So sad

Well my girlfriend and I just broke up. We had a huge arguement about something that ive done thats really horriable. I think every one knows what it is. (not cheating but looking up some stuff on the computer) well she completely loved me for the last 3 or 4 months. we've been hanging out and were "friend with privialges". I hurts me so much that she broke up with me and I really want her abck. She said yesterday that she was going to take me back but we got in a small biccerment and I think she said that to tease me. Well she said a while ago that she would go back out with me if I can get my linsence and a job. Im trying hard but I want her back before i get those things. Any help?

My advice to you is to get your life in order before pursuing anyone, her or otherwise. Women don't tend to look for men that are "projects" so to speak. Get things going for yourself, to prove that you can take care of yourself, and only want a woman in your life to share you life, not fix it. Sorry if my language seems a bit blunt, but it was the only way I could think to put it, and be honest.

Good luck,

Jennifer

Women don't tend to look for men that are "projects" so to speak.

Hmm. I've actually heard the opposite. I heard some women subconsciously like to be with "imperfect" men and try to fix/change them so that they become "perfect." It gives them some twisted sense of accomplishment or something.

To Rikimaru, what do you mean by "look up stuff on the computer?" You don't mean look at porn, do you? If she's going to break up with you for looking at porn, you probably don't want to be with her anyway. Who needs an uptight chick like that?

Women don't tend to look for men that are "projects" so to speak.

Uh... most women do look for *projects* - especially those women who have low self-esteem and who *need* a fixer-upper guy to make them feel *special*.

Uh... most women do look for *projects* - especially those women who have low self-esteem and who *need* a fixer-upper guy to make them feel *special*.

Smooch you know this because of your recent sex change??

Smooch you know this because of your recent sex change??

 

What are you talking about?

I get a4a's comment. Want me to explain it to you? What's with the "most women" comment, Smooch? Are you or were you ever a woman? How the hell do you know what MOST women want?

I'll tell you as a woman, what most women want...we want MEN to stop telling us what most of us want! Got it now?

I get a4a's comment. Want me to explain it to you? What's with the "most women" comment, Smooch? Are you or were you ever a woman? How the hell do you know what MOST women want?

 

I'll tell you as a woman, what most women want...we want MEN to stop telling us what most of us want! Got it now?

True, but this gal seems to want a little something else from the men as well:lmao:

I get a4a's comment. Want me to explain it to you? What's with the "most women" comment, Smooch? Are you or were you ever a woman? How the hell do you know what MOST women want?

 

I'll tell you as a woman, what most women want...we want MEN to stop telling us what most of us want! Got it now?

No, I don't think you get MY comment.

Let's flip this around, shall we? How many WOMEN come on here and say "all men THIS or all men THAT?" Hmmm?

So... to all those women out there who have done that - Are you or were you ever a MAN? How the hell do you know what MOST men want? And so forth...

How many times have we read comments from women stating how ALL men are *** based on their experiences with one or a few men?

If women can come on here and make ridiculous generalisations about men then it is equally fair for men to come on here and do the same about women.

Get it now?

No, I don't think you get MY comment.

 

Let's flip this around, shall we? How many WOMEN come on here and say "all men THIS or all men THAT?" Hmmm?

 

So... to all those women out there who have done that - Are you or were you ever a MAN? How the hell do you know what MOST men want? And so forth...

 

How many times have we read comments from women stating how ALL men are *** based on their experiences with one or a few men?

 

If women can come on here and make ridiculous generalisations about men then it is equally fair for men to come on here and do the same about women.

 

Get it now?

Sometimes it's just too much negative effort to "get" anything about you SF.

No, I don't think you get MY comment.

 

Let's flip this around, shall we? How many WOMEN come on here and say "all men THIS or all men THAT?" Hmmm?

 

So... to all those women out there who have done that - Are you or were you ever a MAN? How the hell do you know what MOST men want? And so forth...

 

How many times have we read comments from women stating how ALL men are *** based on their experiences with one or a few men?

 

If women can come on here and make ridiculous generalisations about men then it is equally fair for men to come on here and do the same about women.

 

Get it now?

No YOU don't get it. Where and when did I ever say it was ok for women to make those kinds of statements? I didn't. According to you though, two wrongs make a right. So it's ok for YOU to do it. Yeah, I think I get your twisted logic now...it's twisted.

So any woman who has ever gotten with you sees you as a "project." BOY do they have their work cut out for them! You're the mother of all projects if that's what women want. Guess you're in high demand then aren't cha?

Sometimes it's just too much negative effort to "get" anything about you SF.

All right, so what do you want to know? What would it take for you to *get* anything about me without it being any sort of *negative effort*?

Back to my point... is what I posted true or not? Ditch the subjectivities and be strictly objective here.

All right, so what do you want to know? What would it take for you to *get* anything about me without it being any sort of *negative effort*?

 

Back to my point... is what I posted true or not? Ditch the subjectivities and be strictly objective here.

