The Notebook" and I said " Ah! so is it about some guy that falls in love with his Notebook??" I asked " No! just watch it and see" she said. "Man screw this movie" as I said standing back up. " Lets go get something to eat than come back and watch the notebook" Me and her decided to go to Taco Bell and than come back to watch "The Notebook" She drove to Taco Bell. I wanted to eat inside but she insist that we get the food from the drive thru than eat it in her room. As we can go the drive thru... "Hey" I said "I wanted to eat inside dammit!! aah!!" I yelled in a teasy way. "ha no! sorry to late we are already in the drive thru" she said. "Damn you!" she than said "lol sorry" I than asked her if she was tickerlish. She said " No..." She stared at me like with a tease smile. "oh yea!" I said. I than started to ticker her all over the place and she laughed! "Ha, found your weak spot" I said. "Thats it! Im going to find YOURS!" she said in a giggly tune but made no effort to touch or tickle me. I gave her a 20 dollar bill and she gave me the change back after we got what we wanted. We than started talking about Soda! "Man I love Mountain due" I said. "I like every other soda except Mountain due" she remarked. "Girl your crazy!" I said looking at her crazy. " She didn't give much of a responds to this, guess she was busy driving home. When we got back I said that we should eat at the kitchen, she agreed to it, yet again the dogs were barking and again I kept hearing " Shut up!!" "HEY!!" "QUIET!!!" "You stupid little" So after she was done yelling at the dogs for the 100th time, we made our way into the kitchen. I started to kid around and act like a little kid " gimme gimme gimme!" I said in a little kids voice. "Your acting like a little kid" she said. We ate and talked about other small things. Like how she got her dogs and what kind of computer she has and such. After we were done, we grabbed our drinks and headed into the room again. I decided to move in and Tickle her once again, after that I rubbed my hand on her leg. She grabbed my hand and held it, at this point I thought maybe she really liked me. A little later on she wrapped her arm around mine and lend her head against my shoulder. At one point I actually grabbed her soda and took a sip out of it. "Hey don't do that! Aaron ...." Hmm I didn't think she liked that very much. We continued to watch the movie and she kept telling that I was going to cry. I kept telling her that was never going to happen. " well, I guess because your a guy but this movie makes me cry sometimes "she said Still barely any eye contact and when we did make eye contact she seemed really shy about it. Everytime she laughed, I laughed. Maybe I shouldn't have that done that. When I took her hand and kissed it, she didn't react much to it, after my 3rd attempt at tickling her she seemed to be pushing me away to do it further. "Hey I thought u were going to try and find my weak spot as well! come tickle me" I said. But didn't get any reaction. When her forehead was on my shoulder I kissed it but still didn't get much of a reaction. Earlier I tried to touched her leg with my leg, she said that wouldn't work because I had my shoes on, guess she wanted to touch feet or something.......eww! Second attempt was much later on and I tried to touch her with my leg but she still didn't say anything. "touch me" I said as I pointed at my leg but she didn't say anything that. I told her I had to go after the movie is over, she just nodded her head, nothing said. So after awhile the movie ended and of course as I predicted I didn't cry. After it was over however she started to change the channels, looking for something to watch, weird thing was I was still here so why was she acting like I didn't exist? I asked what she was doing. Than I said I had to go now. I told her it would be cool if we can take a picture together. She didn't seem to have no problem with it and we eventually got a good picture of "us" I asked her if she had a good time. She said it was ok. I did said "huh" and she than she said " IM just kidding " She said "ok, need me to drive you home" I told her I was going to see if I can get my mom to take me home real quick. I called up my mom. She said she needed a half hour to pick me up. Jenn kept saying she wanted to take me home so I finally give in and said "Fine you can take me" While we were driving home I mentioned the party that she was having tomorrow night and asked her how many of her friends were coming. She said alot of her friends. "Looks like it might be fun" I said. " Yeah" she replied. Of course I was hoping to be invited to it but she never asked if I wanted to attend. After that i asked her if she wanted to do coffee sometime, all she said was " maybe" On the way back home we talked about our favorite bands and such. She seemed to be a real big fan of akon and I even started to sing one of the authers song " Lonely im so lonely, I have nobody, To call my owwnnn Im so lonely, im mr. Lonely" She kinda laughed and i laughed too. So when we got to my house I told her that I had a good time. "yea, thanks for Taco Bell" which was all she said. I than kissed her on the cheek. She made a little laugh and I got out of the car and started walking towards my house. We waved and said goodbye and that was it...she drove off.. and at that point, I never realized I was never going to see her again.
