lost_in_chgo Posted December 6, 2003 Share Posted December 6, 2003 Here are some links relevant to reconciliations, some specifically geared toward divorce and the psychology of a recently divorced person,which shoud also apply to long term relationships. If you have recently broken up with someone and the relationship was longer than 3 months or so and you are hoping for a reconciliation, these may be helpful to you. This addresses the four stages of divorce. You can find these better detailed in a book called the Divorce Sourcebook. Goto the library or bookstore and find it. Read chapter 8 about dating after divorce. That is what the recently divorced person is going thru. This link is a bit negative about reconciliation, but in many cases, unless you have prior history with the divorced, you are probably going to end up being the rebound transistion person. http://www.canoe.ca/LifewiseLiving01/1011_dating2-par.html This is a often advertised downloadable (for a fee) e-book. The samples are free and there are some interesting things in there: http://www.stopyourdivorce.com/ds/samples.htm Midori posted an excellent synopsis here on how to approach someone who dumped you after a long relationship. Read this and pay close attention to it. This is not the time to be pushing your ex. Understand that if your ex was recently divorced/separated that he/she is going thru alot of internal turmoil and you may not be able to do anything to prevent a breakup or reconcile one. That decision has to come from him/her. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?postid=125029#post125029 I really like the analogy to reading a book posted here: http://www.divorcecentral.com/forums/lifeline_forums/messages/10553.html Recovery advice: http://groups.google.com/groups?selm=339FEB9E.93A%40nicom.com&output=gplain How to try to reconcile by not pushing your luck: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?postid=127734#post127734 Rebound or Hope? http://content.health.msn.com/content/article/41/1674_51841.htm more to follow.... Link to post Share on other sites
Author lost_in_chgo Posted December 7, 2003 Author Share Posted December 7, 2003 Should You Get Back Together with Your Ex? http://www.sharpman.com/Article.asp?ArticleID=558 Read the Moving On section in this article: http://sharpman.com/Article.asp?ArticleID=515 Breakups and Being Friends http://www.aish.com/dating/advice/Dating_Advice_137_-_Exit_Etiquette.asp Link to post Share on other sites
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