teenager acting stupid

I dont remember being this insane when i was a teen but i surely didnt do this to my mom ... i made food for lunch and dinner , it was alot ! told my teen just save some of it for dinner for all of us . he ate like 2-3 bowls.. when i left to go pick up my husband there was at least 10 cups of it left and when we got back there was literally a 1/2 cup left for us ! I was so angry! i told him what the hec??! he kinda just acted like why dont i just make more and it wasnt a big deal ! he is so self centered and arrogant i just can't stand him ! no wonder people always complain about teens ! teenager's are the worst ! he is supposed to live here through college??? good grief !

As my husband would say 'teenagers are why some animals eat their young'

Typical of a teen. Did you make him make some more while you put your feet up and supervised? Taking the cost out of his allowance of course!

As my husband would say 'teenagers are why some animals eat their young'

 

Typical of a teen. Did you make him make some more while you put your feet up and supervised? Taking the cost out of his allowance of course!

LOL ~ that would be great but he would have a big tamtrum that in the long run wouldnt even be worth my grief ha ha ... yes I can understand your husbands quote ! LOL. thanks I am smiling now

I dont remember being this insane when i was a teen but i surely didnt do this to my mom ... i made food for lunch and dinner , it was alot ! told my teen just save some of it for dinner for all of us . he ate like 2-3 bowls.. when i left to go pick up my husband there was at least 10 cups of it left and when we got back there was literally a 1/2 cup left for us ! I was so angry! i told him what the hec??! he kinda just acted like why dont i just make more and it wasnt a big deal ! he is so self centered and arrogant i just can't stand him ! no wonder people always complain about teens ! teenager's are the worst ! he is supposed to live here through college??? good grief !

I feel your pain.

My boyfriend's 15-year old son is a greedy, food-thieving pig full of arrogance and ambivalence.

I wish his mother had eaten him.

I'd like to know how they put away so much food. My son is 12 & ready to pass me in height any day now. I'm not THAT short, I'm 5'4". I ordered us a large pizza to surprise him when he got home from school the other day. It's a treat since I usually prepare good home cooked meals. That amount of pizza will usually last us a couple days meals. I had 2 smaller slices for myself & when I returned to the kitchen for more, the whole pizza was gone!

While I certainly can relate to your frustration of your teenager having the 'world revolves around me' syndrome, you should also hope this is the worse it ever gets with him. I recently had to have my daughter drug screened for heroin. Fortunately it came back negative, but her best friend OD'd and had a close brush with death. I'm having a lot of behavior problems with my daughter right now (she's 15) and I wish all I had to worry about was her being selfish enough to eat everyone elses dinner.

Best of luck to both you and me!

I definitly can see that the way my son is behaving is not the worst it could be , I have read others posts about their children and I do appreciate that he isnt any worse then he is . i guess it just comes out of concern for him .

what he is doing now is sleeping all day during his winter break . and staying up all night , last night he had the nerve to say that he wanted to make him a second dinner at 7 pm .the first dinner is around 5-6 ... he says that he stays up till 4 am so it makes sense for me to do this !! can you believe this !? when i tell him that is ridiculous he tells me I am ridiculous and irrational. ?? i dont know , he is confusing me .

this morning well actually i should say it is afternoon and he is still sleeping ... i hate it . he tells me he is just doing this on his break , he doesnt have a social life because he thinks everyone is not worth being friends with . I am really frustrated and worried.. i tried to wake him saying that this isnt normal for him to be sleeping all day but he just tells me to leave him alone with this dirty look he gives me like i am disturbing him. there are no drugs involved here because he is always home and so am I so there is no way for him to get any or anything like that and .. he has no history of it .. but i hate the lazyness and the arrogance. not sure what i can do here. should I just let him be? i am really not sure if i am the one with the problem . my husband is really not there for me and he gets frustrated easily with my sons behavior . I feel like I have to keep the peace around here especially for my younger child's sake. anyway just venting . thanks.

Eating a lot...sleeping a lot? Sounds like my 13 year old daughter, who I am pretty sure I can SEE growing as she lounges on the couch all day, comandeering the remote and spouting insults at her younger brother, and occassionally, me.

I am not letting her off the hook for the rudeness (she might be trying on the bitchy woman-in-training attitude, but I am a pro, so look out), but the food/sleeping thing I write off as a growth spurt. She easily ate twice as much as me today, and while she is growing taller, she is slim as a whippet, so the food must be needed for bones or something. 3 large pieces of chocolate cake. 4 slices of pizza. Tortilla chips and guacamole. Milk (at least 3 or 4 cups of it), pear, carrots, salad, cereal, juice, rice and chick peas in vast quantities.

