number of sexual partners?

Of course -- this has been the only real "judgment" I have derived empirically as well about people with that many sex partners. But I would still not say that what that person is doing is "wrong." Is it wrong to be emotionally closed off? I would say not -- but it sure isn't very convenient for someone who wants a LTR with that person.

 

Either way I am not going to look at a woman who's been with hundreds of men and just assume that she's some morally blameworthy individual who is somehow worthy of being deemed inferior.

I would say that the difference is that stepping on kittens/stealing things negatively affects others and decreases the utility of social optima. Having safe, consensual sex with multiple partners really hurts nobody and does not violate any sort of fundamental human rights. At this point it would become a preference with respect to whether or not we'd want to date someone whose traits fall within correlation of that type of sexual lifestyle choice.

This.

By the way, stating "how is it NOT immoral?" over and over is not a counter-argument.

I also judge people who are in the skin industry, as using counterproductive methods, to compensate and will openly admit that predatory individuals who have no morals when it comes to other peoples' relationships, I judge as inferior.

I'm sorry -- I didn't quite understand what you meant here. Who's compensating for what? What does this have to do with the relationships of others? Why judge as inferior?

You would consider me an immoral person for that. Of course, that's a duh. I would as well. Funny, you have a right to consider that immoral, but I don't considering someone promiscuous? To me, they are both bad.

 

Luckily, I don't steal anything, and I love kittens/cats. I'm not even that religious, but it's still a no-brainer, to realize getting into high digits of sexual partners is not a good thing. How does that not speak volumes?

 

Also, doesn't matter if they do other nice things such as volunteer work etc. What does that have to do with this? I mean that's great, but come on. I'm not saying they are bad people in general, it's just bad to be that promiscuous.

you don't approve of it, so you think it's bad. immoral, by your standards, not necessarily by others' standards.

Female. 22 years old. 11 partners. 3 in exclusive, long-term relationships. 3 in friends with benefits / open relationships. 5 one-night stands.

Personally, I think the ones that had quite a high amt of sex partners/flings, etc....actually feel guilty about it, esp. when they come across someone who is willing to wait until that special someone, as oppose to having a fling with them.

 

Often times, they feel bad about the fact that they didn't wait or feel guilty about the fact they've been around the block multiple times they feel the need to make fun of those who are willing to wait it out.

I haven't had a huge number of partners, but I certainly don't feel guilty or regret anything. AND... I'm seeing someone who is waiting until marriage to have sex. I respect his decision, and he respects the fact that I've been with other people. I think normal, sane people are able to accept each other regardless of trivial past details.

Also, I read this whole thread, and I don't think I saw anybody making fun of people who haven't had many partners.

11 and only by the age of 22? Yikes....how many of those were in Highschool?

Only one was in high school. Does that make it better or worse? Hahaha.

I admit I feel like only having had 2 partners at my age is probably a bit low. I'm a somewhat shy dude, but meh.

female 57, I beat everyone here..

OK.. then .. since everyone has given a number and has been (I think) honest about it.. I will give my number.. as it is the topic of this thread..

Female, 57, been single for the last 7 years.. 2 long term relationships.. that lasted almost my entire adulthood (25 to 50).

Other sexual partners including flings, short term relationships, ONS, FWB... 300+ If you call that bragging..so be it.. this is MY number..

Please STAY on topic. Think about it this way, disagreements about this thread is another opportunity to begin a new thread in the appropriate forum.

Anymore moderating and I will close this thread.

Thanks!

Male, 45, stopped counting or lost count at 25, though not too many more than that, most in shorter relationships of 6 months or less.

Wow...admins actually moderate threads when they get de-railed....that's a first.

OK.. then .. since everyone has given a number and has been (I think) honest about it.. I will give my number.. as it is the topic of this thread..

 

Female, 57, been single for the last 7 years.. 2 long term relationships.. that lasted almost my entire adulthood (25 to 50).

 

Other sexual partners including flings, short term relationships, ONS, FWB... 300+ If you call that bragging..so be it.. this is MY number..

it's not bragging if you are a woman. it would only be bragging from a man

F 20 yrs old 3 partners 1 was a relationship

Female, 20 years old, virgin, never been kissed either!!!

Male, 41

8 total

1 marriage

2 other relationships

the rest flings and ONS mostly since my divorce.. have a feeling that may continue for a while

Not the busiest guy .. chalk that up to the way I was raised.

Female, 24

3 total and all 3 were relationships!

m, 3, all relationships.

F, 26, 8 total

4 relationships

2 short term relationships

2 ONS

Male, 35 years old

4 partners

2 girlfriends in high school

1 marriage (15 years)

1 sexual relationship post marriage

Female, 34 (will be 35 in a few weeks), married. Have only been with my husband since meeting him when I was 30.

I could still reconstruct the list, full names and contexts, if I took the time to really think about it, but I haven't thought about it in years. It doesn't matter.

My number is about thirty and includes a few women. And no, I don't feel bad about it in any way, why would I? Human beings are sexual. I always used protection and have never had an STD. For the most part I have been in relationships and when in relationships I have chosen to be monogamous and faithful...however, I have also enjoyed several flings and a few ONS.

My husband's number and stats are roughly the same. Personally I think it's good that we both had time and opportunity to sow our wild oats before we met and married, you so often hear about couples who marry when young and inexperienced and regret that later, frequently leading to infidelity and divorce.

F, 23, single.

i have only had 1 sexual partner, who was my exbf ("long term relationship"); we were on and off for about 6 years, and i have not slept with anyone else.

i seriously need to get moving with this; how embarrassing.

F, 23, single.

 

i have only had 1 sexual partner, who was my exbf ("long term relationship"); we were on and off for about 6 years, and i have not slept with anyone else.

 

i seriously need to get moving with this; how embarrassing.

I am 23 as well and have only had two -- sometimes I felt as if things haven't been moving fast enough, but at the end of the day, I realize it honestly just doesn't matter! As long as one is happy and fulfilled, the past is past.

sometimes I felt as if things haven't been moving fast enough, but at the end of the day, I realize it honestly just doesn't matter! As long as one is happy and fulfilled, the past is past.

People put far too much emphasis on such things(which really don't matter).

aww, thank you. that is sweet of you to say, especially considering that i am pretty embarrassed by the fact that i have only been with one guy, at my age.

 

but thanks! you're always so sweet.

Don't be embarrassed, nothing to be ashamed of. I'm a year younger than you and I've only slept with two guys. I'd without a doubt prefer that to having slept around and miss out on a great guy. Like Pyro said, the next one you find is a very lucky guy.