No it's not true. It's idiotic. I made my point already. If your stupid theory were true women would be crawling all over you now wouldn't they? (And we all know they're not.) I mean you'd be the mother of all projects!

I rest my case.

All right, so what do you want to know? What would it take for you to *get* anything about me without it being any sort of *negative effort*?

 

Back to my point... is what I posted true or not? Ditch the subjectivities and be strictly objective here.

Speaking strickly from a personal perspective, I wouldn't want a fixer upper!

I want someone who knows who they are and knows what they want. A great sense of humor, a brilliant mind and alot of self confidence goes a long for me as well. Is that specific enough for your question...

No YOU don't get it. Where and when did I ever say it was ok for women to make those kinds of statements? I didn't. According to you though' date=' two wrongs make a right. So it's ok for YOU to do it. Yeah, I think I get your twisted logic now...it's twisted.[/quote']

 

For every action there is an equal reaction. Nothing *twisted* about it.

 

It IS ok for me to do it if the other party isn't *called out* on it. If they are *right* then I am *irght* just as well.

 

 

So any woman who has ever gotten with you sees you as a "project."

 

That's an incorrect statement. I said MOST women so that means that not all women who have been with me were looking for a project. Only one did - and she left me because I didn't *slap her around*. She wanted a guy who would abuse her because that is all she ever knew. Needless to say, I declined her request.

 

 

BOY do they have their work cut out for them! You're the mother of all projects if that's what women want. Guess you're in high demand then aren't cha?

 

Pure illogical emotional blathering that has absolutely no basis in reality.

Just a curious question SF - are you an attorney by any chance????

No it's not true. It's idiotic. I made my point already. If your stupid theory were true women would be crawling all over you now wouldn't they? (And we all know they're not.) I mean you'd be the mother of all projects!

 

I rest my case.

Well then if my theory is idiotic then so is your statement about me being the *mother of all projects*. Completely illogical, right?

For every action there is an equal reaction. Nothing *twisted* about it.

 

It IS ok for me to do it if the other party isn't *called out* on it. If they are *right* then I am *irght* just as well.

 

 

 

 

That's an incorrect statement. I said MOST women so that means that not all women who have been with me were looking for a project. Only one did - and she left me because I didn't *slap her around*. She wanted a guy who would abuse her because that is all she ever knew. Needless to say, I declined her request.

 

 

 

 

Pure illogical emotional blathering that has absolutely no basis in reality.

Totally agree on that last point. It was a statement made and based on YOUR logic - based on YOUR statement. You said it yourself "pure illogical emotional blathering." Now stop it!

Well then if my theory is idiotic then so is your statement about me being the *mother of all projects*. Completely illogical, right?

You finally get it now. I'm speaking in YOUR terms and you're calling me on it. Very good.

Just a curious question SF - are you an attorney by any chance????

What an insult to ALL attorneys!

What an insult to ALL attorneys!

Just a hunch from his/her (he he) argumentative nature....

Just a curious question SF - are you an attorney by any chance????

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Damn, she figured it out!

Seriously, no I am not. What relevance does that have to the discussion?

Look... I operate based on logic. The instant that someone resorts to emotional blathering that's when the whistle is blown. Credibility takes a major hit when illogical emotions come into play.

So when someone says that I am the *mother of all projects* I know right away that the speaker is relying on a strictly illogical and emotional thought process. First off, how do you define the *mother of all projects*? How can you conclude that a person qualifies for that honour when you do not know every single human being on the planet? It may be quite possible that there may be another person out there who would qualify much more for that title therefore by concluding that I am the *mother of all projects* is an illogical statement that has no basis in reality.

Just a hunch from his/her (he he) argumentative nature....

No offense, sunny but it's a bad hunch. Attorneys make LOGICAL arguments. At least the good ones do anyway.

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Damn, she figured it out!

 

Seriously, no I am not. What relevance does that have to the discussion?

 

Look... I operate based on logic. The instant that someone resorts to emotional blathering that's when the whistle is blown. Credibility takes a major hit when illogical emotions come into play.

 

So when someone says that I am the *mother of all projects* I know right away that the speaker is relying on a strictly illogical and emotional thought process. First off, how do you define the *mother of all projects*? How can you conclude that a person qualifies for that honour when you do not know every single human being on the planet? It may be quite possible that there may be another person out there who would qualify much more for that title therefore by concluding that I am the *mother of all projects* is an illogical statement that has no basis in reality.

Sorry I hit a nerve...I call 'em as I see 'em. Call it emotional, illogical..call it what you want. My instincts have always been good. I stand by my statement.

Have a great day!

You finally get it now. I'm speaking in YOUR terms and you're calling me on it. Very good.

You STILL aren't *getting it*.

*sigh*

All right, I'm gonna help you out here. Google the term *mirroring* and read up on it. When you are through then come back here and do some searching on all the posts that say things such as "all men are ***" by women and let me know what you think of it.