Woman with boyfriend question

First sorry for the long ass story but i feel it needs to mostly be there to understand the situation.. lol

Well here it goes. About a year and a half ago I started working at this company. The day I came into the place for an interview I was greeted by this amazing woman, and instantly thought she was beautiful. I got the job and ever since that day I have been flirting with her. About 2 weeks into the job I found out she had a boyfriend... she never objected to the flirting and did it right back. She even came out to the bars with me and my other co-workers and left the boyfriend at home. She would even come to my softball games. I left the company to go work somewhere else and they had a going away party for me. She told me she was really sad I was leaving and she would miss me alot. Well about 4 months later my current boss, which worked with me at the old place had a party (he was always trying to hook us up the whole time at the old company and still did) in which we were both at. Well long story short she drove me home because we live close to each other, and something happened. We just made out a little bit and talked. Well since then it’s been alot of talking, and texting going on, found out she use to say she couldn't be alone with me because something would happen. She has said that she wasn't happy in her current situation and I made her happier than she has been in a really long time. She said I was everything she would look for in a guy, and I say the same about her in a woman. We have hung out a few times since and had lots of fun and good laughs. She says she really likes me and loves spending time with me. she said she has to handle this break up with her current boyfriend the right way(they have been together for 2 years and live together) I said that’s fine with me take your time and do it right. Well after one night things between us went kind of far physically and happened once more a few weeks ago. She still said she wanted to be with me, and in a couple of months when she works out all the finance/house/pet stuff she hopes im still available. A couple of weeks ago her boyfriend caught her talking to me and pushed the issue. She said we kissed and flirted via text ect (we still texted and talked after that), well a few days later he pushed more and she told him we slept together. Well I got a text from her saying that, and she and I can't talk anymore and she broke his heart and lost his trust. She loves him and doesn't want to lose him. Which has me confused with all the stuff she said before. Now i come to find out they are finding homes for there pets (which she loves) and splitting all the finance stuff. Question is, are they moving towards a breakup and she said that so it wouldn't be hard for her to do so, talking to me wanted to see me ect. Or are they working things out and im left behind?

so i guess i don't know why someone would cheat on someone they loved?

Was she leading me on to get something she doesn't get now (hasn't had sex in a "long, long" time)?

Does she really want to be with me?

is she leaving him but keeping me at a distance so she doesn't feel stuck in the mean time?

or am I just nieve? lol

thought i would add i have never gone after a woman that had a BF, and she says she has never cheated in her life so i don't know what that all means lol. thanks.

anyone???????

Lets say that she left her bf because of you and the two of you start a relationship. Two years from now, what makes you think she won't do the exact same thing to you? She'll say the exact same things to you...if her words are already contradicting, think about what it'll be like further down the road.

Honestly, i think she was using you for the thrill.

She's a cheat. That's all there really is to it. When I met my current boyfriend, I was struggling with the boyfriend I had at the time. My ex and I fought a lot, but I was still trying with him. When I finally realized that I didn't want to be with him anymore, and instead wanted to be with my current boyfriend, I broke up with my ex FIRST before doing anything with my current boyfriend.

Your woman wanted to have her cake and eat it too. Either she's unhappy in her current relationship or she's not. I do believe you can love more than one person at the same time, but this isn't fair to you or her boyfriend. She needs to make up her mind.

Tell her not to contact you unless she breaks up with him, moves out, and has some time to be on her own.

I'm not going to re-state the obvious that she cheated her BF with you blah blah blah. Obviously, you already know that.

Whatever you do, keep in mind she's a mess right now so you better leave her alone for a while and let her get back to you if she ever does.

As for your question, "does she really want to be with me?", the answer would have to be "no" since you aren't together right now. Clear as mud?

thanks for the input.

yea i just have never been in this position so i didn't know what was going on. she stated before anything really happend that she wanted to handle the breakup the right way, since they have a condo together and pets. so i guess i didn't know what was going on or if she was just leading me on for the fun parts. we haven't talked really since she said that, only time was to see if i was going to a football party she and her BF we invited to so no bad things happend there, I.E he sees me and starts something. guess i will just wait it out and see, because i really like her and haven't really meet anyone like her before and would like nothing more than to be with her. i guess only time will tell. sounds like they are spliting up if they are finding homes for there pets tho. thanks again.

I hope she leaves her poor bf alone and gets together with you and you both have a long miserable relationship, karma is a bitch!

She has said that she wasn't happy in her current situation and I made her happier than she has been in a really long time.

 

Well after one night things between us went kind of far physically and happened once more a few weeks ago. She still said she wanted to be with me, and in a couple of months when she works out all the finance/house/pet stuff she hopes im still available. A couple of weeks ago her boyfriend caught her talking to me and pushed the issue.

 

She said we kissed and flirted via text ect (we still texted and talked after that), well a few days later he pushed more and she told him we slept together.

 

Well I got a text from her saying that, and she and I can't talk anymore and she broke his heart and lost his trust. She loves him and doesn't want to lose him.

 

 

thought i would add i have never gone after a woman that had a BF, and she says she has never cheated in her life so i don't know what that all means lol. thanks.

Looks like alot has happened in her life over the time you guys came back into contact and started communicating?

Why would someone cheat on someone they loved? The thrill of new sex, possbility of new love, new emotional connections - etc.

Does she really want to be with you? Look at her behavior and answer your own question, my friend....

I hope she leaves her poor bf alone and gets together with you and you both have a long miserable relationship, karma is a bitch!

well she was the one that started the more physical part, so something was wrong with them. but meh i've had enough bad things happend to me for no reason,if karma is true, it must work in reverse lol

thx for the reply's