Mystic Gohan Posted October 9, 2006 Posted October 9, 2006 Sorry but this is a long one! I told Alicia last week that i liked her and she rejected me but that is cool cause we are still friends (i think) we went to the club the other night seperate, she went with her firends and i went with mine, anyway she came in and we said hey, how you going, then she walked off, anyway during the night, i caught her looking at me alot but i showed no interest back only cause she said she wanted to be friends, so i kept dancing with the girls i was with, anyway she walked past me later and punched me in the arm ,s o ii playfully punched her back but i hit her with my ring and gave her i little bruise no bigger than a pinky nail, anyway she now apparently hates me cause i snobbed her but i wasnt snobbong i was just trying to show a little less interest so i could get over her and try to move on, but her behaviour makes me think she likes me, i think the only thing stopping her is the fact that she had a bad break up with her ex and she is having trouble trusting, so i done the dumbest thing ever, i pretended to send a message to my friends andrew saying things like how are you and stuff?blah blah blah, but i added in that there was a girl i liked caleled alicia and even though she rejected me i said i still liked her i only did this so she would know i still feel for her and i also said i think she is afraid to tell me she like me, then i actually sent the message to alicia instead of andrew but i made it look like i sent it to andrew, anyway can someone please tell me what to do she i confusing me, does she like me or what?
Author Mystic Gohan Posted October 10, 2006 Author Posted October 10, 2006 ireally need to know if she likes me or what your impressions are from what i have told you.
qismat Posted October 10, 2006 Posted October 10, 2006 to be honest, she is probably feeding off your vibes, she is noticing you trying to act tough, and so she is trying to compensate and make sure you're not upset with her for rejecting you.. you asked her out right? i cant really say whether she likes you or not.. you didn't really give enough details about the situation, but i think if you asked her out, and she rejected you, that is answer enough regardless of whether she had a bad break-up previously... did you get a response from the text that you sent to her? i think at this point, if you've asked her out, and sneakily sent her that text message.. you've done your part.. and if she hasn't told you she'd like to take you up on your offer, its safe to assume she doesn't want any more than friendship.
Author Mystic Gohan Posted October 10, 2006 Author Posted October 10, 2006 i didnt ask her out i just told her i liked and, this is the vague basics of the stroy we have, we flirt with each other all the time, she playfully punches and touches me sometimes, she goes out of her way sometimes to walk past me and bump into me with her hips or butt, she gets jelous when i try to dance (lol) with girls (even her friends), she grabs my hands sometimes while we are dancing together and places tehn very low on her stomach, she always asks me to grab her ass theni say no then she grabs my arse (note i do not grab her arse, i am not like that), she always looks at me if i am not near her or she gets her friends to tell her what i am doing. these are the basics so i need to know if she likes me?
Author Mystic Gohan Posted October 10, 2006 Author Posted October 10, 2006 This is what i should have posted the first time. i didnt ask her out i just told her i liked and, this is the vague basics of the stroy we have, we flirt with each other all the time, she playfully punches and touches me sometimes, she goes out of her way sometimes to walk past me and bump into me with her hips or butt, she gets jelous when i try to dance (lol) with girls (even her friends), she grabs my hands sometimes while we are dancing together and places tehn very low on her stomach, she always asks me to grab her ass theni say no then she grabs my arse (note i do not grab her arse, i am not like that), she always looks at me if i am not near her or she gets her friends to tell her what i am doing. these are the basics so i need to know if she likes me?
phyrespryte Posted October 10, 2006 Posted October 10, 2006 If a girl doesn't like you...she wouldn't let you touch her. And she'd do her best to avoid you at all times. So dancing and arse grabbing wouldn't be happening. Is she playing you? I have no clue. She sounds confused and because of her past break up she's probably afraid of starting something again. I think you've already received some really good advice in your other thread... Personally if I were you I'd change the dynamics of interaction. If you always go to a club, then take her out for coffee instead. If you broke her out of the routine for an evening, then potentially she can respond in a new way to you. If she's still adamant you're just friends, then let her go and put her in the "friends zone" in your head again. Why not do just that? That way she gets to know you better without other girls dancing all over you. Then you can also show her that you're not like her ex. And maybe you can find out if she's still stuck on just being friends. So first apologize for bruising her arm and ask her out.
