Help me please!!! i need my girlfriend back

i wasnt really sure where to post this its my first post but i need help badly so here goes...

in the beginning of october i started to go out with my gf everything was going great until around the end of may.. everyday we would talk on the phone a few times ..we still do but everything seems different we used to see each other almost everyday like 6 times a week and now we only see each other around 1-2 times per week after we broke up, i always say i love you when we get off of the phone and i really do,even now that were broken up everytime i say it she doesnt even say anything but the end of may we broke up and i asked why . she said im tired of having a bf i asked why she didnt give a real reason i really dont understand what i did wrong i would always go out of my way to be nice to her i would do anything for her . i cant really explain how we are now ..its wierd she still kisses me and we make out and do a lot of things we used to but its less often it seems like shes just trying to make me happy and she wont even hold my hand in public ,and little things like that upset me.she knows i am extremely sensitive and it seems since we broke up i cry about small things like not being able to see her because shes busy and she makes me cry almost everyday about little things but she seems to do them on purpose .lately within the last week and a half weve been seeing each other even less and the last three days shes like were gonna hang out today and then she gives some bs reason we cant like its too hot or my mom wont let me when there not doing anything she promises she will see me and today she made plans with another friend ..i have no idea what to do i dont want to be broken up even though its sort of like were going out in a way . if it were up to me i would see her 24/7 and never be bored. i want things to be like they were, holding hands in public kissing more often always being happy when im with her but i dont know what to do please help me

First question - How old are you two?

Second question - is this first "real" girlfriend?

Here's my thoughts on what you have said..it sounds as though you are both young and this may be a case of puppy love and definetly not saying that breakups don't hurt because regardless of intensity of relationship or age they HURT, I've been there done that...but time heals all things and it sounds as though your girl has moved on or is wanting to move on. Don't toture yourself..you have to live for yourself first before you can be a strong man for anyone. Let her do her thing and you do yours. Don't wait for her to figure it out while you sit on the sidelines...if she is making other plans then so should you..go hang with your guy buddies and enjoy.

Just my .02

me and her are both 16 and its not my first but definately by far my most serious and i definately love her 100X more than i ever loved anyone else thats why it hurts me that she doesnt go through with plans ,saying im gonna see her today or what ever,because i would never ever do that to her

me and her are both 16 and its not my first but definately by far my most serious and i definately love her 100X more than i ever loved anyone else thats why it hurts me that she doesnt go through with plans ,saying im gonna see her today or what ever,because i would never ever do that to her i honestly would do anything to go out with her i mean anything more help please

me and her are both 16 and its not my first but definately by far my most serious and i definately love her 100X more than i ever loved anyone else thats why it hurts me that she doesnt go through with plans ,saying im gonna see her today or what ever,because i would never ever do that to her i honestly would do anything to go out with her i mean anything more help please

me and her are both 16 and its not my first but definately by far my most serious and i definately love her 100X more than i ever loved anyone else thats why it hurts me that she doesnt go through with plans ,saying im gonna see her today or what ever,because i would never ever do that to her

sorry i didnt think the posting was working if theres a way to delete the bad posts i will

more help please !!

Dude, you're only 16.

Play sports or something so you don't think about her too much.

Don't throw away your high school years on one girl.

there are not any sports im into - it just seems like shes bored with me .for just like a week im gonna not call her quite as much and see other people and she if she misses me as much as i miss her- i honestly would do anything to get her to love me like i love her so any other ideas would help!!

She probably is bored, but you're doing the right thing by laying low. Don't put all your eggs in one basket. Mix it up by dating and hanging with friends, that way it stays fresh.

Girls don't like desperate guys. This will never change, no matter how old you get. Learn this now and you'll be money.

thanks western anyone else got an opinion ?

she was supposed to call me a few hours ago but didnt should i call and be like why do you never call me anymore or should i ignore it and make her want me ??

Looks like nobody else has an opinion...

Well you don't understand something because you're so young, but it applies to all ages, from 9 to 99. Sometimes we are just not in love with some people. Our feelings may change with time if some things influence them, but usually there's not much you can do.

She obviously likes you, but is not in love with you.That's why she broke up under such a lame excuse. That's why she is not running to see you and be with you 24/7 as you would with her. You are in love, but she is not. Accept that as a fact. The only thing you can do is play by her rules and hope she will give you another chance. Don't be her puppy, it's a turn off for independent girls like her.