Author Evilken21 Posted March 20, 2007 Author Posted March 20, 2007 This is the last time I ever saw this girl though, afterwards I haven't talked to her in 5 days So I called her up a few days ago and asked her out for Starbucks, she agreed to do it. Than later that night she send me a message saying " Hey I've been talking to this guy and I really like him so just so you know we can only be friends ok" I said that was fine and asked her if she still up for starbucks, she said yea she was. When that day came she called me that day and said she had to cancel because she had to go pick up someone and that her parents was suppose to do it but they were coming back late or something. I said that was fine and told her we can plan it for another time, she agreed to that So the next day I called her up. She didn't pick up so I left her a message. " Hey this is Aaron, call me back when you get the chance, bye" So a few hours went by and i never heard from her, than I saw her on myspace and thought it was a bit strange because she always called me back when she got my message. so I tried calling again but still nothing, so I send her an email saying that I tried to call her, than she DELETED ME!!! I tried calling again but got NOTHING and I send her an email asking why she is acting like this and still got nothing and now she wont call me back at all WHY IS SHE DOING THIS??????
Citizen Erased Posted March 20, 2007 Posted March 20, 2007 I am so sorry to say this, but she is obviously not interested honey. She paid more attention to the tv then you, doesn't invite you to her party, and she didn't try to contact you afterwards. She tells you she is interested in another guy, and makes up excuses not to see you. Then she doesn't take your calls or answer your emails. She obviously doesn't have the guts to tell you she isn't interested and is just hoping you take the hint. Stop calling and emailing her cos it makes you look desperate, and find someone else worthy of spending your time with. Hugs
Author Evilken21 Posted March 20, 2007 Author Posted March 20, 2007 I personality thought the date went at least ok. I mean, I didn't really think it was a bad meeting at all, me and her got along just fine, although I will admit I have made...mistakes. I think me constantly asking her questions or talking to her while watching the movie was a huge mistake sadly, although im not sure if I left it out of the story or not because I haven't bothered to go back and read it but, there were times where she would just say "Just Watch!" after I have commented something about the movie she had already seen.... Anyway, Im still not sure what could of caused this reaction because I got mixed responses from other people saying that I creeped her out, or that she her interest level in me is so low that she wants nothing more to do with me or... That she thought I was a very dishonest person because I said just friends were ok...maybe she knew I lied.. But come on, so she just assumed that and cut all contact? Also, when my friends went to question her, she was very rude to them and got this kind of responds out of her ""Listen *****, this is none of your business. You're blowing this way out of ****ing proportion. The bottom line is I do not want to ****ing talk to him anymore and I do not have to tell you or anybody else my ****ing reasons. So stay out of my business and focus on your bitchy self/ You ****ing TWAT!! Stop speaking for Aaron and NEVER threaten me again cuz you will NOT win!! trust me, douchebag!! And I care for my friends, but since none of you are my friends I don't care about you. So go on with your little life and leave me the **** alone!! I don't need psychos like you and Aaron bugging me...thanks!!"" Now why would she say this to my friend who was only concern about me and wanted to know what happened.....and why would she think im a pyscho now???? its her fault for leading me on!! she led me to believe that she liked me. Me and her talked for awhile on the phone before we met and she used to say things like " I cannot wait to meet you" or she would say that she'd love to go to places with me and such....but that was all before the meeting.. but one time she called me around midnight and I got kinda mad at her I guess, but I was playing aloof with her before I met her and all, I would always be the one to leave end the phone call anyway, its kind of a long story even before I met her, but yeah, I talked to her a long long time ago at my high school just once, so I found her on myspace and we begin to talk than.... So now im confused here, did she make up her mind about me at the meeting?? or was it sometime afterwards??
