She called after 3 weeks-it wasnt good.

Haven't spoken to my ex in 3 weeks.Things ended with her cheating on me, then we got back together, and then the night after we got back together she tells me: "I don't love you anymore". The last conversation we had ended like this: "i think you and i will be together in the future but for now i just want to date and stuff and not have a serious boyfriend. Anyways i have to run i dont know when i am going to call you but i know that ill call you"

3 weeks later...(yesterday)

She calls....i pick up. We small talk for a bit about normal stuff. Then she tells me shes on her way to a guy named jacob...The way she said it though was her begging for me to ask her "whose jacob" but i didnt. So she saw i wasnt gonna ask so she goes "yeah he comes to see me all that time so im gonna go see him tonight"..i pretend to be unaffected and jusat shrugged it off and talked about other things..then she brings im up again "can you believe he already wants me to fly to meet his mother?Hes paying for it and everything... He must really like me!"

Again i just shrug it off...

then we change the subject and such and then she says she has to go and says "later babe"

the general tone of the convo was very..."im trying to make conversation/stuffing u with information about this new guy"

was she just trying to get a reaction out of me?

Furthermore...today I log onto facebook (this online thing for college kids) and she has deleted me from her friends and her new picture is of her making out with this jaco guy..who shes known for less than 3 weeks.

Do you think shes dping this because she got mad i didnt react on the phone like she thought i would? ie PLEAS TAKE ME BACK, I LOVE YOU yadda yadda

I know i should move on and i am, but i like to know what my other half is thinking by doing this.

thats just plain mean and immature. i think your ex is just trying to get a reaction out of you because she hasn't gotten one for the past few weeks. i think it was a cheap blow to boost her own ego and i would take it as nothing more.

shes trying to see if she still has an affect on you. don't give in. don't do anything or it will give her the satisfaction that she affected you and she'll be able to move forward again.

Don't give her a reaction, don't pay attention to her and don't be her friend. Go to strict NC and let her wallow in her own stupid decisions. She needs to fall down hard before her attitude changes.

She called to elicit a response.

Go to NC and if you need to have a friend go thru your messages or VM; especially those that actually make you listen to the whole message before letting you delete them.

Look, I don't like cheaters, never have, never will.

Cheaters infuriate me, -but I have listened to their sorry problems many, many times.

Often the cheater is the one sobbing the most, dripping with snot and tears, and looking desperately for sympathy and advice, -as well as the one they cheated on,- whom, by the way, they tend to selfishly forget about, temporarily, while seeking comfort for themselves.

Typical.

There are certain circumstances that do, sometimes, release them from my wanting to just slap them around a bit, but there's never any excuse for sheer, stupid, blatant, irresponsibility.

This young lady has a lot of immaturity showing.

She's a young adult who's in a serious (I'm assuming) relationship with someone (you) and she chooses to cheat.

Then you take her back.

Maybe the forgiveness issue was truly never settled, (you really didn't say), -but at least, you accepted her back.

Then she decides it's not satisfying her, rather, undefined needs ....this is just a case of silly, childish, selfish behavior.

Call it what it is.

Again, she has alot of growing up to do.

Maybe you do, as well.

Turn your focus back on you, find out what you're all about, for a change, and, by all means, -stop all contact with her.

By the time she 'finds' herself, you will have, hopefully, grown way the hell past any desire to deal with this foolishness, and will have found someone more mature, far more appreciative, and willing to be a part of a a real, honest-to-goodness relationship that is worthwhile.

Hope I've helped.

Take Care.

-Rio

Thank you fo all the replies.

the thing is that am definitly going NC with her but I fear this wont really phase her since she probably doesnt want to talk to me anyways except if its to hurt me. Things between this girla nd i were bordering on marriage even if we are both 18 and 19. im the olde rone, but i feel like im a much more mature person than she is, she is definitly immature but i thought it could work..guess not.

Thanks for all of the responses...I do have one question..is it possible that she really is completely moved on? In a way where she cannot understand that what she is doing is reaslly hurtful?

Or does she KNOW that she still has feeling for and i for her and shes trying to milk them...

Dear hurtguesst,

You are not listening to the advice being given, at all, judging by your repetitive questions.

I see that reading between the lines, for you, is difficult, -so I'll say what I have to say with more clarity.

Look, -she is g-o-n-e, and you should s-t-o-p pursuing her.

Also, just a note, but, -18 and 19 years old is still a little young for anyone to be getting married and 'settling down,' you don't even know who you are, yet, at that age, -find some one a little nicer than the last girl and have f-u-n.

And stop doing so much 'deep thinking', -and just listen, for a while.

(Smile)

Take Care.

-Rio

I agree with Rio on the marriage thing. 18/19 is way too young to get married. Heck, even being in your 20's is too young. That doesnt mean it's not true love or that you two cant have a serious committed relationship. Just dont get it all legal with marriage. Wait till you're older. If it's meant to be, it will be. There's no rush.

This girl seems gone, or seems to be wanting to make you miserable. Dont play the games she wants to play. Get out, focus on yourself, and have fun.

The girl is playing a cruel and nasty game.

I agree you should do NC and forget her.

She obviously was nowhere NEAR ready for marriage. Her treatment of you was immature and selfish.

Sorry you got hurt in this relationship. Someday you will look back on this and wipe your brow and say, "Whew, thank God I missed that bullet!"

....I got some of that after my ex GF and I broke up. Spiteful, nasty little thing!

Tell her to sell "crazy" somewhere else....we're all stocked up here....