mrbeantown Posted October 30, 2006 Posted October 30, 2006 Hello all! I am new here and looking for some advice and possible new friends. anyways... I dated this girl for 6 years and she broke it off 2 months ago. It started as a break but as the time went on she told me she was enjoying being by herself and did not feel the same anymore. we were living together for almost 2 years and I was her first love, first kiss etc. She was 19 and I was 23 when we started dating. Is she being selfish for wanting to be by herself after so long? Can u really just stop loving someone? I also think there may have or might be someone else. This all seemed to happen to quickly. When we started the break she told me she was doing it because she loves and she cried and hugged me. Lately I've been confused, angry, sad, happy... basiclly an emotional mess. When, if ever, should I try to contact her? I still want to try to be friends but dont know if it is right or how to go about it. Im doing the no contact thing now and trying to move on but its hard.... Thank you for your time!!!
Ruff Ryder Posted October 30, 2006 Posted October 30, 2006 Whats up dude? Yea all I can say is she was to young and now feels she missed her chance to have fun. NC is the way for you. She will miss you like hell and in time come to her senses. In this time YOU need to get out there put youself back on the market. Go to gym get fit make new friends and start new hobbies. Dont sit arround waiting. The pain will go in time and the rest falls into place. Stay focused and possitive an you will win. Do it just live your life and have fun doing it. Peace man
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Author mrbeantown Posted October 30, 2006 Author Posted October 30, 2006 Funny you should say that.... I am currently working out, looking for my own place, talking to other women and planning on taking improve classes. Everyone i talk to tells me I am handleing it very well. sometimes i will drift off and think of her and miss her and there are those ROUGH mornings. people tell me she may come to her senses she may not. If I knew this was going to happen I never would have dated her I would have just been her friend, at least I would still be talking to her now!!
KittenMoon Posted October 30, 2006 Posted October 30, 2006 If I knew this was going to happen I never would have dated her I would have just been her friend, at least I would still be talking to her now!! I thought this same thing several times after my break-up. We were togehter 6.5 years, roughly the same circumstances, though we are both in our mid-20s. It's been over 8 months and I can't pretend I'm over it so keep in mind you may be grieving for quite a while. Whether she comes back or not is totally out of your control though- nothing you say or do will change things. Try to keep remembering this. Don't contact, let her have her space, but be cordial if you run into each other or something. Keep doing things to stay busy, try new things, etc. Remember these will not "cure" your heartache but it will help. Sorry you are going through this, you're not alone.
Enema Posted October 30, 2006 Posted October 30, 2006 Very rarely do such young women who get into a LTR as their very first relationship go the distance. A lot of us have learnt that the hard way. At least now you're older, presumably you'll be looking for older women about your age that have "done the rounds" so to speak and will be ready for something more permanent. Chalk her up to a necessary lesson in love and move on!
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