Citizen Erased Posted March 20, 2007 Posted March 20, 2007 I think that she maybe felt you two didn't click on the day. You may have felt it, doesn't mean she did I think you need to stop analysing what happened on the day and realise it doesn't matter. What is done is done, and she doesn't want a relationship with you. She is telling you with her actions and she even told you friends in words... btw anyone who would speak to your friends like that is NOT worth the trouble. I am sorry but you need to move on from this.
Author Evilken21 Posted March 20, 2007 Author Posted March 20, 2007 But I told her friends were just fine but she pull this off anyway...why?? why would she suddenly want nothing more to do with me?? I mean I thought maybe me and her can at least be friends!
Citizen Erased Posted March 21, 2007 Posted March 21, 2007 But I told her friends were just fine but she pull this off anyway...why?? why would she suddenly want nothing more to do with me?? I mean I thought maybe me and her can at least be friends! Maybe she just feels too uncomfortable to be friends? Which is why she didn't take any of your calls in the first place. Face it, you don't want to be friends. You want something more. A friendship can not work. You need to let this be.
Author Evilken21 Posted March 21, 2007 Author Posted March 21, 2007 Well I don't care what ANYONE says!! what she did was cold and wrong and all of my friends that I know in real life agrees with me! I still wanted to be her friend and I wanted her to get to know me better and see what happens but she just decided to cut all contact??? Like I said before, I was there so I know how a the meeting went and I think it went ok regardless of what you people think! I dunno, I do know that maybe somebody out there knows exactly why...
confucious Posted March 21, 2007 Posted March 21, 2007 Evilken - I think you may be looking for an answer that nobody has. It is almost impossible to say why a first date goes poorly because it can be nothing more than chemistry, and I mean that very literally. It could have nothing to do with anything you did, just how you two "clicked"...maybe you can tell I am a firm believer in Pheremones. As to why she ignores you - there could be many answers to that, one of which could be she is rude and thoughtless. Believe it or not, it happens to EVERYONE...we have ALL been snubbed by people and very few of us find any real answers. The important thing is to understand that her actions have no bearing on YOU. Your life goes on, answers or none, so try to smile and make the best of a *****ty situation. \ Good luck!
Author Evilken21 Posted March 29, 2007 Author Posted March 29, 2007 http://www.rottentomatoes.com/vine/showthread.php?t=543955 I posted this same topic on another site and everyone there is saying that it was my fault, that I creeped her out the day I met her.. Tell me, is this true? do you agree which what is said on that thread? please take the time to read it and tell me what you think.
confucious Posted March 30, 2007 Posted March 30, 2007 I don't know if "creeped her out" is the term, Evilken. I DO think that there were certain instances in which you pushed things further than they should have been (IE: "I pointed at my leg and said 'touch me'" - okay, that is almost creepy). Sometimes we have to read and follow body language and verbal cues from people... I also think there was little in the way of reciprocation of your advances. BIG clue here...if I had been you I would have not even expected her to be in touch after a date like that...not bashing you, just saying we all have dates that don't go so well, and we all have to accept that and keep going on. I would suggest trying to read body language more effectively, continuing dating for fun, and most importantly NOT expecting anything from the person you are going out with. They don't owe you thier time or anything beyond courtesy...the rest you have to earn. Just being honest for you as I figure that is why you are here...good luck and keep yourself out there, if you don't put too much pressure on yourself or your date you'll have a lot of fun.
