Well It's over with the Med School Girl after getting this email today

"hey

I really do apologize for not returning your phone calls...there is no excuseand I'm sorry. I don't want you to worry about me because I'm fine. I just finished my exams yesterday and feel pretty good about them. I will head home to Columbus Tomorrow. I appreciate your kindness and sincerity, but I have to be honest with you. I don't really feel "chemistry" when we are together. I don't mind spending time with you or even talking on the phone but I don't fee like there is any romantic attraction. I guess I shouldn't have waited so long to sa anything but I guess I was trying to take the wait and see approach. If you decide that you don't think it' a good idea to talk anymore, I will respct your wishes. It's completely up to you. I do wish you all the happiness in the world and a happy holidays".

Hope to hear from you soon.

So that's my dating life, again home alone with no one because I have no dating skills.

but I guess I was trying to take the wait and see approach.

What was she waiting for?? Someone fill in the blanks?

She's talking about this as if this was some sort of method.

I am uncertain what she meant by the "Wait and see approach"

 

What was she waiting for?? Someone fill in the blanks?

 

She's talking about this as if this was some sort of method.

Well I never really flirted with her because that's not something I'm used to doing. So maybe she thought that would eventually change but it never did.

Props to her though. That's a nice and honest e-mail. She seems like a kind person.

At least you know where you're standing now!

I am uncertain what she meant by the "Wait and see approach"

 

What was she waiting for?? Someone fill in the blanks?

*facepalms*

What don't you get, Bells???!?!?! Jeez.

"Wait and see" means she didn't feel chemistry from the get go, but was "waiting and seeing" if those feelings would develop. They didn't, unfortunately.

Yep, waiting and seeing means she has some substance to her, Bells. It means she thought John was a pretty cool guy and she wanted to see if romantic feelings would develop. You would think she was shallow if she dismissed him outright due to lack of chemistry.

"hey

 

I really do apologize for not returning your phone calls...there is no excuseand I'm sorry. I don't want you to worry about me because I'm fine. I just finished my exams yesterday and feel pretty good about them. I will head home to Columbus Tomorrow. I appreciate your kindness and sincerity, but I have to be honest with you. I don't really feel "chemistry" when we are together. I don't mind spending time with you or even talking on the phone but I don't fee like there is any romantic attraction. I guess I shouldn't have waited so long to sa anything but I guess I was trying to take the wait and see approach. If you decide that you don't think it' a good idea to talk anymore, I will respct your wishes. It's completely up to you. I do wish you all the happiness in the world and a happy holidays".

 

Hope to hear from you soon.

 

 

 

 

So that's my dating life, again home alone with no one because I have no dating skills.

I guess, you would get brilliant advices already ,

have no time to read them all ,

all I wanna say is just

Do not break your heart and do not make harsh decisions like you are alone again,you`re so unlucky with girls and so on ..

It was just hers and yours ,

It does not mean same will happen again with some other girl .

I appreciate her honesty that she told you about chemistry she had not felt . Better to cut at the start than to go on and then to break up .

There is no chemistry between you and this girl ? No problem ! There will be chemistry between you and some other girl . And you will meet her soon . Just do not stress yourself by your negative thoughts.

Best of luck !

*facepalms*

 

What don't you get, Bells???!?!?! Jeez.

 

"Wait and see" means she didn't feel chemistry from the get go, but was "waiting and seeing" if those feelings would develop. They didn't, unfortunately.

So...wait, she doesn't contact him or return his calls,and avoids him. How can you "wait and see" if feelings would develop if she was ignoring him and not going out with him? That's the only time feelings could develop if she was with him.

It's just a BS response she made, that's what I was getting at. Romantic feelings can't develop if she's avoiding him.

She never had feelings for him to begin with, she was just afraid to say anything, or was just waiting to get the courage to say something........finally.

So...wait, she doesn't contact him or return his calls,and avoids him. How can you "wait and see" if feelings would develop if she was ignoring him and not going out with him? That's the only time feelings could develop if she was with him.

