hurts when you see the guy's profile....

whom you sent an email to but only to see that he was online today? But obviously, he didn't respond to your email.

Oh well, this got me thinking of people who'd you likely not to reply coz:

1) they're a creep

2) ugly

I guess I must be two of those!!!

whom you sent an email to but only to see that he was online today? But obviously, he didn't respond to your email.

 

 

Oh well, this got me thinking of people who'd you likely not to reply coz:

 

1) they're a creep

2) ugly

 

 

I guess I must be two of those!!!

Maybe you should create a new and separate fake profile with a stunning photo to see if they will respond.

Maybe you should create a new and separate fake profile with a stunning photo to see if they will respond.

you got a point there, but I reckon I might just feel worse with what I've found.

OrangeLady -

May I offer some advice?

From your posts it seems as though you are lacking confidence/self esteem in relation to your appearance.

I feel you need to gain some confidence, think more positively about yourself.

Get your hair done, buy a new outfit, pamper yourself. Make yourself feel great, believe in yourself.

You look the way you look, you need be proud and comfortable with that as you cannot change that.

Once you believe in yourself you will attract the right guys and those that don't give you the time or show interest . . . Take it as learning experience. Gain strength, create a tougher skin and move on.

I hope this helps.

whom you sent an email to but only to see that he was online today? But obviously, he didn't respond to your email.

 

 

Oh well, this got me thinking of people who'd you likely not to reply coz:

 

1) they're a creep

2) ugly

 

 

I guess I must be two of those!!!

OrangeLady -

May I offer some advice?

 

From your posts it seems as though you are lacking confidence/self esteem in relation to your appearance.

I feel you need to gain some confidence, think more positively about yourself.

Get your hair done, buy a new outfit, pamper yourself. Make yourself feel great, believe in yourself.

You look the way you look, you need be proud and comfortable with that as you cannot change that.

 

Once you believe in yourself you will attract the right guys and those that don't give you the time or show interest . . . Take it as learning experience. Gain strength, create a tougher skin and move on.

 

I hope this helps.

Thanks, girl. But I don't see what's wrong with my hair or my outfit. Why do people assume that something's wrong with my hair or outfit or that I need to lose weight?

I already spend so much on outfits...oh and I've tried every style of hair that you can think of - colored it, curled it, straightened it, spiked it, you name it. Yes and I wore make up too.

or you could follow this simple instructional video

Alright then - Fair point.

Maybe you need to gain some confidence and EXUDE that. People can sense when someone is insecure/unsure of themself, EVEN online with the way you respond.

Have you tried positive affirmations?

I hope I haven't offended you, it just pains me to see that you're struggling/upset.

Maybe give the whole dating thing a break and everything will fall into place when you least expect it. Don't push for it so hard, don't think about it so much. I KNOW it's easier said than done, but maybe the universe is telling you that you need to work on YOU?

Thanks, girl. But I don't see what's wrong with my hair or my outfit. Why do people assume that something's wrong with my hair or outfit or that I need to lose weight?

 

I already spend so much on outfits...oh and I've tried every style of hair that you can think of - colored it, curled it, straightened it, spiked it, you name it. Yes and I wore make up too.

or you could follow this simple instructional video

I think you like her.

Maybe give the whole dating thing a break and everything will fall into place when you least expect it. Don't push for it so hard, don't think about it so much. I KNOW it's easier said than done, but maybe the universe is telling you that you need to work on YOU?

/facepalm

ooookaaaaay........

Alright then - Fair point.

Maybe you need to gain some confidence and EXUDE that. People can sense when someone is insecure/unsure of themself, EVEN online with the way you respond.

Yeah, I know I sound very insecure and negative on here, but this is the only place where I say what I really feel when things are not working out for me. I spend at least 2.5 hours a week on google searching for social/activity groups to join and I have joined at least 2 I think but havent' found anything I like. I also met more women than men at those activities.

Have you tried positive affirmations?

I hope I haven't offended you, it just pains me to see that you're struggling/upset.

No, you didn't upset me at all. I know you mean well. You might think I'm just sitting at home, doing nothing but I'm not......I'm really trying.

Maybe give the whole dating thing a break and everything will fall into place when you least expect it. Don't push for it so hard, don't think about it so much. I KNOW it's easier said than done, but maybe the universe is telling you that you need to work on YOU?

Hmmm okay, but I really just started looking online for a month only....thanks, girl...

I think you like her.

Based on?

Not particularly.

The video was hysterical.

Orange - everyone has experienced what you mentioned in your original post. And guys go through it multiple times a day. I think you're going to need to develop a thicker skin for online dating. If they don't respond, move on. There are a lot of options out there. It's just like in real life. If it doesn't work out, no use crying over spilled milk. Keep moving and looking forward until you find the right one.