Be grateful your boy is home, safe and sound. If he wants a second dinner, teach him how to cook for himself (an important life skill, which will one day make him popular with women ). If he seems depressed, however (e.g. socially unconnected all the time, permanently sullen) talk to his doctor.

While I certainly can relate to your frustration of your teenager having the 'world revolves around me' syndrome, you should also hope this is the worse it ever gets with him. I recently had to have my daughter drug screened for heroin. Fortunately it came back negative, but her best friend OD'd and had a close brush with death. I'm having a lot of behavior problems with my daughter right now (she's 15) and I wish all I had to worry about was her being selfish enough to eat everyone elses dinner.

 

Best of luck to both you and me!

Really... When I think back to the crap I did when I was 15 I feel so sorry for my mom.

I think letting the eating and sleeping stuff slide is important. Make sure the house is full of healthy food though!

Pick your battles a teen can fight with you all day and they will wear you out. Concentrate on him respecting the rest of his family and be sure to give him space.

My mom wasted sooooo much energy with the "clean your room" thing while I was growing up. I think this is a way mothers try to control their kids.

well , i am trying to look at the more optomistic things about my son but some times he surely makes it difficult. right now he has made a schedual for himself , sleep all day and stay up all night , i told him to reset his schedual he said that is imposible. this morning he was still awake and he made himself breakfast... then an hour later he comes out saying that he was hungry and i told him he ate already . i was going to cook at 10 am he said i was doing it on purpous to aggravate him. i told him why can't he just wait , he says i am starving him ! what the hec LOL .. he is lready 280 lbs and he is starving ? doubt that. i told him it was just an hour . he got so angry at me he grabbed some money he had and took off to mcdonalds on his way out he slammed my door really hard . I am really angry about it and when my toddler saw him my toddler got exited and ran in my teen's room then my teen got angry and shoved him out and not so nicely . my toddler doesnt know what is going on . i feel so bad for my little guy . I am really frustrated not sure how to handle this since my teen wont listen to me :/

what the hec LOL .. he is lready 280 lbs and he is starving ? doubt that.

I find it really disturbing that you failed to mention in your original post that you 15 year old son is getting close to 300 pounds.

Regardless how tall he is right now he has to be extremely over weight. This sheds an entire new light on his behavior. You had better start to come up with a plan to change his diet immediately because weighing that much is unacceptable.

I find it really disturbing that you failed to mention in your original post that you 15 year old son is getting close to 300 pounds.

 

Regardless how tall he is right now he has to be extremely over weight. This sheds an entire new light on his behavior. You had better start to come up with a plan to change his diet immediately because weighing that much is unacceptable.

he is 17 . yes it is definitly unacceptable weight but his attitude has been this way before his weight gain . we have encouraged him as a family to lose the weight , and we are cooking very healthy meals . he just refuses to eat them . I dont make anything else for him he usually eats what i make eventually but when i am not at home he will eat whatever and how much he wants to . so it is difficult.

i dont know what you mean when you say I "failed" to mention it like i did something intentionally ? lol .. i didnt mention it because i didnt think it pertains to his attitude issues. maybe it does . but i know other overweight teenagers that dont behave this way .

i am still concerned about his behavior but i am starting to understand the advice of some responding here on my post. basically it isnt anything worse so maybe i should just back off. I have been really upset with this sleeping thing maybe i am just pushing too much . he does tell me matter of factly that he has no school rightnow and when school starts his schedual will re=set .. he is confusing me reallly .. he makes me feel like I am the one freaking out about nothing. myhusband says if I keep pushing i will push him to do worse things. basically leave well enough alone . I guess. so maybe I will back off a few days .

we have encouraged him as a family to lose the weight , and we are cooking very healthy meals . he just refuses to eat them . I dont make anything else for him he usually eats what i make eventually but when i am not at home he will eat whatever and how much he wants to . so it is difficult.

Huh? What now? Is he eating? And what are healthy meals? 10 cups of a healthy meal is still too much on most occasions. And where does he get the food from when you're not there?

I i made food for lunch and dinner , it was alot ! told my teen just save some of it for dinner for all of us . he ate like 2-3 bowls.. when i left to go pick up my husband there was at least 10 cups of it left and when we got back there was literally a 1/2 cup left for us ! I was so angry! i told him what the hec??! he kinda just acted like why dont i just make more and it wasnt a big deal ! he is so self centered and arrogant i just can't stand him ! no wonder people always complain about teens ! teenager's are the worst ! he is supposed to live here through college??? good grief !

Well first you write this... and we all thing he is just a growing teenage boy and that could all be normal...

Then we find out he is going over the 270lbs mark! Do you realize that he is not just "overweight" but is most likely classified as obese? If he is 6 feet tall what would give him a BMI of over 36!

i dont know what you mean when you say I "failed" to mention it like i did something intentionally ? lol .. i didnt mention it because i didnt think it pertains to his attitude issues. maybe it does . but i know other overweight teenagers that dont behave this way .

