riobikini Posted January 21, 2006 Posted January 21, 2006 NOTE: The following post is from another thread I answered to someone else recently, dealing with left-over love emotions unreciprocated by an ex-partner. I have posted a link for the reply I gave at the bottom, which may be helpful to those going through a similar situation. Here is the post by 'NotMakingSense': Rio -- Looks like I'm getting to this thread quite late, but I'd like to talk about NC when you just are not having any success in convincing your *heart* that the relationship would not have worked, and when the only reason your *mind* is convinced it won't work is because your ex didn't feel the same way about you. To me, this is the roughest situation to be in. NC in this scenario is standing up for yourself and saying "well, if I'm not good enough for you, then you aren't good enough for me!" Yet -- the agony of all the "why's" ensues... "why can't (s)he see things my way?", "why doesn't (s)he see that this is as good as it gets?", why, why, why....? And when you think (s)he is the best you can hope for, it is hard to convince your heart that there are other fish in the sea.... I'm drifting in my thoughts, but strict NC when *you* aren't convinced that your relationship wouldn't work is very tough... Here is the link to my reply: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showpost.php?p=686039&postcount=4
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