If this gives you any perspective, I would say I've had some decent success online with respect to getting a lot of emails. I've had 15k views, 14 pages of people have me favorited right now, and I've received several thousand emails and I don't know how many winks. You'd think that would mean I'd be married off by now, with the guy of my choice right? Wrong. When I had about 15 great options at one time around new year's, HALF of them dwindled off after a few contacts. That means they weren't interested enough to meet, and or I got tired of emailing for a month while they checked out all of their other options. The other half got weeded out after meeting.

It's a numbers game. EVERYONE gets rejected online. It sucks, but ultimately you want someone that's right for you so just look at the guy did you a favor and eliminated himself so you could find the right one.

I would look at it this way...

Their loss. I put myself out there and they ignored me. I hope they have good luck with the online dating **** if they think they are hot enough to up and reject people.

Then again if they were such hot **** they wouldn't have to be using online dating to begin with, they could just snap their fingers and get a woman. Obviously that isn't the case haha.

Again, their loss.

Based on?

 

Not particularly.

What's not to like? She's blonde, cute, sexy..etc. She doesn't need make up.

The video was hysterical.

 

Orange - everyone has experienced what you mentioned in your original post. And guys go through it multiple times a day. I think you're going to need to develop a thicker skin for online dating. If they don't respond, move on. There are a lot of options out there. It's just like in real life. If it doesn't work out, no use crying over spilled milk. Keep moving and looking forward until you find the right one.

 

If this gives you any perspective, I would say I've had some decent success online with respect to getting a lot of emails. I've had 15k views, 14 pages of people have me favorited right now, and I've received several thousand emails and I don't know how many winks. You'd think that would mean I'd be married off by now, with the guy of my choice right? Wrong. When I had about 15 great options at one time around new year's, HALF of them dwindled off after a few contacts. That means they weren't interested enough to meet, and or I got tired of emailing for a month while they checked out all of their other options. The other half got weeded out after meeting.

 

It's a numbers game. EVERYONE gets rejected online. It sucks, but ultimately you want someone that's right for you so just look at the guy did you a favor and eliminated himself so you could find the right one.

True, but at least you felt wanted.

On the other side of the coin however, when I had a profile up lots of men that fell squarely into my dealbreaker category (smoking, kids, too old, didn't take care of themselves) would email me. I don't want a 40 year old married man hitting on me, sorry it makes me sick.

When I emailed guys I got responses from most all of them. I also studied their profiles and made sure we had similar interests and views on things, and that we lined up on the dealbreaker type things before I emailed them.

I would look at it this way...

 

Their loss. I put myself out there and they ignored me. I hope they have good luck with the online dating **** if they think they are hot enough to up and reject people.

 

Then again if they were such hot **** they wouldn't have to be using online dating to begin with, they could just snap their fingers and get a woman. Obviously that isn't the case haha.

 

Again, their loss.

Thanks. *hugs* I love ya.

True, but at least you felt wanted.

Yes. Except by the one guy I wanted to. Sort of a zero sum game. Are you not getting winks/emails from random guys already? I thought you were just disappointed that one guy didn't respond back.

What's not to like? She's blonde, cute, sexy..etc. She doesn't need make up.

So I should like her because you want to be her or you think she is what every man should want?

She doesn't look all that bad but her voice is annoying and she thinks she is funnier than she really is.

If I wanted a woman from a video on youtube this is more my style:

whom you sent an email to but only to see that he was online today? But obviously, he didn't respond to your email.

 

 

Oh well, this got me thinking of people who'd you likely not to reply coz:

 

1) they're a creep

2) ugly

 

 

I guess I must be two of those!!!

There is generally a good reason if a guy doesn't respond, girls don't respond simply due to the sheer amount of messages they get.

I didn't respond if they were ugly, if they were only so-so and just sent "hey", or if they were some kind of jesus freak or had lots of kids. I'd say I didn't respond to about 50% of the messages I received on POF because let's face it pretty girls don't need to message first, it's enough of a feeding frenzy without them making the first move.

When I emailed guys I got responses from most all of them. I also studied their profiles and made sure we had similar interests and views on things, and that we lined up on the dealbreaker type things before I emailed them.

Did you get face to face meetings or dates?

If I wanted a woman from a video on youtube this is more my style:

 

Ok that was just freaky!

if i wanted a woman from a video on youtube this is more my style:

 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x4mcagnvz4y

ok.............................................................

True, but at least you felt wanted.

Her experience is the typical for many females. The problem isn't there is no interest but no guy is ever good enough. This plays out the same way irl for such girls. Only a guy or a girl like you will understand what you are going through. These prissy princesses won't understand the true horrors of dating until their pool of men dries up in their 40's or 50's even then it still won't be that bad. They'll cry about it but it is more about the pool they lost which they had back in their prime, i.e. 20's to a lesser extent their 30's.

Ok that was just freaky!

A woman who isn't a bit crazy isn't worth having.

ok.............................................................

Would you have approved if I had picked one of these girls instead:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x9W2RNdOwsE

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xdyRhs_phMo