Author Mystic Gohan Posted October 11, 2006 Author Posted October 11, 2006 i already apologized for the bruise...it was an accident i hit her with my ring, i think it is good advice (as is everyone's) but i just dont see her going for it unless she was with another friend, so iguess i could ask her if she and some friends wanted to go out hey.
phyrespryte Posted October 11, 2006 Posted October 11, 2006 Well you won't know till you try. Besides I can't see how she's going to be able to talk about the relationship between the two of you with her friends around. It'd be pretty awkward. Anyways, if she says no to the alone thing...well I think that's an answer to your problem.
Walk Posted October 11, 2006 Posted October 11, 2006 I think if you ask her out and say she can invite friends then you might as well pack your bags and go home. I have two things I think when I read your posts. First is that you're coming off as a push over. I get this image of you as a lap dog toward this girl. Which is fine.. your infactuated with her. But dang. Use your back bone. You're a man. Take control. If she doesn't want something with you, then accept it and move on. Don't keep hanging around waiting, and waiting, and waiting. She's NEVER going to change her mind. Definite big no. **rolling up newspaper and hitting you on nose** No. Bad Mystic. Bad. Second.. I really believe that at this point she's feeding her ego off your attention toward her. I don't think this has much to do with her liking you in the way you like her. I think this is about her getting attention. And you're giving it. You don't have to take my suggestion, but I'll give it anyway. Grab your cajones, ask her out for real. Stop playing the "I like you, do you like me" game... Take control of the situation. You can't lose what you don't have. And you don't have her. So whatever you're doing now is NOT working. She knows for a fact that you like her, and she's still sticking with teh "we're just friends" mentality. You either change it, or accept it. But stop the incessant.. "do you like me now?".... "do you like me now?".... "how about now?"....... Be a man. Act as though you KNOW she wants you, and as though she would be the stupidest girl in the world for not taking you up on your offer to go out with you. Then follow through with it... if she says no, then move on. Don't dance with her, don't look at her, don't give her the attention she wants. If you want to be friends, then be friends. But do so understanding that it is ALL you will EVER be. End of story. P.s. the advertising your thread on other peoples posts is rather annoying. I understand why you're doing it.. but .. hmmm... makes me want to skip your replies to people. Why don't you just add it as a signature line instead? It's a little less intrusive. The way you're doing it now, seems a little insensitive of other peoples problems.
Author Mystic Gohan Posted October 12, 2006 Author Posted October 12, 2006 i have no idea what i signature line is sorry if if it annoying but i do this on other forums and everyones ok with it i just thought it would be ok, i am not trying to seem uninterested in peoples stories and problems i really do like to help people, as for you suggestion i will od it this weekend i will play the ignore her game.
Walk Posted October 12, 2006 Posted October 12, 2006 i have no idea what i signature line is sorry if if it annoying but i do this on other forums and everyones ok with it i just thought it would be ok, i am not trying to seem uninterested in peoples stories and problems i really do like to help people, as for you suggestion i will od it this weekend i will play the ignore her game. No one else said anything about it... so probably isn't a big deal about link. But if you wanted to put it in your signature line. You find that under the "My Profile/CP" link in the navigation bar toward the top of the screen. I've noticed others put links to their threads in the sig line, and it's a little less intrusive. It's just a suggestion. I'm simply a poster, just like you. So if you think it's better as is, then keep it. My post was harsh, I'm sorry about that. But I do think you need to work on your presentation. I'm not saying ignore her. I'm saying be confident. believe that she should want you because you're the bomb. And believe that if she's so foolish as to not want more with you, then she's the one that will lose out. But I think you need to portray yourself with more confidence. Not games. Just confidence that you're a great person.
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