 

It's just a BS response she made, that's what I was getting at. Romantic feelings can't develop if she's avoiding him.

 

She never had feelings for him to begin with, she was just afraid to say anything, or was just waiting to get the courage to say something........finally.

OMG. Are you seriously missing this?!?!?

She was doing the "wait and see" EARLIER when they were going through the motions of dating. Once she confirmed that the chemistry wasn't there and wasn't going to ever be there, THAT is when she started avoiding him because she didn't know how to tell him that.

Do you have AS??? Honestly, do you???

That is a really nice email for her to send you. You will be fine. As another poster said, it didn't happen with this girl but it will happen with another! Chin up!

She didn't say you didn't have any dating skills; she just didn't feel the chemistry she should to continue dating you.

Wow, that might be the most honest and kind rejection email I've seen.

Sorry to hear it though.

OMG. Are you seriously missing this?!?!?

 

She was doing the "wait and see" EARLIER when they were going through the motions of dating. Once she confirmed that the chemistry wasn't there and wasn't going to ever be there, THAT is when she started avoiding him because she didn't know how to tell him that.

 

Do you have AS??? Honestly, do you???

Woops...sorry, I admit my mishap. I misread it.

Im sorry luv, at least she didnt lead you on and then left you figuring out what you did wrong. Done let one person spoil it for you, theres plenty of other women who who appreciate you. and vice versa

OP, there's a lesson here. Having followed this saga, you and she had/have different energy levels and perspectives. We seemed to be forever pushing your forward, myself because I had an instinct that she saw your romantic energy as glacial in pace and eventually she'd see the light of incompatibility.

The important thing is that you are not defective, wrong or bad; conversely, you now know more about yourself and can approach a more compatible woman the next time. My instinct is you found a 'keeper' but you each weren't right for each other. It happens

Next time, when the woman gives you signals that she enjoys you, move forward; take risks. Be a Hoover

That is a really nice email for her to send you.

 

She didn't say you didn't have any dating skills; she just didn't feel the chemistry she should to continue dating you.

Wow, that might be the most honest and kind rejection email I've seen.

The important thing is that you are not defective, wrong or bad; conversely, you now know more about yourself and can approach a more compatible woman the next time. My instinct is you found a 'keeper' but you each weren't right for each other. It happens

I agree with all of the above.

I've sent several emails like hers. For her to even say what she did means she respects and admires you, you just weren't the right for for one another.

You'll be fine.

OP, there's a lesson here. Having followed this saga, you and she had/have different energy levels and perspectives. We seemed to be forever pushing your forward, myself because I had an instinct that she saw your romantic energy as glacial in pace and eventually she'd see the light of incompatibility.

 

The important thing is that you are not defective, wrong or bad; conversely, you now know more about yourself and can approach a more compatible woman the next time. My instinct is you found a 'keeper' but you each weren't right for each other. It happens

 

Next time, when the woman gives you signals that she enjoys you, move forward; take risks. Be a Hoover

You mean situations like this?

We were sitting inside the restarunt across the street from my apt

her: So that's your apt building right there?

me: yes

So I was supposed to invite her over?

Not unless you had kissed her first

Not unless you had kissed her first

So her putting lip gloss meant she wanted me to kiss her? I don' think so

I think she did exactly what she had to do.. it was an honest and nice email.

So I was supposed to invite her over?

So her putting lip gloss meant she wanted me to kiss her? I don' think so

I'm curious about this as well actually... I don't usually read it as a sign that a woman wants to be kissed... more as a general female grooming thing. I am wrong??

Read fewer signs and take more action. John was with a type A person and moved too slow for her. What a woman puts on her lips isn't a man's problem. She has more in that tube to apply later if needed. In fact, there are whole stores which stock nothing but an endless supply of such products. My wife lives in them

As R_P said, they just weren't a good match...