Time to start making my own f*cking mind up!

F*CK IT!!!

Getting advice in this way is futile because it's completely one sided, you don't know the people concerned and as well intentioned as it is (most of it is very well intentioned) it's not necessarily good advice. Gotta remember that for the future: Good intentions don't always equal good advice!

I think these forums while they can serve a useful function sometimes do more harm than good.

People end up questioning their own judgement and relying on examples of other peoples situations to determine their course of action. The one useful grain of advice someone gave me (a good friend) is to find yourself again and rediscover who you are or who you were. The old me that existed before romantic relationships complicated everything would never have been so needy for approval and the opinions of others. She woulda said "I can f*cking well work it out myself!" I trusted my own judgement back then and I'm gonna be doing that again starting from RIGHT NOW!

Time to say GOODBYE to this forum. I've got lot of life left to lead and I'm gonna f*cking well get on with it. I don't wanna be ungrateful to all those of you who gave me advice cos it was kind of you to spare the time but the site (for me anyways) it's more of a hinderance than a help.

I liked the old me. The me I was 4 or 5 years ago. She's coming back.

First things first, I always speak my mind and I have a habbit of being blunt and cutting to the point. So to all those who quote bulls*it statistics such as "99% of the time when an ex calls you they're only doing it because they're at a low point in their life" or "the ratio of reconciliations to permanent break ups is 1:8" to you I say provide statistical data to back up your claims or don't make them. You seem to feel this need to come across as some kind of 'expert' but you're all in the same 'boat of dumped souls' as the rest of us. You're just further down the line. If you were a true expert you probably wouldn't have been dumped so many times and you certainly wouldn't waste your time posting on threads like this years down the line.

Even if the ‘statistics’ are accurate, forget them! They don’t mean a f*cking thing to YOU as an individual.

Honestly I've become such a pissy little pansy at times. Over analysing every phone call, every visit. Dunno why it's taken me so long to realise. Truth is I DETEST people who are ruled by their emotions and become overly sentimental about the slightest thing. Can't believe I almost joined the ranks.

At this present time I have no idea what the future holds for myself and my ex and I could not give one solitary s*it! Why? Because I'm F*CKING FABULOUS!

GOOOOOD NIGHT!!!

So in other words you finally go to the point where you realized you are the only one in control of your actions and only you can change things.

Sounds like the board worked, perhaps not the way you envisioned.

Such is life, you live, you learn you grow.

Yup, the board worked for you ... Now fly the nest and enjoy your life my dear!! x