Author Evilken21 Posted April 5, 2007 Author Posted April 5, 2007 Ok well I still have a few questions.. Why was it really nesscary for her to act that way and completely ignore me? Its just before she used to be really nice, me and her talked for about 2 months before.. I located her on myspace because she had been to my high school and I have seen her around, she really did seem interested in me and found me attractive you can say. So eventually I got her to talk with me over the phone, however, I guess I was a bit clingy and that kinda turned her off. Me and her planned to meet somewhere but she had to cancel because of an appointment with turned out to be true, shortly after she told me that me and her couldn't be more than friends and such, I got a bit needy... So we talked less and less so than I decided to just play aloof and put alot less effort into it, when I did this, she got really interested again. She kept calling me, but i was always the one to end the call etc etc.. Than she said she really wanted to see me and that she FELT bad for cancelling our first plans. She felt bad for me than.....and kept going on about that. She said she couldn't wait to see me and such..... so yeah, me and her met at her place and you know how the rest went...s so tell me, did that 1 meeting change her feelings towards me completely??
CaterpillarGirl Posted April 6, 2007 Posted April 6, 2007 Why do you feel the need to dissect everything that happened? She isn't interested in you. You should try to forget it and move forward. But since I know you aren't going to take my advice as you have already shown us, here's a play-by-play of all the things you did that freaked her out: IAfter scouting the parking lot I found a single car and as I walked near it, I notice there was a girl sitting there. "That has to be her" I thought to myself. I thought it was strange how she was waiting in the car and not outside the car. Would of been much easier for me to spot her there. None the less, I was still able to find her. When I made eye contact from a distant she waved at me. I walked up to her. "Hey" she said. "Hey, you should of waited out there for me" I said with grin. You see yourself as gently and endearingly teasing others. Everyone else sees it as criticisms. You do this a lot. Also, if someone came up to me at my car window, I would be a little scared. Even though I already told her, I told her that I was amazed that my ex girlfriend was so close to her. Don't talk about your ex-girlfriend on a date. "Hey" I said "I wanted to eat inside dammit!! aah!!" I yelled in a teasy way. "ha no! sorry to late we are already in the drive thru" she said. "Damn you!" You tease. It's criticism. "Girl your crazy!" I said looking at her crazy. " She didn't give much of a responds to this, guess she was busy driving home. Tease/criticism I decided to move in and Tickle her once again, after that I rubbed my hand on her leg. She grabbed my hand and held it, at this point I thought maybe she really liked me. No, she didn't want you touching her leg. At one point I actually grabbed her soda and took a sip out of it. "Hey don't do that!"... Hmm I didn't think she liked that very much. That is gross, especially if you don't know the person well. When I took her hand and kissed it, she didn't react much to it, after my 3rd attempt at tickling her she seemed to be pushing me away to do it further. "Hey I thought u were going to try and find my weak spot as well! come tickle me" I said. But didn't get any reaction. She is telling you to stop with the tickling. "touch me" I said as I pointed at my leg but she didn't say anything that. This would be weird to me. I asked her if she had a good time. She said it was ok. I did said "huh" and she than she said " IM just kidding " She wasn't kidding. While we were driving home I mentioned the party that she was having tomorrow night and asked her how many of her friends were coming. She said alot of her friends. "Looks like it might be fun" I said. " Yeah" she replied. Of course I was hoping to be invited to it but she never asked if I wanted to attend. A sign she definitely isn't interested in you. So I called her up a few days ago and asked her out for Starbucks, she agreed to do it. Than later that night she send me a message saying " Hey I've been talking to this guy and I really like him so just so you know we can only be friends ok" She doesn't want to date you. So the next day I called her up. She didn't pick up so I left her a message. " Hey this is Aaron, call me back when you get the chance, bye" ...so I tried calling again but still nothing, so I send her an email saying that I tried to call her, than she DELETED ME!!!....I tried calling again but got NOTHING and I send her an email asking why she is acting like this and still got nothing and now she wont call me back at all You went way overboard trying to contact her. You should have backed off, not bombarded her with calls and emails. This is slightly stalkerish. But I told her friends were just fine but she pull this off anyway...why?? why would she suddenly want nothing more to do with me?? I mean I thought maybe me and her can at least be friends! She doesn't want to be friends with you. She said that because she is uncomfortable with dumping guys and it was saving face. Now that you've contacted her repeatedly in a IMO very confrontational way, she responds by ignoring you and trashing your behaviour to your friends. Why was it really nesscary for her to act that way and completely ignore me? Like it or not, she doesn't "owe" you an explanation for her poor conduct. She is free to ignore you if she wants. You trying to get answers from her is just a waste of your time and makes you look desperate and obsessed. For your own mental well-being, please just put it behind you and leave her alone. so tell me, did that 1 meeting change her feelings towards me completely?? Who knows? Certainly, we don't! If it was another girl who had been truly crazy about you, all your "blunders" might have seemed cute! As confucious stated earlier, just try to learn from this and be attune to others' reactions to your advances.