So yes I do think you have left out very important and vital information to this issue. This completely changes my opinion on this whole thing.

Your son is fat and lazy and you should do something about it. There psychological and physical damage being done to him right now because of his weight.

Well first you write this... and we all thing he is just a growing teenage boy and that could all be normal...

 

Then we find out he is going over the 270lbs mark! Do you realize that he is not just "overweight" but is most likely classified as obese? If he is 6 feet tall what would give him a BMI of over 36!

 

 

 

 

So yes I do think you have left out very important and vital information to this issue. This completely changes my opinion on this whole thing.

 

Your son is fat and lazy and you should do something about it. There psychological and physical damage being done to him right now because of his weight.

( that post you were referring to ~ i was upset about him eating it all did you read the whole thing?) .. anyway ~ok .. thanks alot.

he would have a big tamtrum that in the long run wouldnt even be worth my grief ha ha ...

gee...and you wonder why his behaviour doesn't change. hmmm, why could that possibly be?

Hi,

he is so self centered and arrogant i just can't stand him ! no wonder people always complain about teens ! teenager's are the worst ! he is supposed to live here through college??? good grief !

I have a teenager son, 17 now, and I never, not once had an argument with him.

We are closer than ever, and he is the most loving son you can ask for.

But in your case, I'd never get angry at him for eating. I'd come home and make some more.

Ariadne

Hi,

 

he is so self centered and arrogant i just can't stand him ! no wonder people always complain about teens ! teenager's are the worst ! he is supposed to live here through college??? good grief !

 

I have a teenager son, 17 now, and I never, not once had an argument with him.

 

We are closer than ever, and he is the most loving son you can ask for.

 

But in your case, I'd never get angry at him for eating. I'd come home and make some more.

 

Ariadne

lol .. that's sweet . my teenager is a good person just absolutely self centered and arrogant like you said but i still love him oh and ps , if your son is perfect .. then you don't know everything about him .

gee...and you wonder why his behaviour doesn't change. hmmm, why could that possibly be?

well what do you suggest ? funny being overweight changes everything huh . well people , as annoyed as I sound I still love my son and i dont mean everything literally all the time . I am not that serious of a person but i do like to vent out things i am frustrated about and i am surely not alone with these types of situations.

I do apreciate all the support i get from here. and I also appreciate the sarchasm too LOL~ cause it teaches me alot about people .

well , my son says his schedual will be back to normal when school starts in a week . so we shall see. he is watching his weight too and seems to be slowly losing the weight.he has been but i didnt get a chance to type it LOL . i think maybe i am overeating to his behavior because from the way some are reacting on here .. gee it kinda reminds me of how i have been acting such as ~ a rush to judgement, ect~ so thanks i am putting on my mellow hat and seeing how that goes. I think i may be stressing myself out for nothing .

I still eat an incredible ammount of food. I was and still am a very slender bodied person but when I was a teenager I used to pour myself and entire box of cerial for breakfast and still be hungry for more. I could eat two entire large pizza's on my own.

well what do you suggest ? funny being overweight changes everything huh . well people , as annoyed as I sound I still love my son and i dont mean everything literally all the time . I am not that serious of a person but i do like to vent out things i am frustrated about and i am surely not alone with these types of situations.

 

It sounds like you are gravely underestimating the physical and psychological repercussions of being that over weight at his age.

Mh. So this was just a little rant without really asking for help? Maybe put it in the personal rant section, next time.

If your son is staying at home the entire time he might have more problems with other people than you know. And in highschool this may very well be related to his weight, too.

This is just one example of the many problems your son may already have.

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/22595760/

Most people would not be very happy about their teen smoking because it is unhealthy and being overweight carries many risks as well.

The fact that your son doesn't socialise 'because he doesn't think there's anyone worth being friends with', sounds more to me like he's having trouble forming friendships?

And yes, the sad fact is that it could well be related to his weight issue. Surely you must see his weight is an issue? It's not healthy?

Perhaps he's not as happy as you think? And that, most likely, is feeding into his behaviour and his eating habits.

Time to do something about it. If you ask me... which I guess you didn't.

Mh. So this was just a little rant without really asking for help? Maybe put it in the personal rant section, next time.

 

If your son is staying at home the entire time he might have more problems with other people than you know. And in highschool this may very well be related to his weight, too.

Actually it was me looking for support , but not help only I can help myself and only we can help ourselves. I stayed at home all the time when i was a teenager , i was popular just enjoyed relaxing at home so i can see it means different things to different people. It probobly isnt a good thing in his case to be at home all the time , i am aware of that but i am also aware that it is better then him out there drinking and partying and such . he is focused on school and going to college.