Date other girls and avoid her a little bit, but be very sweet to her when you're with her. If you show her how unhappy you are she will be even less motivated to give you another chance. Take it easy and show her how much fun she could have with you. Amuse her, don't make her feel guilty for not sharing the same feelings as you. It's not her or your fault. She is not obliged to be in love with you whatsoever. If you like spending time with her then use those moments to enjoy, not to blame her for your bad luck. Everyone likes cheerful people, nobody likes us when we are miserable.

I'd add my opinion but western and RP are right on. You can't "make" her love you or want to be with you. If you could, figure out how to put that in a bottle, set up your marketing campaign, and you will be an overnight billionaire.

Originally posted by RecordProducer

nobody likes us when we are miserable.

RecordProducer makes a very good point!

thanks for the help buy im not interested in anyone else im kinda looking for some way to get her back i dunno what to do

Soon you will realise you can get someone even better, if she gets bored of you that easily. i think you should try move on seriously! There will most definately be more girls out there for ya dude! Perhaps on your search for other girls your old gf might come back looking?

i dunno if ive done something wrong but over about the last too days when we talk its always like for only a couple minutes and i ask her to call me back but it seems like the last 4 times she said she would she didnt -should i call her and say something, like whay do you never call me back ,or did i do something wrong or say something to her so she knows i still want to talk to her or would that be a bad thing to say please respond soon im gonna call her if she doesnt call me in 20 minutes

help please!!!

please respond soon !!!!!!!!!!!!!!

You're already digging your own grave, pal. Keep digging...

Originally posted by spitfire01111

thanks for the help buy im not interested in anyone else im kinda looking for some way to get her back i dunno what to do

Well one thing you could do is stop trying to get her back .. You can not get her back ..

What do you want to do tie her down to a chair and roll her to dinner with you ?

Your done man.. Give it up

she said im tired of having a bf i asked why she didnt give a real reason i really dont understand what i did wrong i would always go out of my way to be nice to her i would do anything for her . i cant really explain how we are now ..its wierd she still kisses me and we make out and do a lot of things we used to but its less often it seems like shes just trying to make me happy and she wont even hold my hand in public ,and little things like that upset me.she knows i am extremely sensitive and it seems since we broke up i cry about small things like not being able to see her because shes busy and she makes me cry almost everyday about little things but she seems to do them on purpose .lately within the last week and a half weve been seeing each other even less and the last three days shes like were gonna hang out today and then she gives some bs reason we cant like its too hot or my mom wont let me when there not doing anything she promises she will see me and today she made plans with another friend ..i have no idea what to do i dont want to be broken up even though its sort of like were going out in a way . if it were up to me i would see her 24/7 and never be bored. i want things to be like they were, holding hands in public kissing more often always being happy when im with her but i dont know what to do please help me

Read your post here. Afew times.

Now, take a step back, remove yourself from this situation...Pretend you're giving your bestfriend advice.

You may think " Oh man, he's crowding her!! No wonder she's starting to feel abit sick of him! She needs to do her own thing! And he needs to trust her abit more..."

Do you get what I'm spit? Part of this is just experience, understanding when it's TOO much...Love is hard, especially the first real love.

All the mistakes you make, you learn and try to not make the same ones again.

I'm saying this to be honest, this is not meant to hurt your feelings...Part of it is your age, hormones, first love ofcourse, but really you need to back off from her. When someone says they will call you back and they don't, THAT says something...Afew days pass, and she's still not called, THAT says something.

When you make plans to see her and those plans fall through cuz she's cancelled them, THAT says something, espeically if she isn't calling to say sorry, let's make other plans...

My real advice to you is let her go. Don't be her friend, that will just hurt you TOO MUCH. Read about in the coping section, many people in there have gone through this and can give you wonderful advice.

I know it hurts like hell, but do you really want to be with someone who may not be as into you as you are to them?? Think about that. You're worth more, you deserve a nice girl who will be there for you just as much as you are for her. Don't waste energy on someone who isn't putting the same effort back in.

Hope this helps abit...

Again, this is not meant to hurt your feelings, I just think you need to open your eyes abit and see the whole picture.

Hang in there.