Scorn AGAIN by ex, after 4 months...but met another girl...i'm so confused

Here's a quick run-down. We were together almost 5 years. My first love, my whole world. Anyway, we broke up about 4 months ago, and she IMMEDIATELY started seeing another guy. She actually met him a week before I kicked her out of the house. They are now broken up, still sleeping together i'm sure. She says they hang out everyday, all the time, etc. I haven't spoken to her in a week. She called me and made it seem like she wanted to get back together. We hung out a couple times, and she told me how much she still loved me. Last week, she sent me a long email about how she can't get back together with me, and she just wants to be friends.

I feel like we broke up all over again. The day I received that email, I was destroyed.

I met this great girl a couple weeks ago, and we started hanging out. She lives 45 minutes away, but we see each other 1-2 times during the week, and on the weekends. She's 18, i'm 22, but she seems much more mature than most 18 year olds that I meet. She's a 4.0 student in college, studying to be a pharmacist. She's 100 times hotter than my ex, but this girl is a VIRGIN. It's like I can't f'ing win. I find a great girl, with ZERO sexual experience, and that's a big deal to me. i'm a very sexual person, and I like to have sex, lol.

I don't even know what i'm looking for here, but can anyone give me advice on this dilemma. I can't stop thinking about my ex-g/f, even though I have this great girl that really likes me.

Um...forget that the new girl is a virgin and be with her...I mean geez its like you hit the lottery

Let's look at the positives

1. Good Looking

2. Intelligent

3. Good Head on Shoulders

4. Most Important: She's showing an interest in you!!!

Negatives:

1. She's a good girl(virgin)...but I'm sure that can be changed

2. She's only 18 and when girls turn 19 they don't know what they want in life...it's like a life crisis zone

So if you decide to give a go with her and make it til she's 20...your set for a long time mate...good luck...and don't bother with your tee-ter-toter ex....she'll want you so bad when your with this new girl...but guess what she won't be able to have you...haha...

Thanks for the advice. This new girl is AMAZING. I introduced her to a lot of my friends at a club this weekend, and they were all very impressed. They were giving me the thumbs up several times throughout the night while I was dancing with her. She is definitely much better looking than my ex, and she seems just as smart. My ex was with 15 guys before we got together (and she was 19), so sleeping with her on the second date was no big shock.

I just wish there was a way I could forget about what my ex is doing, and not be bothered with who she is with or who she is banging. I appreciate the advice. Thanks again.

No Problem..

I'm still hung up a little on my ex so i know how it is...It's been 3 months since I last talked to her...and i still haven't moved forward...i'm only 18 though...so plenty of time...

Anyways back to you...

Have you kept up your No Contact with the ex...I think you said you just heard from her recently...no wonder why you can't get her out of your head...let me tell you for the first month that I didnt' talk to my ex I saw her face on every girl and I only saw her body...Now I don't even remember what she looks like unless I look at a picture...Then I told my friends...(because it was a long line between the ex and I) to not mention her name around me anymore or we would not continue our friendship...they got the point..and we now chill without mention of my ex...

That is the key...when she is no longer in your life...she will only slightly linger in your head...sometimes I think I'm keeping her alive by talking about her all the time...but that's ok because I still think about other girls as well...It's just i'm not seeing anyone right now...and of course the last one is always going to be the one i think of...

So I would suggest

1. Keeping absolutely No Contact with the EX

2. I saw a red flag in your post...(You said your new girl is just as smart as your ex) You need to take the new girl based on her new merits and not compared to the ex otherwise it won't work out...

Wow, again, some very good points. You are wise beyond your years at 18

You are right, I do compare her to my ex, and i'm going to try and stop doing that. I haven't talked to my ex in about a week. We actually went about a month without any contact, and then she started calling me. Like I said, we hung out a few times (dates), to see if we could work things out, then she shot me down with this long email. She tells me how much she loves me and how much she wants to be with me, but she can't. I'm going to stick to the NC thing, and not answer my ex's calls.

Your posts really helped me out. I'm actually meeting the new girl's parents tonight. I thought it was kind of fast, but she really wanted me to meet them...so why not, right. lol

I'd really like things to work out with this new girl, so I guess the parents is the first step. Thanks again for your posts, I really appreciate you taking the time to help me out. And best of luck with your ex. Listen to your heart and take your own advice. You'll get over her.

Your story makes me glad that I IGNORED my ex when she wrote me about how much she misses me.

So I missed where this girl being a virgin is a bad thing. Since when does having slept with someone before become a criteria??

Anyway, be careful with how fast you go with this girl. Make sure you're on the same page with her, don't let the relationship get serious if your not serious about it.

Oh, and if your ex comes around again, either ignore her or straight up tell her to get lost.

MARK MY WORDS...From here on out, my ex is IGNORED (and/or blown off if she calls me at work or something). I have an update on the new girl. We went out a couple more times and really had a great time. The virgin thing throws me off though. I would have thought finding a gorgeous 18 year old virgin would be like finding burried treasure, but it's not. I have no idea how long it will take until we can move forward with a sexual relationship, and it's killing me.

Does anyone have more advice on my situation, or advice on how to now get so hung up on the virgin thing? Jesus, i'm so f'in messed up in the head.

Become very friendly with your right hand...he is your friend...your ally...he will guide you through your sexual urges...lol