OW vs. BW

There will always be OW & BW's. The feud will never end. But we can try to end it here at least.

because what the BS does not understand that the MM usually initiates this type of contact... will lie about his situation...to get what he wants

that is a fact!

There should be no fued, the conflict should be with Husband.. and for the OW the conflict should be with her MM

personally i don't think there is any feud going on. NONE. I do not see anyone attacking you?

I see questions being asked about your relationships and where you think it is going. I see you feeling attacked because when the questions are asked you know you are wrong. That is why your whole relationship is a secret on most cases.

I think you would like to just see happiness and fairytales here and not be presented with the reality of your situation which is the wife and kids that go along with this person you say you love.

personally i don't think there is any feud going on. NONE. I do not see anyone attacking you?

I see questions being asked about your relationships and where you think it is going. I see you feeling attacked because when the questions are asked you know you are wrong. That is why your whole relationship is a secret on most cases.

 

I think you would like to just see happiness and fairytales here and not be presented with the reality of your situation which is the wife and kids that go along with this person you say you love.

yes that is reality... the MM created this reality..he was the one who initiated contact, in most cases... there should be no fued... the sitiation sucks for both sides...

personally i don't think there is any feud going on. NONE. I do not see anyone attacking you?

I see questions being asked about your relationships and where you think it is going. I see you feeling attacked because when the questions are asked you know you are wrong. That is why your whole relationship is a secret on most cases.

 

I think you would like to just see happiness and fairytales here and not be presented with the reality of your situation which is the wife and kids that go along with this person you say you love.

And you have a fairytale? Don't sound like it. What a bed of roses you have.

yes that is reality... the MM created this reality..he was the one who initiated contact, in most cases... there should be no fued... the sitiation sucks for both sides...

and knowing he was married you could not just say no?? oh he persued you so off you go in the sack?

I will never understand why you would put yourself in this situation between 2 people or more if kids are involved. I really don't get it. I get that you are hurting. I get that you are lied to. I do not get why you are in this position in the first place. With the exception of course of the women who had no clue he was married. That's rough.

And you have a fairytale? Don't sound like it. What a bed of roses you have.

I think what is going on here is that we OW and BS are very angry...

no one has a fairytale... except cinderella...

And you have a fairytale? Don't sound like it. What a bed of roses you have.

no one has that fairytale. They have life. They have reality. The fairytale is insinuating yourself into someone elses reality and thinking that will become your fairytale.

and knowing he was married you could not just say no?? oh he persued you so off you go in the sack?

 

I will never understand why you would put yourself in this situation between 2 people or more if kids are involved. I really don't get it. I get that you are hurting. I get that you are lied to. I do not get why you are in this position in the first place. With the exception of course of the women who had no clue he was married. That's rough.

Yes I am one of those who was in the not knowing... I know that I need to let go... It is more than just sex... K

I think what is going on here is that we OW and BS are very angry...

 

no one has a fairytale... except cinderella...

I am really not angry. I am totally perplexed as to WHY. why a woman would want something that is just a little out of her reach. There are so many men why waste your time with one with HUGE baggage.

peacelove, rolls eyes. You keep telling yourself whatever you need to.

Whatever gets you through!!!!

Yes I am one of those who was in the not knowing... I know that I need to let go... It is more than just sex... K

then i place you in a different category. We need new designations. Like OW and DOW for deceived other woman.

That is a totally different situation although i don't know how you stayed after finding out. Kind of a major part of his life he forgot to mention.

peacelove, rolls eyes. You keep telling yourself whatever you need to.

Whatever gets you through!!!!

see that is what you do though. You keep telling yourself it's ok that he loves you while he goes home to his family every night. That is not ok. That is not fair to you.

Take care of your husbands so ow won't have to!!!!!!

see that is what you do though. You keep telling yourself it's ok that he loves you while he goes home to his family every night. That is not ok. That is not fair to you.

You've got it wrong. We've been living together for 6 years now. His stbxw has a boyfriend now. MY MAN doesn't go to her for anything.

then i place you in a different category. We need new designations. Like OW and DOW for deceived other woman.

 

That is a totally different situation although i don't know how you stayed after finding out. Kind of a major part of his life he forgot to mention.

me either(sigh) I am not happy at all (tears)

Take care of your husbands so ow won't have to!!!!!!

oh now isn't that the classic little line of i want to hurt you. Did that make you feel better?

very mature. You think that justifies your having him? Oh well his wife didn't give him enough head so i had to do it? Don't put yourself down like that.

 

me either(sigh) I am not happy at all (tears)

how long have you been dealing with this?

oh now isn't that the classic little line of i want to hurt you. Did that make you feel better?

very mature. You think that justifies your having him? Oh well his wife didn't give him enough head so i had to do it? Don't put yourself down like that.

oh boy........ here it goes again... I wish both of you would stop...

Take care of your husbands so ow won't have to!!!!!!

won't HAVE to ???? excuse me?

oh now isn't that the classic little line of i want to hurt you. Did that make you feel better?

very mature. You think that justifies your having him? Oh well his wife didn't give him enough head so i had to do it? Don't put yourself down like that.

No matter how it was worded, there is a bit of truth in this. For the life of me, I can't figure out how people think that if they stop taking care of their spouses needs, that their spouse isn't going to get disatisfied. People have to take care of their marriages. It's like a plant, if you don't water it, its going to die.

Still no excuse to cheat though.

You've got it wrong. We've been living together for 6 years now. His stbxw has a boyfriend now. MY MAN doesn't go to her for anything.

then why do you consider yourself an OW? Why is she not an EX after SIX years?

Water It Or It Will Die!! Water It Before Hubby Goes Elsewhere.

Water It Or It Will Die!! Water It Before Hubby Goes Elsewhere.

do you know how demeaning to yourself you sound? Do you know how you are making yourself look?

Water It Or It Will Die!! Water It Before Hubby Goes Elsewhere.

Peace and Love... what happened to Peace and Love?

You are better than this