She suddenly almost shuts me out and not emotionally ready for a relationship?

This is a lot of text to read but please read it. I'm a newbie with relationships and want to figure this out so I can move on in my life. It would be so very much appreciated.

So I'm 21 and in college. I have always have struggled mightily with social situations as I have social anxiety. I have never talked about this with anyone. Before this year I have never gone on a date, kiss or anything because I am sooo shy and lack confidence. But through mutual friends I met this great girl. She pretty much approached me and flirted fairly early on. And after I found out for sure she liked me after one of her friends told me, I asked her out. We went on several dates, hung out at each others places, kissed/made out and things were going great. She seemed so happy to be with me. She opened up to me about her problems/issues she has/is going through like her parents divorce, her eating/body image issues she has and problems with her ex. Then I for really one of the first times opened up and talked about my major flaw with social anxiety. She was very supportive about it. And she really helped me in social situations. We went to different clubs together and we danced together. It was great. I seriously never would have thought I would ever dance. I was at an all time high.

The catch with her is that she got out of a really bad breakup. Her ex turned out to be a psycho and calls mercilessly over and over and over. One morning we woke up and she had 66 missed calls on her phone. She always seemed annoyed and stressed out about it. We talked about it and she told me a month or two ago that she only had feelings for me. After that relationship she said though she wants to take it slow and I agreed and we saw each other 1-2 times a week. We have never officially been in a relationship. And then after a while she revealed that she wanted to hang out more than that.

So we, along with some other friends went to Florida for Spring Break. Everyone was so excited about it. I was really excited to be with her down there. We had a good time shopping together to buy some new clothes for down there and everything was set for a great time. Then suddenly after the early part of the break, her behavior towards me takes a complete 180 degree turn. She no longer talks to me very much at all, in fact she seems so much more interested to talk to everyone else, little or no eye contact, no response to touch and pretty much just shut me out. Towards the end of the week I asked her twice (once when she was drunk and once sober) if she still likes me and she said yes but her behavior toward me remained the same. We just got back yesterday. Last night I was texting her and asked about her behavior and if I did anything wrong. She finally was honest with me. She told me she had a freak out in Florida. She told me she felt really bad the way things went and that I have been so sweet to her, she said she wasn't sure if she has cold feet and if she is honestly ready to get in a relationship again, she said I didn't do anything wrong but she did mention how I talked to talked to her about her strange eating habits in front everyone else (She sometimes won't eat barely anything and then eat a lot later in the night and sometimes I encourage her to eat more) and made her feel uncomfortable in front everyone else when I mentioned it to her (stupid of me). But anyway she told me that she is afraid she would disappoint me that she couldn't handle a relationship right now and said that she couldn't even handle her own eating and body right now. I told her I was very sorry for commenting about her eating habits, that she is very beautiful and would still be thin if she gained a lot of pounds (it's really true), that I will leave her alone but I still want her and that I am in no rush to get in a relationship with her officially. That was late last night and have no response to that so far.

From her behavior I don't think she even likes me anymore. It could be too it is something with her ex or someone else even. Being a lone rider kinda sucks because of feeling lonely, but it comes no where close to this feeling. I can not tell you how freaking bad it hurts that things have turned out this way. Now I feel lower than I ever have been. Makes me not want to date anyone again. What is your analysis of this mess and how should I approach this. Just leave her alone for a little while in hopes she might talk to me again, keep talking to her about it or just move on and a way from her, or what should I do?

To be honest you are describing someone with either anorexia or bullimia. These are real problems and she really does need to work on them. It could be that she feels it is if you wanted her to like you then you should have kept her secret....but if you embarassed her into shaping up you have done her a favor.

How long have u known her for?

It is possible that her ex has something to do with her change of behavior but to confirm that theory, u'd want to ask her about her ex. Like ask if he'z still calling like a maniac. Ask her if shes spoken to him. Depending on the type of person she is (direct or avoidant) , make sure to find the most effective way u can ask her these questions so that she can give u a clear answer.

On the other hand, i think its possible that she still likes u. Does she have an eating disorder?...thats what it sounds like. Peole with clicnically diagnosed disoders sometimes will cut off relationships or shy away from them at times. IDK why...i dont have any disorder. But i do have a signifcant other who suffers from general anxiety and major depressive disorder. She told me a few times that she has wanted to end our relationship cuz she thinks it may be a burden lifted from her....she has really bad anxiety but shes working thru it. Maybe this is the case with ur girl....xcept she'z actually being distant. IDK...I hope i've helped.

I met her at the beginning of last semester (fall). We have been going out since early January. Not real long I guess.

Fish you just found out the hard way that you are what is called a "Rebound". That means that your girl used you to get over her ex. She deliberately sought out a guy to either make her ex jealous or make herself work on getting over her ex, but none of that includes really being into you for who you are. I have no doubt in my mind that her ex was the one that made her self concious about her weight, and I would also bet that you arent her first rebound after her ex. Rebounders are prone to lying alot to make themselves sound more appealing.

The biggest givaway to knowing youre with a rebounder is the talking about problems with the ex so early in the relationship. If you date someone who keeps talking about their ex it usually means they arent over the ex yet. See if an ex is calling her 66 times a day,she would have changed her phone number if she didnt want the attention. Mass text message to friends will update them on the new number, its easy.

You did nothing wrong, its just that when she went to Spring break she decided she wasnt interested in you anymore when she saw the guys down there. She plans on running through guys to make herself feel better, or find someone who makes her forget about her ex, and you didnt do that.

What you need to do now is never talk to her again, and use the knowledge you have now to succeed with a new girl. it helps you get over the ex by talking to new girls. You dont have to date them when you arent ready,. but talking to them helps you get over the ex.

Just make sure you stop chasing your ex, women dont move backwards once they dump you.

Also you found out the hard way that most women are too chicken to tell you to your face that they arent interested in you anymore. They will never tell you why either. You have to learn to see these things coming. This board will help you see that. They also dont tell you that they know months in advance that they will dump you, it will just be when they find someone else.

Just make sure next time you date someone that you dont always take everything they say to heart, they could be playing you. You look for their actions, and how interested they are in you as a person. They also wont talk about their exes really early. usually people who are over their ex wont talk about their ex at all.

^ Your wrong on a few things. She has had his number blocked (he uses other numbers) and has told me that she is only interested in me. And with the weight, her mom is a former model and is the one who gave her the body/eating issues by pressuring her way back. You still could be right though. Ouch