Author Evilken21 Posted April 7, 2007 Author Posted April 7, 2007 So what should I have done differently...?? oh also about the "She grabbed my hand to stop me from touching her leg" That didn't happen, the way I explained it seems so, what happened is I rubbed her leg for about 2 seconds, pulled back, shortly after she held my hand like a couple would. So yeah, just thought I clear that up.
kepners Posted April 20, 2007 Posted April 20, 2007 straight up. you wrote that as a story... why? thats plain odd... listen mate, simply shes was never attracted to you, like you where and are to her. you manipulated her to meeting you. she did, she thought you maybe where a real man by being alloff etc, but deep down she knew the truth. but hid it from her self, she fancied someone else or was thinking about someone else when you met, but met you because she felt she owed it to you. the fact is she remained in the car, says EVERYTHING... she saw u first... weighed you up before you even said hello. its was dead in the water. she didnt want to be seen with you at all. period. she was embarrised about being seen with you. she instantly knew you where NOT her type, but you serious SO NOT her type that she didnt even want strangers seeing you together!! seriously as harsh as it thats the facts from a man. 1: she knew u was a sap, 2: thought you maybe a man (when u was palying mind games) 3: knew u was a sap but gave you the benefit of the doubt 4: saw you first and realised you was a SUPER SAP 5: instanly knew you wasnt her type 6: so much so she didnt want you to see her so stayed in the car 7: was embarrised about being seen with you 8: freaked out by everything else u did (as everyone else said) serious harsh but that why everything happened the way they did, you manipulated her in to seeing you when u knew she didnt fancy you. and you lying to urself trying to see positives in negitives, trying to see things that are clearly negatives, because honestly mate, when a chicks hot for you, she makes it clear in a non-SLUTY WAY!
Author Evilken21 Posted May 18, 2007 Author Posted May 18, 2007 straight up. you wrote that as a story... why? thats plain odd... listen mate, simply shes was never attracted to you, like you where and are to her. you manipulated her to meeting you. she did, she thought you maybe where a real man by being alloff etc, but deep down she knew the truth. but hid it from her self, she fancied someone else or was thinking about someone else when you met, but met you because she felt she owed it to you. the fact is she remained in the car, says EVERYTHING... she saw u first... weighed you up before you even said hello. its was dead in the water. she didnt want to be seen with you at all. period. she was embarrised about being seen with you. she instantly knew you where NOT her type, but you serious SO NOT her type that she didnt even want strangers seeing you together!! seriously as harsh as it thats the facts from a man. 1: she knew u was a sap, 2: thought you maybe a man (when u was palying mind games) 3: knew u was a sap but gave you the benefit of the doubt 4: saw you first and realised you was a SUPER SAP 5: instanly knew you wasnt her type 6: so much so she didnt want you to see her so stayed in the car 7: was embarrised about being seen with you 8: freaked out by everything else u did (as everyone else said) serious harsh but that why everything happened the way they did, you manipulated her in to seeing you when u knew she didnt fancy you. and you lying to urself trying to see positives in negitives, trying to see things that are clearly negatives, because honestly mate, when a chicks hot for you, she makes it clear in a non-SLUTY WAY! Sorry dude but I disagree... For one, she waved at me while she was in the car, so she did want me to see her obviously. before me and her met, she said things like " I can't wait to see you" Or " I hope you don't get lost" Obviously she wanted to see me. but something went wrong.
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