question for the men :) about commitment issues and what makes you run

Hi guys,

 

I am just wondering if I could get some different mens' perspectives on the commitment aspect of things.

 

Have you ever broken up with a girl you truly cared about because you just weren't ready to settle down? Did you regret it later?

 

Was there a point in your life where you finally felt "ready" to settle down or did it depend on meeting the right person?

 

Do you think there is a common age where this desire to find your one true love starts to creep in or is it dependent on the person? Would you say that some men never reach this point?

 

What makes you run from a good relationship? What scares you?

 

Lastly, is a lack of sexual conquest ever a factor? Have you moved on just because you wanted to take a lengthier "tour" of the world that is women?

 

Just wondering

I'll pass on the majority of the questions because I'm atypical.

 

The one I will answer is the running one and that is generally because of only one factor: when a woman plays emotional games with me. I see right through that cr@p and merely gather enough empirical evidence to support my intuition before departing.

 

Nothing scares me about women, though women seem to be a bit scared of me

1. Have you ever broken up with a girl you truly cared about because you just weren't ready to settle down? - No. I've had girls do it to me, but I haven't done it to a girl.
   
2. Did you regret it later? - See answer to #1.
   
3. Was there a point in your life where you finally felt "ready" to settle down or did it depend on meeting the right person? - For me it was pretty early. I'm not into dating casually just for the fun of dating.
   
4. Do you think there is a common age where this desire to find your one true love starts to creep in or is it dependent on the person? - Not really. I've known both ends of this spectrum; some had a family and kids in their early 20's while others are still partying at age 40 like they were when they were teenagers.
   
   
5. Would you say that some men never reach this point? - Yes. Yes I would.
   
6. What makes you run from a good relationship? What scares you? - I have yet to run from one. I've walked away once or twice, but that's only because I knew the relationship wasn't going anywhere.
   
7. Lastly, is a lack of sexual conquest ever a factor? Have you moved on just because you wanted to take a lengthier "tour" of the world that is women? - Nope. Most of the girls I've dated are much more sexually experienced than I am, so if anything, it's the women who would be moving on to a new conquest.
   

As long as the girl treats me nice and cares about our relationship and not go mess around, i'll stick to the plans of being with her. What ticks me off is if she is doing something behind my back. As long as there is trust i will be there for her.

Have you ever broken up with a girl you truly cared about because you just weren't ready to settle down? Did you regret it later?

 

 

No, but I am breaking up with a woman who isn't ready to settle down

 

Was there a point in your life where you finally felt "ready" to settle down or did it depend on meeting the right person?

 

Yes, I felt the happiest I had ever been in my life and knew that this is the one. I was let down.

 

Do you think there is a common age where this desire to find your one true love starts to creep in or is it dependent on the person? Would you say that some men never reach this point?

 

No. A woman or man wants what she/he wants when, and only when, she/he is ready to want it.

 

What makes you run from a good relationship? What scares you?

 

Depends on what the definition of good is.

 

 

Lastly, is a lack of sexual conquest ever a factor? Have you moved on just because you wanted to take a lengthier "tour" of the world that is women?

 

 

Yes. Sometimes this coincides with when a person is ready to settle down.

Do you think there is a common age where this desire to find your one true love starts to creep in or is it dependent on the person? Would you say that some men never reach this point?

 

Everyone will differ, but if I was a gamblin' man I'd put my money on late 20s/early 30s for men. If I was a woman, I wouldn't take many men seriously for long-term relationship material before then. I'm a 28 yr old man and just entering that phase. There are exceptions but not a bunch. Some never do reach that point, you are correct.

 

What makes you run from a good relationship? What scares you?

Honestly, a woman that can't control her weight and/or finances. What man wants to be married to a woman who he is not physically attracted to and is a financial burden? Sex and financial hardship are big factors in divorce from what I've read and been told. That scares me with a lot of women today, usually it's one or the other you have to deal with.

 

Lastly, is a lack of sexual conquest ever a factor? Have you moved on just because you wanted to take a lengthier "tour" of the world that is women?

 

I'm sure it is for some. Bored sexually, or needs to "sow his oats" so to speak.

thank you all for the candid responses, I expected about what I heard, and that's a good thing. anybody else care to weigh in?